Quote from: KristinaM on April 19, 2017, 12:09:48 PM
Lol at my half drunk selfie at 2am

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If I can look half as good as that half drunk at 2am on 22 months HRT I will be very happy indeed! 

Transitioned at 34 and it's been 3 years on HRT. It is possible

I'm 35 right now and looking to start my journey to a more feminized look. Seeing some of these pictures gives me hope.

If I decide later on to go all the way, at least I'll have a good start.

34 here...been 7 months 3 of those taking injectable estradiol

I'm knocking on thirty. I started when I was 27. I'll be 29 this year in August. So far the past almost year and a half my butt has become huge and I now have a b cup. Barely but the cups are filled with no gaps .

Can you transition in your 30's? Is it worth it? Can the results be "good"?

Us non-younger gals all ask those questions. We fear looking like our old selves but with a new wardrobe and all the shame that goes with it.

As you transition, three things happen:
1) The shame melts away.
2) During the start and the middle of the process, start of HRT to about the 2nd year, you will doubt and be down about so much in your life. KEEP MOVING FORWARD. One foot in front of the other. Persistence!
3) You won't be who you thought you would be. You'll become someone much better.


It wasn't til I was 39 when I started thinking about "all things trans" again. (I stopped when I was 25, long story). At the same time, I started wondering why I was so depressed all the time. After a few years of on-and-off personal research, I noticed my depression becoming much worse and my interest in "all things trans" ramping up. It wasn't til I turned 43 when I had that "A-HA!" moment when I realized that that the depression and trans thoughts intersected and I said "I am transgender" from there I buried it for less than a year until it almost buried me.


5 years of pics to show that YES IT'S SOOOOO WORTH IT!
Summer 2011, "fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life" - Dean Wermer.  He's right:



April 2014, 6 months before starting HRT and 5months before "deciding' to make the transition:



April 2015, 2 years ago today, on HRT for 7 months at this time




April 2016



April 2017




YES, It's worth it. It's VERY difficult. But soooo worth finally smiling, living life rather than existing to make it to the next hour, to the next drink, to the next escape....

It's so nice to come back to this thread every once and a while and read the updates. It's hard to believe that I just turned 40; 7 years after starting this thread.

These days I'm living a pretty 'normal' life; working, dating someone, making plans for the future. I'm actually very close friends with my ex wife and her boyfriend. We get together every couple weeks and play games or go out to brunch.

I guess if I were to say one thing it's that of course you can transition in your 30's. Or your 40's, or ANY age. At the time I started this thread I was of course terrified, and transition was definitely one of the most difficult things I've ever done, but in the end things do sort of become a new 'normal'. HRT over the long term does make changes very slowly. For me it definitely was like a slow-motion movie. I didn't have a lot of natural breast growth and did get a BA, and I've had a number of small medical things I've needed to figure out along the way.

But transition overall has turned out just fine.

I'd just recommend that anyone undertaking it at any age just make sure they do everything possible to have a good support group, support system, a good medical doc who will partner with you, and lots of patience.

I wish you all love and support in your journeys. I'll keep checking in here too

<3

Quote from: Adabelle on October 31, 2010, 12:41:21 PM
Hi all,

I'm 33 right now, and as I think about the possibility of transition I am looking for examples and stories of people who transitioned in their mid-30's. But it seems like it's hard to find examples and/or pictures of people who transitioned in their 30's. I'm seeing lots of examples of people who transitioned in their 20's, and then there's a number of people who talk about transitioning in their 40's and 50's. But for whatever reason not a lot on people in their 30's.

I just don't know what to expect. Part of my fear about transitioning is that it might be "too late" for me to transition, or that I might not pass or something. I suppose I just feel like there's not very many people in my age range that have talked about transitioning in their 30's. Oh how I wish I had addressed this all earlier in life, but as many of you have said you really can't address this stuff until you're ready to do it. Even now I'm not sure I'm ready, but I know that I am to the point in my mindset that the question must find some kind of resolution either way. Either I need to move forward, or accept my life as-is and find something to just "get by" for the rest of my years. I don't know how either of these are possible, but I hope to find the answers soon.

