Hey all,

I want to start by saying that this is a tough subject and it has the potential to be triggering for those who have a child that was placed for adoption.

I know this is a long shot, but I was wondering if there was anyone on here who had a child that was placed for adoption before they transitioned? If you are up to sharing I was wondering how they address you, how you explained it? (assuming contact is a thing)

I am struggling with how to tell my daughter's parents and how in the world she will address me in the future should I decide to fully transition (I spend most days dressed as a man and am often perceived that way, but I have not yet taken on new pronouns or a masculine name. We are using this in therapy, but not in my social life yet)
It's not like this kid doesn't already have a lot to explain, she's adopted, has two dads, (three dads and a mom if you count the hubby and I) and now her only female parental role model is accepting their true self and seriously considering a full transition to male. Sigh, I don't want to make her life hard or the subject of ridicule... but I also do not want to hide who I am from her or her parents.

This is all made harder by the fact that if I do transition I don't know what she would call me, where I could turn to for support in the adoption community, or how her parents and their friends will react to me.

I am visiting this week and do not know if any of my family has told them what I am exploring, I haven't...but will be taking my binder and male clothes with as I want to be comfortable while they are all at work/school.


If it is not a part of your life you share openly I understand.



Thank you for any help or support you can give me.
Cricket