I'm just about to turn 18 and I'd really like to transition as soon as possible but I feel as if I can't. I fear my family's reaction and I have absolutely no one to discuss it with. I have only two friends and I feel like they wouldn't take me seriously if I tried to bring it up with them. I'm not close to anyone, neither my friends nor family and I'm not comfortable being open with people I don't really know, such as counsellors or therapists. I feel like I'll be more comfortable talking to others who may kind of get my situation and it's ways easier for me to talk with people online than in person. I don't think I'm able to message people on here yet, but I use kik and my account is saint.motel if anyone would be willing to talk with me. I don't really care about age, I just need someone to reach out to because I've been keeping everything in for too long and I feel trapped. I don't want to continue like this but I'm really unsure of what to do. 

Hello Manatee. I know the feeling..really.. I am in the same place as you are right now.. I want to get everything off my chest, but its just difficult to come out. I haven't yet come out to anyone. I'm not even sure whether I am transgender or not.
     The best thing to do right now, is to talk to a therapist. You will feel better if you do that.

      Also, your ability to message will turn on after you post some more. Feel free to talk here. I have been feeling much better after talking here.
   
       I'm 21. You can feel comfortable talking with me. Do reply

Hi Manatee

Happy to chat anytime you want although I don't have Kick we could start off here if you want. Are there some things you would like to dive right in and ask or things you feel are "stupid" questions. No person here is going to judge you...we all come with our own baggage and you know what they say about people in glass houses 

Not having someone close to you to discuss stuff with sucks. But on the bright side you have found a wealth of information and good people.

Family's can be tough. For me it hasn't been great but then for many others they have been surprised about the level of support. Has your family given you reason to think they would not be accepting? If not then the outcome could be far better than you thought.

A therapist is probably the best place to start. If you can find someone who you feel comfortable with it will make it easier. I was astounded at how much better I felt by simply sitting talking one to one in the real world with someone who was empathetic to my issues. Talking one on one with a therapist helps to keep things in perspective

Hugs
Liz

At 18 you are in the majority and no longer a minor. Your parents are no longer responsible for you. So it is really in your own hands to decide. I'm a life long introvert and I put off talking to a counselor for 37 years. I wish I had not because I would have been forced to seek answers to my gender obsession and maybe learned about full surgery much sooner. I can't get surgery now, but I have been on HRT for three and a half months. I have children and I've made it a tent pole for our family to listen, find out the facts through research and counseling them. Since it is their life to live and I've already lived most of mine, I'm open to anything. Actually I always have been. Your parents have decided how their life would play out. Now it is time for you to chose a path. Don't shut them down but consider their advice. But the decision entirely belongs to you. Unless your folks are rich and your inheritance is at stake. Then it is appropriate to suck up.   Things to check on. Find a gender professional and not a non specialist, for counseling. Check your parents medical. You are covered until you're 26. Depending on the part of the country you live, gender transitioning may be covered but that won't happen without counseling. There are support groups in large cities and some smaller ones, again depending on where you live. I would advise you to join one. The help and empathy are so important. You may want to put it in writing if you feel more at ease. Go to the wiki above and check out the topics under Family and Friends.  Stay strong. Best of luck.

The longer you wait, the harder it gets to come out. Yet regret for living on false premises grows stronger with each year and sooner or later you would wish you came out to your parents sooner. It's just like that - if you can no longer live as a male in your 40s, you'll undeniably feel sorry for not transitioning earlier in life and most likely everything you worked so hard, will be gone when you transition late. So, why not start earlier and build your life on a solid foundation of truth?


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