Quote from: CarlyMcx on January 06, 2017, 01:03:15 PM
But unless you like the idea of hitting the neighbors up for farmhand work, it sounds like moving in with your friend is going to be a non-starter.

Yes, it doesn't sound like this is going to be the best option in terms of finding you work. Where does your friend work? Would working with them be a possibility?

Quote from: FTMax on January 06, 2017, 02:51:44 PM
Yes, it doesn't sound like this is going to be the best option in terms of finding you work. Where does your friend work? Would working with them be a possibility?

He's a student worker at the same community college I attend I've been trying to get a student worker position for quite some time now but there's never any positions open.

There's this one town, called Spring Hill, I really want to move to it's not far from where I live now (about 30 minutes north) if I can somehow get a place there instead it'll be much easier to get a ride and plus the places I mentioned where I could get a job at are all there too and plus even being a small town it's much more lgbt friendly than where I am now.

Only trouble is that rent in Spring Hill can be as crazy as big cities like Nashville so yeah it's not only the cities rent is getting ridiculous here in the small towns and rural communities as well. 

Move what are you waiting for!

I want too but have no money to afford rent and none my friends that do happen to live there are in position to take me in

You can come and live with me if u want to, iam moving somewhere very far.

hmm tempting to be honest where do you currently live and where you plan on moving to??

Just wondering if anyone else may have more ideas what to do about transportation or any ideas of how I can move into the town of Spring Hill and deal with the rent??

Essentially what it comes down to is you need to be in a place where you can afford the rent. The only way you'll be able to afford the rent is if you can find a job. If you can't find a job, then you can't afford to live there no matter where it is.

The issue you'll also have is that moving to a new place isn't as simple as finding a job there. Most places are going to want a deposit before they let you move in unless you're moving in with family or friends. This could be as little as $50 to as much as a full month's rent. Here, it is sometimes as high as 2 months rent up front. It is typically more for folks who have no or poor credit history. Do you have that much in liquid assets currently? If not, you might not be able to afford to move.

My suggestion would be to first really dig into your commuting issue instead of thinking about moving. No matter where you live, you need a reliable way to get to work. Buses are great when they're available, but what about when they aren't running? There are about 5 different bus lines where I live and they have reduced holiday hours. Most of them will also stop running in inclement weather. And this is a major metropolitan area. I imagine services are further reduced in a rural or suburban area. If you're relying on a bus, that could leave you without a way to get to work, or stranded at work. I think coming up with a means of getting to work that you are in charge of would go a long way.

Which brings me to my suggestion - what about a bike? Bikes are fairly inexpensive on Craigslist, easy to use, easy to fix, and not at all difficult to commute on. I know some folks who commute into the city here from 20-30 miles out in the suburbs to avoid sitting in traffic. On a purely road track (nothing offroad or trails) you can bike 20 miles in around an hour. So being able to ride a bike and willing to ride it for an hour gives you a 20 mile radius around where you're living that you could look for work.

I need some way to move regardless if I can afford to or not and I need to do it before the end of April cause that's when my parents will find out I'm not getting my teaching degree and when they do they will go ballistic and I can guaranteed it'll be a risk to my safety and yes I wanna tell them I rather get a different degree and do something different besides teach but if I even do that they'll just go ballistic all the same.

I apologize I keep mentioning this over and over again and I know I need a job and income to move out of my own but with my situation I need to move out regardless asap there's gotta be a way to help make that happen.     

I'm sorry to tell you there really is not. Moving requires money or charity. Money you don't have. Charity could potentially be found if you look for it (friends, family, programs, etc.).

How much money do you have saved currently? Would it be enough to get you to another city that maybe has more opportunities? I see posts everyday on the Trans Housing group I'm part of with people offering couches or spare rooms to others in need for nothing or minimal amounts of money/household contributions. If you had enough money for a bus ticket (usually $30-$100 depending on how far you're going) and were willing to forego a lot of your possessions, that'd be the easiest way to get somewhere else. I'm happy to link and add you to that group if you'd like to see what is available but you'd need to PM me.

Money wise I actually have a little over $1300 in a savings account and have some spending money in a separate checking account I think I have like over $200 left in that one would had more saved up but emergency expenses happen.

