I only have a sister that talks to me and my parents have both passed , but were aware of my interests in dressing up. I think my sister understands to a certain degree , but there are young nephews I haven't seen.

Quote from: stephaniec on January 10, 2017, 07:21:08 PM
I only have a sister that talks to me and my parents have both passed , but were aware of my interests in dressing up. I think my sister understands to a certain degree , but there are young nephews I haven't seen.

Everything takes time is not only is that are going theu a big change but also you'll be surprised with how accepting are the younger ones.~


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My brother is the only blood family I have left, and to say no would be a monumental understatement. Not only does he not accept me, he actively despises me, makes sure his children do as well, and has in the past been both the instigator and perpetrator of violence against me.

Thankfully there is someone in my life I consider closer than family. And were it not for them... who knows. As for my brother... his hatred is his issue. I just hope his kids don't grow up with the same blind, narrow-minded prejudice.

Yeah there would always be that person that would be against you in lots of way even in passive ways


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Quote from: Sephirah on January 10, 2017, 07:32:17 PM
My brother is the only blood family I have left, and to say no would be a monumental understatement. Not only does he not accept me, he actively despises me, makes sure his children do as well, and has in the past been both the instigator and perpetrator of violence against me.

Thankfully there is someone in my life I consider closer than family. And were it not for them... who knows. As for my brother... his hatred is his issue. I just hope his kids don't grow up with the same blind, narrow-minded prejudice.

sorry it's that bad, I just hope someday my  great nieces and nephews won't see me in an unatractive light

My parents are no longer alive.  One brother is supportive.  I worry about the other.  I am not out to him yet.  I hope I misjudge him, but I suspect that the result of coming out will be estrangement.  Not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, since we communicate only 2 or 3 times a year anyway.

The second brother and a cousin on a different continent will find out when I go full time and tell the world.

Everybody in my family eventually accepted me, except my parents and siblings. I haven't seen any of my nieces or nephews in several years.

My parents and sister eventually embraced my transition, and have been impeccable for years and years. 

I have extended family who are always good about gendering me correctly, except for one cousin, but it's not like anyone has disowned me or anything.  Actually, I was the one ready to disown them if they didn't shape up.

I think I posted this elsewhere, but all of my family is accepting, but one of my sisters just recently came around .  She did not accept me for over a decade, which meant I did not see my niece and nephews grow up during that time.  But for the last two years I have been spending more time with them. I never gave up, and it is nice to see them now.

Only my mom and step mom are still around, my dad and step dad have passed.  But they were very supportive

My mom and thress brothers are all accepting, its funny i misjudged them all, I expected the worst reaction from my brothers and best from my mother, it was  the other way around.they wher great, and knew about trans issues, and one of them even knew Blaire White so that was very funny, my mother took a while, but she was never viscious or negative about it, just took her a while to comprehend it all.
Now my father I still haven't been able to talk to, he was very harsh on us all, my brothers me and my mom, I still love him and want him part of my life. He is so proud of me (even though he would never say) how I work on the cars at home, fix ther problems, have a great job abroad, fantastic gf, I just don't want to ruin all that for him.
I spent so long building the perfect guy, its so hard to retire him :/

My parents are struggling a bit, especially she. "Why can't he be simply gay?" "Why must he go through all this HRT, FFS, SRS and all?"

My sister is delighted with her new sister and I am delighted she is ^^

My parents are far from supporting me. They were verbally ripping me apart for almost two years. Now they're in the flat-out denial stage where they insist on using my dead-name and don't want to even talk about it. They want everything to go back to the way things used to be and they think acting like it is still like that will make it so. This is their way of getting me back into the family with them, but they just aren't getting it.

On the other hand, my brother is one of my greatest supporters. He was there when I first came out and he continues to do everything he can now.

Quote from: stephaniec on January 10, 2017, 07:21:08 PM
I only have a sister that talks to me and my parents have both passed , but were aware of my interests in dressing up. I think my sister understands to a certain degree , but there are young nephews I haven't seen.

