I second what Jeanette has said. I know your life hasent been easy and you have been strong in many aspects. But on this job thing you do need to have big girl panites. The fact remains, I have read some old posts and you have been asking people on this site since 2015 the same question. The exact same question. The definition of insanity is doing hte exact same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. You seem to fall into this pattern of were you put yourself down without giving yourself a fighting chance. We give you all sorts of places to apply to and tell you places to avoid for x,y and z. I will be blunt, if i was an employeer I would be very very iffy about hiring you. not because of your disability (fellow autistic person here) but due to  pi$$ poor attitude (which in the urban dictionary means an attitude that hinders production and cooperation). I would be worried I would give you a task and you would find any which way to not do said task. Its comes across as you refuse to challange yourself and push forth to make things happen and would rather highlight all the troubles you still face, without working on them. It took me forever to do the most basic stuff, like tie my shoes. Couldnt do that until i was about 15 years old with all my own mental set backs. But I pushed through, at one of my first jobs as a cook in a bar when I was 18 or 19 I was still really slow. So what did I do? I came to work early (without punching in) to prepare my station for the dinner rush. I sauced up all my bottles, cut all the veges, sanitized, ect. Because of that, I got a pretty decent reference from that place and since i live in tiny town (Petawawa) where everyone knows each other thats probably why I got my current job!  Its all about initiitive. With time, I was faster then a bullet because I was engaged and I wanted that job! In all honesty I can see the same applying to you. However, you will have to want it and learn that you need to sell yourself to an employeer.

Me, FTMax, JenTay, SadieBlake, Develyn Marie, Sno and countless other who have given you a boat load of advice cant change whats inside you. Thats up to you. And when you can work on that we will still be with you 100% of the way. But its going to take initiitive on your part.

Hugs-Ashley

I'm afraid what they say is true, no matter what you want to improve about your life, the first thing to do is to love yourself. It'll change the way everyone else sees you too.

None of what been said answers my questions and concerns

Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 07, 2017, 02:47:02 PM
None of what been said answers my questions and concerns

** sigh **  So you keep saying instead of deciding to do something about it for yourself.

Jeanette

I have a question? Why should any of us have any vested interest in helping you? You're like a broken record. You treat us all contemptuously by ignoring our advice and queries. Ashley brought a good point to the forefront. You keep asking the same thing looking for different results. What do you want? Someone here to give you a job, pick you up and take you home every day? Tuck you in at night?
      You're like a broken record. As if you can't hear anything being said. You've shot every messenger that brought you the truth. You have what appear to be many co-morbid issues. Here's the facts:

1. You have no professional skills
2. Your social skills are sorely lacking.
3. You don't listen.

None of these things are employable traits.

Go home to your parents. Beg to stay if need be. Tell them you'll be homeless if they wont help.  Then.....
GO TO SCHOOL ....and LEARN SOMETHING THAT HAS A VALUE THAT SOCIETY REQUIRES.

Does that all seem to harsh? Sorry, that's the unvarnished truth. Till you deal with these issues, your life will remain the same.


Keep doing what you've been doing and
you're going to keep getting what you've been getting

Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 07, 2017, 02:47:02 PM
None of what been said answers my questions and concerns

Maybe you're asking the wrong questions.

Instead of asking what can't you do, maybe it's time to start asking yourself what you can do.
This is not something you need to respond to but I would encourage you to spend much time meditating on it.

Quote from: jentay1367 on March 07, 2017, 03:07:30 PM
I have a question? Why should any of us have any vested interest in helping you? You're like a broken record. You treat us all contemptuously by ignoring our advice and queries. Ashley brought a good point to the forefront. You keep asking the same thing looking for different results. What do you want? Someone here to give you a job, pick you up and take you home every day? Tuck you in at night?
      You're like a broken record. As if you can't hear anything being said. You've shot every messenger that brought you the truth. You have what appear to be many co morbid issues. Here's the facts

1. You have no professional skills
2. Your social skills are sorely lacking.
3. You don't listen.

None of these things are employable traits.

Go home to your parents. Beg to stay if need be. Tell them you'll be homeless if they wont help.  Then.....
GO TO SCHOOL AND LEARN SOMETHING THAT HAS A VALUE THAT SOCIETY REQUIRES.

Does that all seem to harsh? Sorry, that's the unvarnished truth. Till you deal with these issues your life will remain the same.

Keep doing what you've been doing and you're going to keep getting what you've been getting

Ummm I still live with my parents?? I'm trying to move out cause all they do is criticize and control me despite me being an adult and job or not I'm gonna move in with a friend who is at least compassionate.

Yes I want a job and I don't care how you view me from an internet message board I do have some skills may not be much but I lucky enough to have them like I can sort and organize things I did that in my first I job got and I do have some socials skills regardless of how you're viewing me on here I am polite, I'm just frustrated right now, so I don't have much skills I at least got those going for me. And you expect me to be value to society but won't tell me how or how to go about doing that I can't afford school and I'm not gonna go into debt when there's no guaranteed I'll get a job afterward. If you know of any services or better yet companies that'll help me work with my disability I'll listen. It shouldn't matter if I have talent or not as long as it costs money to even exist a job should be a right and yes it does cost money to be born and to stay alive. I'm more than willing to work around and with my disability but so does the employer they need to understand too and anybody that disagree well I hate to it they're an ableist then and this board seems to be full of them.

I been advocating for myself since graduating high school even managing to get a two year degree how?? I had instructors that were understanding and yes I did the schoolwork as well. Took me five years to get but I rightfully earned it So don't go around saying I don't do things to help myself I'm up day and night applying to jobs don't believe me ask my counselors they been helping me I haven't got any results yet from their help but that's because they have lives and other people to help as well and I understand and respect that.

So it's my attitude holding me back and not ableist attitudes that continue to keep those with disabilities from getting a job?? But sure go ahead and believe otherwise I really don't care after all I know what's truly blocking my path.     






 

I think a mod should lock this topic before it gets really nasty one way or another. I dont want to see anyone get upset or hurt but I truly think we all have done what we can in this situation. Could some mod please consider locking this? I think it has out lived its time

I want it to end too

The entirety of your penultimate post speaks absolute volumes. Thank you. If I offended you, I sincerely Apologize. I will not post in your thread again. I wish you all the luck you can find in the future. All the best, Lisa

Emily: you should be able to lock it. The locks are located at the bottom of the screen just above the donation section.

Hugs-Ashley

Sweetie,

Lock the post if you can

Sadly we are expected to go to the world with what we can offer.

We're here to support you on your journey, to cheer you on from the sideline, as you make things happen for you.

Succeed or fail, we will be here to listen, and feedback.

In love.

Rowan

Think what you will Emily. I'll not apologize. Furthermore, like Jentay1397 I will no longer reply to this post.

I will however wish you well and hope you eventually get whatever it is you seek.

Jeanette

Request Granted, Topic Locked

Thank you

V M