I've been to the Trans Housing Group and been tempted to take up a few offers there but the thought of moving far away to a place where the cost of living is much higher I just can't do it. I rather take my chances of trying to move to Spring Hill, TN and just have my friends help me out which lately more are offering to help out so I'll use this semester to see where that happens.

Back to transportation issue Spring Hill may be a growing community but there are no buses and riding a bike down the main road (highway 31) where everything is and off of is very dangerous especially the area where Walmart and all the shopping is and no bike road/trails either Tennessee is way behind on all that. I'll figure something out though. 

Have you been to this group?

https://www.facebook.com/groups/GROUPTGRH/

Lots of great options there. I think the Trans Housing Network on Tumblr is pretty much dead, though I haven't looked at it recently.

I can understand wanting to stay somewhere that is familiar where you have friends/family who could help you out. I'm just not sure you'd be able to get a good start if there's no way for you to get to work. As you said, even the other town lacks a bus system. Would you walk to work? How much is rent for a place within walking distance to the places you could potentially get a job? How much would rent be in another town that has better public transportation in place, enabling you to maybe live further away from work and pay less for rent?

That's the trade off. You will most likely pay more money in rent to be within walking distance of a retail location. Your commute would be longer living further away, but your rent would likely be cheaper. It really comes down to how much you value your time and if the value of time lost commuting would be less or more than how much extra it would cost you to live somewhere closer.

Living far won't be a big deal I'm already used to communing 15-30+ minutes already.

This semester will give me plenty of time to figure things out and talk to my friends speaking of one of them is a member of that Facebook which will most likely be more helpful.

As I mentioned I'm gonna move out regardless for the sake of safety.

How would I be able to afford things like hrt if the only jobs I can get seem to get are stocking shelves??

I've been doing research on jobs and how to be successful despite having learning disability and autism and what I'm finding isn't exactly what I was hoping it seems even with an education the only jobs me and others like me have any hope of getting are grocery stores and other minimum wage jobs with no way of landing anything above even with education and experience. I'm at a loss of how I'm gonna afford anything (like hrt) stocking selves in the future.

Why not look into grocery or retail stores that have management training programs? Typically those are open to folks with a degree. They usually combine some practical experience with corporate education and mentorship.

HRT isn't super expensive. I pay less than $100 twice a year for my doctor visit, lab work, and medication. You could probably go even lower if you found a sliding scale clinic or Planned Parenthood location that was offering HRT.

What if I'm not successful with the duties of being a manager I'm not like an "outside of the box" thinker are there other decent paying position at grocery stores that don't involve being in management??

Quote from: FTMax on January 15, 2017, 09:15:11 PM
HRT isn't super expensive. I pay less than $100 twice a year for my doctor visit, lab work, and medication. You could probably go even lower if you found a sliding scale clinic or Planned Parenthood location that was offering HRT.

Not wanting to get into politics I have a bad feeling that's all gonna come to an end soon

How do you know how successful you could be if you've never had a similar role before? There is not a lot of creative thinking going on in retail management. It's very numbers driven, and the formula for what you do day-to-day to achieve those numbers is very well established, plus you'd have coaching from someone who is/has been in the same role before.

There are certainly other positions you could seek out at any retail location. Grocery stores have multiple departments within them so there are typically at least a few openings that you could apply for. If you're not comfortable going into management, consider overnight stocking. The pay is slightly better because it's overnight, there is no customer service aspect to worry about, and you're part of a team that's responsible for getting everything done. So while you may need to learn to pick up the pace a bit, there will typically be other people working with you who can help make sure everything gets done. And usually these teams have a supervisor or team lead position, so that's something you could be aspiring for.

I think the big thing for you to consider is what you want your next job to do for you. Do you want it to be a career starter? Do you just want to make some money to establish yourself? Would you like to use it as a springboard for moving? You may have some legitimate concerns about your ability to do the work, but if you want to change your life you're going to have to put a lot of effort into this no matter what you end up doing. Some thoughts:

- If you want to potentially move to a friendlier state, only consider companies that have a national presence. Grocery stores can sometimes fall into this category, though many of them are limited to certain regions. Look into that before applying if being able to move around appeals to you. And if you get an interview, ask about opportunities to move and internal transfers.

