Having to leave facial hair growing for three days in order to get it removed by electrolysis!

BB

Willow

Well I thinked until I thunked myself out and I cannot thankes no more. Actually I can't think of anything bad. my life has been more ordered and happy then ever before, and I love me. I AM WOMAN All 120 lbs of her.

Cindy

Re: Things that hurt about being TS ?


trying to hide the perishing thing if your like me, pre op!

it's hard to find someone to love and not being able to get pregnant- but life has many other great things to offer, like adopting a child.

Hi Tanya1
I love children to, I had 11 or them go under my roof  through the years and I looked after most of the kids on the rez when I lived there,  especially on bingo nights.

Well right now I am looking into running a drop in for Trans  people and if that don't go though I have also been given the opportunity to work with kids.

Cindy

Quote from: cindybc on January 06, 2008, 07:10:20 PM
Hi Tanya1
I love children to, I had 11 or them go under my roof  through the years and I looked after most of the kids on the rez when I lived there,  especially on bingo nights.

Well right now I am looking into running a drop in for Trans  people and if that don't go though I have also been given the opportunity to work with kids.

Cindy

thats really great Cindy, I love children too, they can get annoying but some of them are soo sweet, I want my own daughter but I guess I might have to adopt.

blessings to you

I hate the fact that none of my family will understand what I have to go through. And that I have missed my child hood...

I will never be my parents son.

I will never truely be "dad".

Awwww Jaston hon, you'll do Ok, just follow your heart and listen to the little voice within and let it guide you. ((((HUGS))))

Cindy

Quote from: Jaston on January 07, 2008, 03:50:39 AM
I hate the fact that none of my family will understand what I have to go through. And that I have missed my child hood...

I will never be my parents son.

I will never truely be "dad".

keep your head high

Losing a daughter. Losing a career. Losing my brother. Nearly losing my Mom. Living in a different lifestyle than I was accustomed to as a privileged man. Poor body image. Having to start over in my 50s.
However, there are things I like better now...another topic?

Quote from: nickie on January 08, 2008, 06:40:28 PM
Losing a daughter. Losing a career. Losing my brother. Nearly losing my Mom. Living in a different lifestyle than I was accustomed to as a privileged man. Poor body image. Having to start over in my 50s.
However, there are things I like better now...another topic?

Nickie, for someone starting out at such a late stage in your life you look exceptionally natural and attractive in your profile photograph.

Overall I'm a happier person, but thats not what this thread is about.

I do get a little depressed about missing out on my high school years as female.  I was too busy hiding in books and being a loner because I hated myself.  Not dating and going to prom especially. 

Also it sucks being asked out on a date by someone (someone way cute and funny too  ) and then having them opt out after learning I am trans.   
yeah that was sucky.

Oh and parents and family disowning me.  If they would put their bibles down and pull their heads out of their you know whats, they would realize that I am actually happy with who i am for the first time in my life.  But they weren't supportive anyway when i was a boy so no dif there.

Getting excluded from family events.  I wasn't invited to my parents 20th wedding anniversary, in fact I wasn't even told about it.  My brothers getting married this summer, and I highly doubt I will go.  My parents and most of my bros and sisters haven't seen me since making the transistion, and I don't want to cause a stir and get blamed for "ruining the wedding".

Audrey

Quote from: Audrey on January 11, 2008, 05:05:46 PM
Overall I'm a happier person, but thats not what this thread is about.

I do get a little depressed about missing out on my high school years as female.  I was too busy hiding in books and being a loner because I hated myself.  Not dating and going to prom especially. 

Also it sucks being asked out on a date by someone (someone way cute and funny too  ) and then having them opt out after learning I am trans.   
yeah that was sucky.

Oh and parents and family disowning me.  If they would put their bibles down and pull their heads out of their you know whats, they would realize that I am actually happy with who i am for the first time in my life.  But they weren't supportive anyway when i was a boy so no dif there.

Getting excluded from family events.  I wasn't invited to my parents 20th wedding anniversary, in fact I wasn't even told about it.  My brothers getting married this summer, and I highly doubt I will go.  My parents and most of my bros and sisters haven't seen me since making the transistion, and I don't want to cause a stir and get blamed for "ruining the wedding".

Audrey

It's a hard one Audrey but an all too familiar story. I'm sure a lot of us have similar stories to tell.

They have made a deliberate attempt to exclude you from a wedding anniversary and an up and coming wedding and this is probably because they can't handle the situation and are scared to face the reality that you might for once in your life be happy.

The decision about if you should go along to the wedding is yours but you could go along and keep a low profile and just look like one of guests or not bother about it at all. They have made no effort to make you welcome or support you through a difficult time.

I'll echo what a lot of other people have said on here. To me what hurts most is the fact that I'll never be a mom, and that I feel like I was robbed of my childhood. Facing the prospect of always being an outcast unless I can be 100% passable and stealth also sucks.

The childhood part is big on me. I mean... When I shed more light on myself, I instantly thought of that. Most people jump to the two big things like that. Motherhood/Childhood seem like two of the first noticed.


Er... Maybeh

Right now myself image is tearing me apart. I never thought it could get worse. Lost time and what could have been bothers me lot lately.   Too bad life doesn't have an undo button. Maybe it will pass with time. Most of the stuff already mention hurts too.

Take care,
Anna

Mostly the lack of childhood, but also, being put into boxes by others out of misplaced paternalism, especially since this is not the kind of thing they do to others (ie it intentionally seeks you out).

Hi Schala, did you say you lack some childhood? Wanna buy some? $1:00 per jar full. 

Interestingly enough, I have not forgotten any of my childhood. I'm glad I didn't, it's kind of nice and fun to travel back in time and revisit my childhood, and my mischieviousness.

Cindy

Not having transitioned, feeling invisible. As a male there is nothing there to reveal, and I can reveal nothing about the woman behind facade.

Quote from: annajasmine on January 23, 2008, 05:06:19 PM
Right now myself image is tearing me apart. I never thought it could get worse. Lost time and what could have been bothers me lot lately.   Too bad life doesn't have an undo button. Maybe it will pass with time. Most of the stuff already mention hurts too.

Take care,
Anna

Quote from: Schala on January 23, 2008, 05:14:58 PM
Mostly the lack of childhood, but also, being put into boxes by others out of misplaced paternalism, especially since this is not the kind of thing they do to others (ie it intentionally seeks you out).

Quote from: anne_indy on January 26, 2008, 05:38:02 PM
Not having transitioned, feeling invisible. As a male there is nothing there to reveal, and I can reveal nothing about the woman behind facade.

ow wow all very valid reasons,
Have you ever asked your self why you feel this way, I sat down 6 months ago and wrote a 40 page essay on how GID has destroyed my life and its really frightning when you start digging a little deeper.

I do simathise and understand you all, I feel the same way and wish I could turn the clocks back, but PMA is the way forward, Posotive Mental Atitude.

Thats right it is the same for every one of us, a killer, and very oftern is as well.