I finally got my bus pass,it was such a relief because I can go more places and no finical cost (I'm disabled).
So the first thing I did was getting my eyebrows threaded. I have so much respect for anyone who gets it done, Jesus it hurt. My nails were done and I got henna. Also can use an stp like it's natural.

The only bad bits were people telling me I'm not trans and had to out myself in the men's room. It was so scary.


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Sorry this happened to you :/. People can be absolutely ignorant and stupid. I try to saunter into the mens room and pretend like I'm tough and 'own the room'. I still find it nerve wracking and tend to avoid it though.

Glad to hear you got a pass and all the other good stuff, but the bathroom deal sounds very scary. I hope you have better experiences in there as times goes on

Quote from: Elis on January 29, 2017, 07:15:59 AM
Sorry this happened to you :/. People can be absolutely ignorant and stupid. I try to saunter into the mens room and pretend like I'm tough and 'own the room'. I still find it nerve wracking and tend to avoid it though.

Yeah they can. I hate it when people think they can take the reigns of other people's identities,it's rude as hell.

I think most don't care but definitely be careful though. I've been scripting some responses if anyone asks like "my penis got removed, it was damaged by birth" idk how well it would work.

For a bit happier news, I got my nails done and henna. Pic below it is a bit chipped tho lol




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Quote from: lc100 on January 29, 2017, 10:09:10 AM
Glad to hear you got a pass and all the other good stuff, but the bathroom deal sounds very scary. I hope you have better experiences in there as times goes on

Thanks ☺
Yeah it was scary. I hope it doesn't happen again.


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Quote from: ghostbees on January 29, 2017, 10:39:30 AM
Yeah they can. I hate it when people think they can take the reigns of other people's identities,it's rude as hell.

I think most don't care but definitely be careful though. I've been scripting some responses if anyone asks like "my penis got removed, it was damaged by birth" idk how well it would work.

For a bit happier news, I got my nails done and henna. Pic below it is a bit chipped tho lol




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Like with any medical condition I don't think I owe anyone an explanation. Especially if they're asking about my junk it would lead me to believe they weren't askimg out of genuine interest and wanted to genuinly learn more; but rather because they want us to prove we're the 'freaks' they already think we are and no type of explanation will disuade them.

Your nails and the henna tattoo look awesome

Quote from: Elis on January 29, 2017, 11:10:07 AM
Like with any medical condition I don't think I owe anyone an explanation. Especially if they're asking about my junk it would lead me to believe they weren't askimg out of genuine interest and wanted to genuinly learn more; but rather because they want us to prove we're the 'freaks' they already think we are and no type of explanation will disuade them.

Your nails and the henna tattoo look awesome

You're right I didn't think about that. I thought if I gave an explanation then they'd leave.
I guess it doesn't work with some bad apples...

Thanks!
Although I like the henna not sure if I should get it again bc I'm white. Would it fall in cultural appropriation???
the nails have chipped badly [emoji22][emoji58]


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Just want to applaud you or any guy willing to help broaden the idea of what is within the male province or what is masculine.   Yes, no explanations or apologies are needed.  If we are still in a box we can at least push open the boundaries?

Your sensitivity and awareness of cultural appropriation is admirable.  Not sure that doing henna is in the same league as doing dread locks tho?  Nail polish, why not?

Quote from: Tessa James on January 30, 2017, 12:20:44 PM
Just want to applaud you or any guy willing to help broaden the idea of what is within the male province or what is masculine.   Yes, no explanations or apologies are needed.  If we are still in a box we can at least push open the boundaries?

Your sensitivity and awareness of cultural appropriation is admirable.  Not sure that doing henna is in the same league as doing dread locks tho?  Nail polish, why not?

Gosh I'm not sure what I did to get such a lovely compliment [emoji5]literally blushing rn
True!
I think more people need to know femininity isn't a bad thing!
I believe people are born for love and revolution and I want to live in a world where no one is ever attacked for their presentation or gender.

I try my best though I still slip up sometimes,only human!
That maybe true but I don't want to offend people yknow


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Some advice for the men's room
1) when entering do a quick scan.  Try to avoid eye contact but if you do, offer a quick nod to acknowledge him and then continue scanning. 
2) unless you enter with a friend, don't make small talk with other guys.  Guys are there to do their business and leave.
3) When at the urinal don't look around.  Most guys look down at themselves, straight ahead, or up at the ceiling.  Guys will have a problem if they notice you looking around or looking at them.  Some privacy is appreciated.  This also means they won't be paying much attention to what you are doing.
4) Most guys will use their hands to shield themselves.  Most won't really notice the lack of anything especially if your hands appear to be in the correct area.  I honestly wouldn't expect anyone to call you out on a lack of a penis unless you were obviously doing something out of the norm.  For example, standing in two feet in front of a urinal with your pants and underwear around your ankles.

Quote from: jcsacc.33 on January 30, 2017, 12:55:04 PM
Some advice for the men's room
1) when entering do a quick scan.  Try to avoid eye contact but if you do, offer a quick nod to acknowledge him and then continue scanning. 
2) unless you enter with a friend, don't make small talk with other guys.  Guys are there to do their business and leave.
3) When at the urinal don't look around.  Most guys look down at themselves, straight ahead, or up at the ceiling.  Guys will have a problem if they notice you looking around or looking at them.  Some privacy is appreciated.  This also means they won't be paying much attention to what you are doing.
4) Most guys will use their hands to shield themselves.  Most won't really notice the lack of anything especially if your hands appear to be in the correct area.  I honestly wouldn't expect anyone to call you out on a lack of a penis unless you were obviously doing something out of the norm.  For example, standing in two feet in front of a urinal with your pants and underwear around your ankles.

Thank you [emoji4]
It was because of my voice, I repeat my voices out loud and I was using a stall.


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Hmm not sure that particular design you went for would be cultural appropriation. If you decided to get something which is only specifically supposed to be worn for a special ceremonial or religious occasion but only got it because it looked pretty and was ignorant of said meaning; that would definitely be cultural appropriation. Same with tattoos. Although they have Polynesian origins it's completely changed. The tattoo styles and way tattoos are done have completely evolved and have westernised. If you decided to get a tattoo done the old way without being Polynesian or understanding the culture that would be wrong.

Just my opinion; sorry to derail your post

Quote from: Elis on January 31, 2017, 07:50:41 AM
Hmm not sure that particular design you went for would be cultural appropriation. If you decided to get something which is only specifically supposed to be worn for a special ceremonial or religious occasion but only got it because it looked pretty and was ignorant of said meaning; that would definitely be cultural appropriation. Same with tattoos. Although they have Polynesian origins it's completely changed. The tattoo styles and way tattoos are done have completely evolved and have westernised. If you decided to get a tattoo done the old way without being Polynesian or understanding the culture that would be wrong.

Just my opinion; sorry to derail your post

Ah thanks Elis!
Yeah, I've been told it's cultural appropriation so definitely not gonna get another one. I was p ignorant but I've also learned my lesson.


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