Hey all,
I am worried about repercussions for my 12 year old brother if I were to come out to the whole world as trans.

He goes to a school where there is a lot of bullying, and he is already being bullied and isolated. I am concerned that if it were known that his older brother was actually his older sister that it might make his school situation worse, potentially including physical bullying.

Unfortunately I know a lot of the teachers in this school as it is the same one I attended, and I know that a lot of them will ignore reports of bullying.

I have zero tolerance for bullying and I think most schools are the same. In your country is there a safe school program?

In any case report the bullying of your brother to the teachers. It has to be reported. You should also consider reporting to your police.  Your country has European anti-bullying law; use it

I want you to talk to me about your situation. PM me.

Love

Cindy

Lily, sorry to hear the teachers are not supportive, as Cindy says, you may need to go other authorities, they need educating!

Thanks.

I guess if it come to it then we would have to talk to higher authorities.

Perhaps things have changed since my time there 10 years ago. My bullying reached a point at which I would not go to school, and even spilled out of school and involved the police. The school then had the nerve to write to my family that there is no problem with bullying.

Unfortunately, from what I have heard, things in that school are more or less as they were back then.

My community in Wales is somewhat narrow minded in some ways. They are not openly intolerant but there are issues and my brother is quite naive and vulnerable. If it were common knowledge in the community that I am transgender then it might get difficult.

Lily  I just wanted to say that your little brother is lucky to have a older sister like yourself.  Perhaps if you sit down with him and have a big sister to little brother chat about your GD you can help him to deal with it better.  I was bullied repeatedly and know what it feels like too.   The best thing you can do is to be there for him.  I hope this helps.

Have you talked to your parents?

I don't know U.K. policies, but if your parents understood the situation, would your parents be willing, or have the option to home school your brother, or send him to a private school?

I was home schooled until third grade and my kids until middle school, so we were all about five grades ahead of our public school peers. Both my kids were reading encyclopedias for fun before they were five.

By the time my kids entered public middle school, when I had to work full time due to divorce, they tested at a college level, with scores high enough at the age of ten to enter the teacher's program.
Public school bored them, so they took books to school to read while the teacher droned on and on, wasting their time.

Teachers were afraid of confronting them because if they tried to call on my kids to give answers-trying to humiliate them for not "paying attention in class," not only did my kids know the answers, they knew far more than the teachers.