All constant.   Just curious if this will decrease after Transiton or after coming out.

Quote from: jules968 on December 30, 2016, 06:54:41 PM
All constant.   Just curious if this will decrease after Transiton or after coming out.

I don't think there's so many here that are a long way post transition, so it's a very biased sample.

Well a very small sample of me! I'm way past everything and I have to say I never think about it. I'm just me an average normal woman who happens to Admin a Forum for TG people!

Quote from: Cindy on December 30, 2016, 10:17:50 PM
Well a very small sample of me! I'm way past everything and I have to say I never think about it. I'm just me an average normal woman who happens to Admin a Forum for TG people!

Oh, that would be wonderful.  In my current state it seems to pop up every few minutes.  I'm happy, calm, and relaxed these days, but goddess, I'd rather not have this on my mind at all.  Part of my social outreach effort is simply to be with folks who don't want to ask about this or talk about it, just regard me as a woman, not transwoman.  When it does come up, I'm saying 'Lets change the subject, please' pretty quickly these days.

I hope it's something that can be left behind. The thought of dragging it around behind me as an identifier is almost as bad as the idea of not transitioning at all.

I guess if the world wasn't so crap about it it would be okay, if it was seen as 'normal as normal'. But it isn't.

Quote from: Michelle_P on December 30, 2016, 11:37:23 PM
Oh, that would be wonderful.  In my current state it seems to pop up every few minutes.  I'm happy, calm, and relaxed these days, but goddess, I'd rather not have this on my mind at all.  Part of my social outreach effort is simply to be with folks who don't want to ask about this or talk about it, just regard me as a woman, not transwoman.  When it does come up, I'm saying 'Lets change the subject, please' pretty quickly these days.

It starts getting old pretty darn quick doesn't it.

Liz

Quote from: ElizabethK on December 31, 2016, 12:56:29 AM
It starts getting old pretty darn quick doesn't it.

Liz

Yah.  I'm thinking about just packing a set of brochures and a version of my coming out letter for when the topic come up. "Oh, read this. Hey, how about them Cubs?"


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Quote from: Michelle_P on December 31, 2016, 12:58:35 AM

Quote from: ElizabethK on December 31, 2016, 12:56:29 AM
It starts getting old pretty darn quick doesn't it.

Liz

Yah.  I'm thinking about just packing a set of brochures and a version of my coming out letter for when the topic come up. "Oh, read this. Hey, how about them Cubs?"


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You try my line. 'Oh I'm just me, but I hear you have weeping hemorrhoids! Please tell us all about them!

She didn't. Everyone laughed. She was embarrassed. No one ever asked me again.

OK I'm going to say something - and there is some sarcasm in this!

Most of you seem to have an issue with being transgender.

No it isn't a barrel of laughs and if I'd had a choice I would even have accepted being a Kardishan and had to 'create' my own handbag range.

But I am transgender/transsexual.

You know something? It is marvellous and fantastic, empowering and challenging, frightening and wonderful.

Yes I faced and you face challenges that can hurt and destroy you but also they can also make you stronger.

Just think for a moment.

How many people do you know who can talk to you about your problems?
How many people will give you a hug and (try) to answer your questions?
How many people actually do understand?
How many people never take in your past, your crimes, your horror but just accept you because..you are trans?

Here you have hundreds, thousands, even maybe one person who understands.

How good is that? We are unique, we have a community that accepts you as you.

OK that isn't ideal. Cisgender people have a community that generally just ignores them. That must be fun?

So let us celebrate being us! Let us be proud!

Is it horrible to be trans? Yes. In some places we are jailed or slaughtered. We are discriminated against and we have to fight for rights.


But let us say something and be certain of it. I'd much rather be me than my wrong gender, no matter the fight.

So let us glory in it. Let us be proud!

And most of all I would never have met you. Yes you..  the person reading this, unless you and I were trans.

Hello, my name is Cindy and I am a transgender woman, I'm so pleased to meet you!

Cindy, I don't know how you find your eternal optimism but I am thankful for you and everyone here on this site.  Your inner strength is amazing and quite honestly awe inspiring. You are right, I do feel as though I know everyone here. We are a unique community. Thank you for pointing that out again.

Quote from: Cindy on December 30, 2016, 10:17:50 PM
I'm way past everything and I have to say I never think about it. I'm just me an average normal woman

That just about sums it up for me, I never think about it now, only maybe when I login to this forum, I'm now just an normal average housewife, a married woman with a husband, my husband never knew me in my other life, has only ever known me as a woman, life is very ordinary, regular routine, day to day life as a married woman.

Quote from: KathyLauren on December 30, 2016, 07:28:33 AM
I don't remember ever not thinking about it.  Even when I was in denial, I put a lot of effort into wondering and then denying it.

This is what separates us from CIS people.  They NEVER think about it.

But I like you - it was always on my mind.  Now that I'm doing something about it (transitioning) and I'm starting to actually present more often, I think about it less and less.  This is a good sign.

After thinking about thinking about it (Meta!), I think that I don't THINK about it that much, but I am aware of it. There are all the physical reminders, little sensations reminding me that I'm carrying around some excess donor tissue, and that damn big mirror in the bathroom.

There's no deep thought about being transgender most of the time, it's really just the lingering dysphoria.  The dysphoria is NOTHING like it was 9-10 months ago, thank the goddess.  It's just a nuisance reminder, distracting, occasionally annoying, but I know I'm dealing with it.

Soon enough it will be gone, and I'll be wholly ME.


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Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2016, 01:49:42 AM
And most of all I would never have met you. Yes you..  the person reading this, unless you and I were trans.

Truth!

I remember a little over eight years ago when I signed up here at Susan's

I was just a small, frightened little creature hoping to not get eaten by wolves

I was even too afraid to post for quite awhile, but then when I did start posting I ended up meeting one of the best friends that a person could ever meet

I'm not particularly the religious type but I definitely feel blessed by her friendship

I give thanks for all of the various friends I have found here at Susan's

How often do I think about being trans?

Daily, and it is a good thought

Love you all

Hugs

I've just got to ask, V M,  is this actually you in the avatar?

All the time!  Even though I'm not 100% out, my FB timeline is filled with trans related stories and such.  The other times I am trying to figure this whole thing out, lol!!

Quote from: Michelle_P on December 31, 2016, 11:21:27 AM
After thinking about thinking about it (Meta!), I think that I don't THINK about it that much, but I am aware of it.

this is how i feel. at the beginning i think every one is constantly thinking about it and talking about it. after my top surgery, i just..stopped talking about it/caring as much because for me, i am done my transition so far. it was exciting seeing the changes on hormones and how my body looked after top surgery and all that good stuff but now i pass 100% and i live my life as a normal guy. the only time i think about it is when something happens that makes me aware of it (like right now for me it is changing in front of other dudes for school). i think other people talk about being trans/trans related issues to me then i talk about actually being trans.

I think about it a lot. Sometimes I find it exhausting to have it on my mind so frequently, but just as often I think it's a fascinating thing to experience! I mean, how many people (speaking to my personal experience) start going through a second puberty at 34 years old?

Quote from: Denise on December 31, 2016, 10:01:05 AM
This is what separates us from CIS people.  They NEVER think about it.

Ahhhhhh Denise, this is the million dollar question for me, how do cis people never think about 'it'? I drive myself wild pondering how cisgendered people never question their gender; it comes all to easily for me.  For me very unfortunately, in response to the original OP's question, I spend nearly all day when by myself contemplating being female whether it is through some fantasy or realistic mechanism.  On the flip end, I am fortunate that rarely does my dysphoria soak through when I am talking with others.  But when it does... Oh geez.