Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 25, 2012, 10:07:01 AM
wtf???   (Googles "frot") oh... TMI!

corner or pillow riding would be better for those that can't get it up... and its a VERY female thing... and I can only imagine it would work even better once post... its just not talked about being a very personal thing, like tg's that invert instead of tuck.

when I began masturbating I did it this way on a large stuffed dog (no...I'm not sexually attracted to dogs or another other non-human animals or mammals) or on the carpet in my room...I never really touched my penis. I still do it alone or with partners (grinding) sometimes. I haven't made a final decision about SRS yet...but I've had plenty or erectile dysfunction with partners, male or female, in my life because I fantasized I was a woman with them. The girls wanted a 'man' and so did the gay guys. There was only one person I ever dated who knew about my gender identity and in our relationship (outside the bedroom as well) she took the male role and I took the female role. She was hetero, but a tomboy..and with some prominent masculine characteristics like being aggressive, punchy, dominant (I know these are not exclusive male traits, but I'm generalizing) and assertive and took control..she decided what we did and where we would go...I sort of followed her lead...I'm naturally submissive too. It was intoxicating to me, and I was devastated by the break up. I had a very hard time accepting it and letting her go. She ultimately left me because of my problems having or keeping erections, among other things. I don't think she understood the seriousness of my identification as a female, and the effects of gender dysphoria. We had been close friends before spontaneously becoming involved sexually one day too. But that relationship played a major part in my deciding to finally tell my therapist what was really going on with me for so many miserable, lonely years. I've known I was a girl since I was very young...you're comments about this female arousal technique makes me wonder if I even approached masturbation as a female would intuitively. I took me a long time before I began to use my hands more. Thank you for this info!

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 17, 2012, 12:03:47 AM
An Endocrinologist or Urologist should know the mechanics involved with answering that question, but I heard that very frequent "snake walking" keeps it intact, maybe like dilating? Also heard that helps keep up the "sauce" too. But that could all be malarkey...

The endocrinologist, like all the other doctors I have seen, just go blank when I start to ask about hormones, gender identity, etc.  I am going to finally get referred to a place where they do all that.  Only been at it 3 years. 
But as for the erections, they stopped for me about a year ago.  My last 2 orgasms were almost 2 months apart, but that last one...it was like a warm fire cruising through me.  Fantasy...I kept focusing on my female half, and she brought me through. 

I'm post-op, my testosterone is close to zero. I get erections (blood rushing toward region, swelling) and orgasm several times weekly. My E levels are high. I also take progesterone.

I thought after 6 days of hrt would keep me stable and constant.   Just weird how all of the sudden I woke up with an errection.   Just weird is my body getting used to the spiro so its not affecting me as much,?  Just a bit worried i really need my hormones checked.

It's one thing I can truly say is that I hate erections, but I'm lucky after 3 years I don't get them anymore.

I lost spontaneous and morning ones a couple weeks after starting the AA; and I work mentally very hard to NOT (dang I typed that 'not' really hard! lol) get them in any other context as well.    My hope is it'll forget how and go away, forever.

Quote from: Mikka55 on September 15, 2016, 07:22:25 AM
I thought after 6 days of hrt would keep me stable and constant.   Just weird how all of the sudden I woke up with an errection.   Just weird is my body getting used to the spiro so its not affecting me as much,?  Just a bit worried i really need my hormones checked.

Mikka, it takes much more than 6 days to lower testosterone levels.  For me, free testosterone dropped to the bottom of the male normal range after about 6 weeks, and at 3 months on spiro it finally is in the normal female range.

HRT is biology.  It's a slow process nudging trillions of cells to change their behavior.  Please give it time to work.

It helps a lot to keep your hormone levels at a healthy female range with the help of your endocrinologist of course. My libido is far higher with the right hormone regimen for my needs.

Quote from: Cadence Jean on February 16, 2012, 11:15:11 PM
In my case, with the right fantasy when solo or with the right scenario when with a partner, my junk works better than it did before.  Like, seriously.  There's a very specific ritual that I go through to get there(basically, foreplaying myself), but once there, he works like a champ.  The whole experience is affected by HRT, and certainly different than when I was on testosterone.  Also, my libido hasn't decreased one iota - the expression of it has changed.  Yay, unicorn me!