I wouldn't say "Accepting" I'd say coping but some would consider it "Accepting" it depends on what someone perceives accepting as you could say. My mother coping better then my father my Father has already discarded the thought i'm even transgender even if he doesn't consciously realize this at the moment, he refuses my pronouns.
He insists people just call me by my name and ignore everything else because it "Isn't a problem" when to me it's a problem and people not doing so hurts my feelings, they know this mind you and don't acknowledge it. But people will be people what can you do? The only person in my family who i see true acceptance from is someone i barley know and least expected it form my cushion and my sister i'd put into that grouping with time.

Siblings - yes.
Parents - not sure yet.  Coming out to them in the next couple months.

I only have an older brother left. He's fine with it. I'm sure my mom would have been too. We were very close.

She painted my nails when I was a little kid when I asked her too. Lol. I also have a memory of her putting a dress on me (again because I asked her too). She was a great mom. [emoji171]


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Quote from: Sephirah on January 10, 2017, 07:32:17 PM
My brother is the only blood family I have left, and to say no would be a monumental understatement. Not only does he not accept me, he actively despises me, makes sure his children do as well, and has in the past been both the instigator and perpetrator of violence against me.

Thankfully there is someone in my life I consider closer than family. And were it not for them... who knows. As for my brother... his hatred is his issue. I just hope his kids don't grow up with the same blind, narrow-minded prejudice.

Y.Y it seems almost every time I think im closer to outing myself to my brother I read something like this and shrink right back to my corner..

Quote from: ChristineRachel on January 11, 2017, 02:02:28 AM
My mom and thress brothers are all accepting, its funny i misjudged them all, I expected the worst reaction from my brothers and best from my mother, it was  the other way around.they wher great, and knew about trans issues, and one of them even knew Blaire White so that was very funny, my mother took a while, but she was never viscious or negative about it, just took her a while to comprehend it all.
Now my father I still haven't been able to talk to, he was very harsh on us all, my brothers me and my mom, I still love him and want him part of my life. He is so proud of me (even though he would never say) how I work on the cars at home, fix ther problems, have a great job abroad, fantastic gf, I just don't want to ruin all that for him.
I spent so long building the perfect guy, its so hard to retire him :/

I wish more than anything for an outcome like this.. Ive already gotten used to my parents only talking to me when they need something done..

Quote from: Angela Drakken on January 11, 2017, 12:02:03 PM
Y.Y it seems almost every time I think im closer to outing myself to my brother I read something like this and shrink right back to my corner..

Don't let my experience sour you, sweetie. They're no doubt entirely different in outlook. Truth be told, given the choice I would never have come out to my brother at all. I would have expected his reaction right off the bat. Unfortunately I didn't come out to him so much as he found out and I didn't deny it. Maybe that had a small part to play in how things turned out, who knows.

By the sounds of it, from your other posts, your brother doesn't seem the type of person to have such an extreme reaction or viewpoint.

Quote from: Sephirah on January 11, 2017, 12:54:33 PM
Don't let my experience sour you, sweetie. They're no doubt entirely different in outlook. Truth be told, given the choice I would never have come out to my brother at all. I would have expected his reaction right off the bat. Unfortunately I didn't come out to him so much as he found out and I didn't deny it. Maybe that had a small part to play in how things turned out, who knows.

By the sounds of it, from your other posts, your brother doesn't seem the type of person to have such an extreme reaction or viewpoint.

I really hope not. My 'support network' consists of but 2 people.. and hes one of them. (And hes not even aware of what hes supporting.)

All my siblings (one brother, one step brother, 2 step-sisters - all younger than me) are all accepting. My mother and step father are, but my (bio) father and his wife (they married when I was 28) have pretty severed all connections with me. As far as I'm concerned it's his loss, but it does depresses me.

My family refuses to acknowledge me as a transgender female they will not use my preferred name or pronouns. When I tell them how much happier and more confident I am now that I have started HRT and I'm not suffering from as much depression it goes in one ear and out the other. They all think I'm being selfish and should continue to ignore my feelings like I did for the first 30 years of my life. I wish they could just be happy for me. My family is strongly opposed to me transitioning full time. I have never felt so alone in my life. Since the start of the new year I have worn feminine clothes full time and seen a lot of anger from my dad. He doesn't really direct it at me or even show it but I can sense it. With the exception of family resistance I am better than I have ever been and plan to continue with my transition and hope they will learn to accept me as their daughter,sister,and aunt. I wish you all the same acceptance in your transition Huggs ScarletRed


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