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My questions feeling like they've stopped?

Started by SpeakYourMind, January 10, 2017, 11:18:45 PM

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SpeakYourMind

Before T it always felt like i had something going on with me that i wanted to share to others or ask questions on
and i came back thinking that i'd need help or have questions now that i'm on T and I've noticed i barley have anything  to be asking. It's like my comfort levels just increased and the problems where solved I don't want to say i never get questions or want to ask things to get advice or help but it just doesn't seem as common for me anymore. I couldn't help but start wondering if that's common because i'm browsing things helping other people while realizing i myself don't seem to be having anything to say and i always find people going on T and asking questions or gaining other concerns that are understandable. But for me it's just occurring and i'm sorta took back with it like wait what?
I know it's not a big deal, i don't even care that i have hardly any questions but i did get curious like has that happened to anyone else on this website while taking T?

I guess i'm starting to feel like is it typical shouldn't i have more concerns?
and it's silly i guess.


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Kylo

Maybe it's just that T seems to make most of us calmer and more content. I am ok with sitting back and observing the changes, mostly. Sometimes asking to see if other people experience the same things.

The difference between me now and pre T in October is like the difference between a silent neurotic and someone who found faith in the fact the sky's probably not gonna fall and not much is worth the angst.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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SpeakYourMind

Quote from: Kylo on January 10, 2017, 11:40:58 PM
Maybe it's just that T seems to make most of us calmer and more content. I am ok with sitting back and observing the changes, mostly. Sometimes asking to see if other people experience the same things.

The difference between me now and pre T in October is like the difference between a silent neurotic and someone who found faith in the fact the sky's probably not gonna fall and not much is worth the angst.

what do you mean by silent and neurotic?
but yes, im fine with being this way too it just took me back i don't post much or question anymore
i get it i'm calmer but questions? really? idk, i ask the strangest and silly things sometimes.
Just thought of something to add, okay on E i felt like i had to speak and now i don't i get that not everyone it's probably that strong for or maybe it is i dont know but mind you i always had this calm side always it just didn't show its face online because i was always wound up.


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Alexthecat

I would say it is normal. You only started less than a month ago so there is not much to say at the moment. I started last April and am now only getting to some real changes that might be worth mentioning. We all get to a point that when others post it is clear they did not do any research and their post annoys us and is not really worth our time to reply to.

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SpeakYourMind

Quote from: Alexthecat on January 11, 2017, 03:56:46 AM
I would say it is normal. You only started less than a month ago so there is not much to say at the moment. I started last April and am now only getting to some real changes that might be worth mentioning. We all get to a point that when others post it is clear they did not do any research and their post annoys us and is not really worth our time to reply to.

For me everything happened very fast i don't have facial hair yet but i have changes already i don't speak of it much because most wouldn't believe me or its slight so they wouldn't notice. But due to my levels i was told this would happen ahead of time as a possibility so i'm not shocked. Plus even if i do start getting things you know, more things happening i don't feel the need to speak about them. You have to realize i've always been a calm person outside of the internet it's just increased in a way i didn't expect which is good.


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Kylo

Quote from: SpeakYourMind on January 11, 2017, 02:24:06 AM
what do you mean by silent and neurotic?
but yes, im fine with being this way too it just took me back i don't post much or question anymore
i get it i'm calmer but questions? really? idk, i ask the strangest and silly things sometimes.
Just thought of something to add, okay on E i felt like i had to speak and now i don't i get that not everyone it's probably that strong for or maybe it is i dont know but mind you i always had this calm side always it just didn't show its face online because i was always wound up.

I mean that on E that's what I was - silent, but neurotic on the inside. On T I am not that person at all.

I remember making a topic in here a few months ago suggesting that maybe E is responsible for needing to connect with people more and making people want to talk, even if it's about nothing much. It seems to have been the case because that was made before I began HRT and now I most definitely do not open my mouth as much, or feel the need to start talking. Which when you live as isolated as me is great. That's exactly the effect I wanted T to have on me; reduce my requirements and allow me to live more independently.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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FTMax

I feel like my questions came in stages. Like, pre-everything I had tons of questions to make sure I was making the right decisions. When I started therapy I had tons of questions about how my experience was comparing to other people. Starting T, same thing. I'm a big planner so with top surgery my questions weren't really about results or experiences but rather what should I bring, what should I plan for, etc.

Since there isn't a large post-bottom surgery community here, I asked a lot of those questions offsite, but they were a combination of everything. How do you choose a procedure, how do you choose a surgeon, how to plan for surgery, supply lists, advice, experiences, etc. Now that I'm a little more than 2 months away from surgery, I have very few questions left.

I expect I'll have some that will best be answered by other post-op guys in the first few months out from surgery, but then I think they'll likely dry up again.

I'm not so much an emotional question asker though. I think most of mine are practical questions, so it would make sense that as an experience draws to a close, my questions also go away.
T: 12/5/2014 | Top: 4/21/2015 | Hysto: 2/6/2016 | Meta: 3/21/2017

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