Hi , I was curious about this because I met many M-F trans people in Thailand, where they are not scorned and stigmatized as they are in the US. Bathroom problem? Thai people think we are absurd and insane over that. To them it's just considered the "3rd" sex. One girl (yes, they are "girls" to me)(I'm a songwriter in rock and roll and we write and sing about "girls" because we're all frozen at age 16) told me she couldn't because she was on hormones, and I felt sad for her, but it sounds like it's more often  like me at age 60, where it functions just fine but no longer so quick on the draw, and very dependent on mood and setting and who I'm with. I actually like it better that way. Knowing as much as I do about physiology and the complexities of hormonal balances/imbalances as well as emotion, it sounds like each person's scenario is more or less unique and therefore so would be the sexual function as well. There are men my age who go on testosterone therapy in order to turn the clock back to the levels they had at a much younger age, to slow loss of muscle mass and reduce visceral fat accumulation, restore vigor, which sounds like a good idea, but our bodies don't like it and there are a lot of risks and side effects. Your endocrinologist is your best friend in this, no doubt. Anyway, this is my first time on a forum such as this, so I say God bless all of you for your courage, which is the courage to be who you really are in the face of prejudice and misunderstanding. This above all else, to thine own self be true. I admire your community. I don't have gender or sexuality challenges such as yours, but I am an artist and a unique individual, an entertainer by nature, very uninclined to conform,  who has made the choice to never stray from being who I really am,  but to build my life according to that core, and that has been a huge and sometimes overwhelming challenge  to me but well worth the reward.

Quote from: gmf1313 on October 05, 2016, 08:50:07 AM
Hi , I was curious about this because I met many M-F trans people in Thailand, where they are not scorned and stigmatized as they are in the US. Bathroom problem? Thai people think we are absurd and insane over that. To them it's just considered the "3rd" sex. One girl (yes, they are "girls" to me)(I'm a songwriter in rock and roll and we write and sing about "girls" because we're all frozen at age 16) told me she couldn't because she was on hormones, and I felt sad for her, but it sounds like it's more often  like me at age 60, where it functions just fine but no longer so quick on the draw, and very dependent on mood and setting and who I'm with. I actually like it better that way. Knowing as much as I do about physiology and the complexities of hormonal balances/imbalances as well as emotion, it sounds like each person's scenario is more or less unique and therefore so would be the sexual function as well. There are men my age who go on testosterone therapy in order to turn the clock back to the levels they had at a much younger age, to slow loss of muscle mass and reduce visceral fat accumulation, restore vigor, which sounds like a good idea, but our bodies don't like it and there are a lot of risks and side effects. Your endocrinologist is your best friend in this, no doubt. Anyway, this is my first time on a forum such as this, so I say God bless all of you for your courage, which is the courage to be who you really are in the face of prejudice and misunderstanding. This above all else, to thine own self be true. I admire your community. I don't have gender or sexuality challenges such as yours, but I am an artist and a unique individual, an entertainer by nature, very uninclined to conform,  who has made the choice to never stray from being who I really am,  but to build my life according to that core, and that has been a huge and sometimes overwhelming challenge  to me but well worth the reward.

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I've been on hrt for 16 months.  I am also on the highest dosage of estrogen and spiro.  during the first 3 months, my libido disappeared and I couldn't even get an erection. as the months went by,  I kept exploring and found that I could get an erection. It just wasn't like before and took a lot  of mental work to get there. I also had to relearn how to touch everything since the skin was now soft and delicate.  I don't get random erections anymore thankfully.  I do still enjoy penetration even if i am a lesbian,  but surgery is the ultimate goal for me. I just don't have any dysphoria about using it while I have it.

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The hormones make it next to impossible to have spontaneous erections. It's quite easy to get sufficiently aroused with a little bit of physical contact. Take girl hormones, get aroused like a girl.