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I feel sick with conforming. :(

Started by kallaran, November 14, 2016, 05:33:24 AM

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kallaran

I don't want to wear male clothes. I feel so uncomfortable when I do so and I am doing so now.

I have been conforming for a while and I am about to burst.

I wish I could toss all these icky males clothes away and wear something that feels a little more like me. I want to put on make up , wear dresses , skirts and etc. The side of me that wants to do that is unsatisfied but I don't think I could keep up with that side of me. I live with my parent who is homophobic/transphobic and against anything that doesn't follow their close minded way of thinking.

But sad thing is that I unfortunately depend on them and lack a car and a job. I've been super depressed for a long time about who I am and it's been a hinderance. I wish there was something that I could do in my unfortunate situation but trying to find job and going to school is hard being emotional wreck. I want to be stronger and have motivation to be able to get away from my current life. But everything seems hopeless at times and having something constantly eating away at me is no fun. I don't know what to do.
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Elis

I have the same problem. I still live at home and my dad is uncomfortable about me being fem. I made subtle changes to relieve the dysphoria like piercing my ears; getting my navel pierced and buying skirts. Even though I can't wear them at home it just helps knowing they're there. There are now mens clothes which look quite feminine which will hopefully get your parents used to it.

My dad doesn't quite accept me being trans but wearing what I want to wear has forced him to get used to it. Unfortunately that's usually the only way.

Are there any trans groups in your area? They also allow you to get changed into female attire at their groups if you're not comfortable leaving the house in it.
They/them pronouns preferred.



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kallaran

Quote from: Elis on November 14, 2016, 08:05:15 AM
I have the same problem. I still live at home and my dad is uncomfortable about me being fem. I made subtle changes to relieve the dysphoria like piercing my ears; getting my navel pierced and buying skirts. Even though I can't wear them at home it just helps knowing they're there. There are now mens clothes which look quite feminine which will hopefully get your parents used to it.

My dad doesn't quite accept me being trans but wearing what I want to wear has forced him to get used to it. Unfortunately that's usually the only way.

Are there any trans groups in your area? They also allow you to get changed into female attire at their groups if you're not comfortable leaving the house in it.

I don't think there is one but I could be wrong. I also don't think I want to be dressed in front of people in some group.

Ugh , why am I feeling like crap? ;(
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Elis

There are many online trans groups on Facebook; you might be able to contact some people in your area and organise a meet up. I also find Tumblr a great transgender resource. On many blogs you can ask questions and receive advise. Maybe also look into an LGBT helpline.

I feel like crap too. But if I could survive this long I can survive whatever the next min, hour, day brings.

Hope you feel better soon :)
They/them pronouns preferred.



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