Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on April 28, 2017, 06:59:38 AM
I hate to be the one to say it, but that's a wig I no longer own, though I have been growing my hair out since the summer of 2015.
Thank you everybody for the kind words, honestly it was kind of anti-climatic.
My hair is down to my shoulders and I went in once a month since '15, training it in. Keep it goin'! You'll be looking good soon enough! And remember something; you are always THE MOST CRITICAL person amongst your "audience".
You have only ever known you as a male (genetically or otherwise), and it's gonna be harder for your own very critical eyes for you to pass than any other person's eyes.
Others don't know you as a male OR a female, and your own preconceptions as to how this is supposed to progress are skewed by the lack of confidence that every last one of us feels.
Always remember that you have lived a life, and don't need to prove anything to anyone in all this world, ever again. You need to know here that I went through this also. I speak from experience. I was a paratrooper (4 yrs), a volunteer auxiliary cop and a Paramedic, all over a 30 year period. I raised 4 children, and had to fight to see them. I won.
And after deciding to be open and honest about my being tg, I discovered that most professional people will back up and deal with me on a straight-as-an-arrow basis, so long as I initiated. I simply refuse to be intimidated.
Once, a town resident here where I live tried teasing me rudely and crudely on line at the local supermarket.I was dressed in a simple pair of jeans, white sneakers, a pull-over light blue top, earrings and makeup. My hair was well-grown out, and styled nicely and quite femininely.
If I go out dressed "down" and without makeup, I'm always referred to as "ma'am". So when I was verbally assaulted by this moron who'd known me as a genetic male, I turned and relied upon my training as an Airborne Infantryman and made him understand that he wasn't going to treat me like that. I verbally dressed him down, and faced him down right in front of the entire store. I REFUSED TO BE MADE AFRAID.
The most interesting part of my airborne training to me was knife fighting. But where I excelled was in unarmed self defense. And it is AMAZING just how painful 2lbs of force on a thumb can be, if it's done right. And it was.
I insist on being treated like a lady. And every woman in that store applauded my actions. All 20-something of them!
I'm not advising that you do as I did. But I do advise you to refuse to be afraid. Live your life, and stand up, even to your family. Maybe, especially to your family. And remember that my prayers are always with you. Always. You are my sister.
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