Jeanette, we can be stressed about things, or we can simply have concerns and seek assistance in addressing those concerns. As far as I can tell, you've just been seeking assistance, and that it a good thing.
Far too often we try to meet the male stereotype of never admitting a problem, and believing that we must solve all things ourselves. It just ain't so! We can all use some help from time to time, and that is what a community is for. We help each other.
I love this community!
Hugs,
Michelle