- If you want to move up at the same company, make sure you ask about internal promotions and outside hiring. When a management position opens, are current employees notified? Can managers apply for positions on behalf of employees they supervise?

- Utilize Glassdoor to compare hourly pay and salaries. Read current employee reviews, ideally for the same position and location you're applying for. Especially pay attention to the reviews for your intended location. It might be easy to get hired there because management sucks and is churning through employees.

I can't tell you what different retail positions are paying now, or what they might pay in your area. I live in a major metro area. In 2011 I worked as a part-time cashier for a specialty retailer for $10.25/hour. After six months I got a raise to $12/hour and was bumped up to full time. At the time I had a Bachelor's degree and 5 years of customer service experience. I know the other person that got hired for the same role at the same time as me started at $9/hour with no degree and 2 years of customer service experience.

As far as HRT goes, Planned Parenthood will likely survive, though some locations may close or reduce hours. Sliding scale clinics have existed in many places for decades now, so I think those are here to stay. I don't anticipate any change to what I pay for treatment or medication. If you are worried about it, consider looking into Best Buy, Target, Starbucks, etc. There are a lot of national companies with entry level positions that offer part time associates trans inclusive benefits.

EmilyRyan,

As I mentioned before. There is a lot of information and resources at the ARC of Tennessee.
http://www.thearctn.org/Employment.php

Have you tried contacting them?

Sincerely,
Joanna

Quote from: FTMax on January 16, 2017, 12:05:19 PM
How do you know how successful you could be if you've never had a similar role before? There is not a lot of creative thinking going on in retail management. It's very numbers driven, and the formula for what you do day-to-day to achieve those numbers is very well established, plus you'd have coaching from someone who is/has been in the same role before.

I've seen what managers do in the two jobs I had and from what I know there's a ton of pressure in their jobs and I can barely handle the pressure put on by my parents. Even my supervisor from my job at Walmart was under intense pressure and he wasn't even in management.

Quote from: FTMax on January 16, 2017, 12:05:19 PM
There are certainly other positions you could seek out at any retail location. Grocery stores have multiple departments within them so there are typically at least a few openings that you could apply for. If you're not comfortable going into management, consider overnight stocking. The pay is slightly better because it's overnight, there is no customer service aspect to worry about, and you're part of a team that's responsible for getting everything done. So while you may need to learn to pick up the pace a bit, there will typically be other people working with you who can help make sure everything gets done. And usually these teams have a supervisor or team lead position, so that's something you could be aspiring for.

The pace part is what I worry about considering that's what I was fired over. I actually did stocking quite a bit when I worked at Walmart and I usually had trouble with finding where exactly something went and would take me longer to find the right place and therefore was unintentionally slow at the task and the issues with my working memory I could never get used to memorizing too well. I'm not lazy by any means I know I can do the job and make an effort to perform the best to my abilities I'm just concerned about doing at the pace they want me to do and having to say clear a pallet within 30 minutes or risk being fired are there like any accommodations that could be made to help with that??

Also what if say grocery or employment (and self employment) in general doesn't work out at all what would be a suggestion to do instead?? These are legit concerns I have everyday.

Quote from: FTMax on January 16, 2017, 12:05:19 PM
I think the big thing for you to consider is what you want your next job to do for you. Do you want it to be a career starter? Do you just want to make some money to establish yourself? Would you like to use it as a springboard for moving? You may have some legitimate concerns about your ability to do the work, but if you want to change your life you're going to have to put a lot of effort into this no matter what you end up doing. Some thoughts:

I just want to do something I now I can do to the best of my ability that pays enough for me to live and maybe a new laptop for my photography and maybe take online classes to get a four year degree.

Quote from: Joanna50 on January 16, 2017, 12:42:07 PM
EmilyRyan,

As I mentioned before. There is a lot of information and resources at the ARC of Tennessee.
http://www.thearctn.org/Employment.php

Have you tried contacting them?

I plan to get involved once I move out and my parents are out of my hair