Anyway, I'm curious if anyone has any ideas about 30's transition in terms of how the body handles it, and whether or not they have friends who successfully transitioned around this age and turned out passable and happy. Am I right in thinking that I'm not seeing as many examples online of people who transitioned in their 30's? If so I wonder why that is.

You're in a very tough position, and I feel for you. I remember (like many of us do) the point in my life where I was faced with whether or not it would be wise to transition, and I was only age 20. Even at the young age of 20, I feared of not becoming "passable", and looking back, my fear wasn't unfounded.

After having transitioned for three years, and being very successful at it, I can say that I've even met 20-year-old transitioners who don't get day-to-day passing privilege. In my observation, at least around here, you either wind up passing if you started at 18 or sooner, or if you were an overall noticeably feminine "guy".

I've met a good deal of trans women in person. The oldest transitioners I've met, who get to enjoy passing privilege---even to the point of being able to make friends with people without having to reveal their trans status---are age 25 and age 27. Both were noticeably feminine to begin with.

Everyone else seems to have some sort of feature about them that inadvertently outs them, be it frame, height, or voice. So, in my experience, hearing that someone wants to transition in their 30s would cause me to think that they'll need a couple procedures to appear as cisgender. Short of that, I'd fully believe that they could become androgynous---but there's only so much that hormones can do.

Also, I know (in person) an individual who lives and identifies as male, but who has questioned his gender for quite some time. He's 32 and quite feminine for a "guy". Even he maintains, though, that transitioning would probably ruin his career and future prospects because of his bone structure being more masculine. His outlet is drag and cross-dressing, which still leaves him feeling unculminated and empty at times---but he leads an overall happy life.

So, that's my honest opinion. None of it is a critique, as I haven't even looked at your avatar, so as to be as unbiased as possible for you. I wish you luck.

K.C.

Quote from: femfem on April 30, 2017, 02:22:27 PM
You're in a very tough position, and I feel for you. I remember (like many of us do) the point in my life where I was faced with whether or not it would be wise to transition, and I was only age 20. Even at the young age of 20, I feared of not becoming "passable", and looking back, my fear wasn't unfounded.

After having transitioned for three years, and being very successful at it, I can say that I've even met 20-year-old transitioners who don't get day-to-day passing privilege. In my observation, at least around here, you either wind up passing if you started at 18 or sooner, or if you were an overall noticeably feminine "guy".

I've met a good deal of trans women in person. The oldest transitioners I've met, who get to enjoy passing privilege---even to the point of being able to make friends with people without having to reveal their trans status---are age 25 and age 27. Both were noticeably feminine to begin with.

Everyone else seems to have some sort of feature about them that inadvertently outs them, be it frame, height, or voice. So, in my experience, hearing that someone wants to transition in their 30s would cause me to think that they'll need a couple procedures to appear as cisgender. Short of that, I'd fully believe that they could become androgynous---but there's only so much that hormones can do.

Also, I know (in person) an individual who lives and identifies as male, but who has questioned his gender for quite some time. He's 32 and quite feminine for a "guy". Even he maintains, though, that transitioning would probably ruin his career and future prospects because of his bone structure being more masculine. His outlet is drag and cross-dressing, which still leaves him feeling unculminated and empty at times---but he leads an overall happy life.

So, that's my honest opinion. None of it is a critique, as I haven't even looked at your avatar, so as to be as unbiased as possible for you. I wish you luck.

K.C.

You're about 7 years late, and wrong. Check the post just before yours and you'll see that it's the OP saying how successful it's been, lol.

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QuoteYou're about 7 years late, and wrong. Check the post just before yours and you'll see that it's the OP saying how successful it's been, lol.

I was in my 30s when I first gave serious thought to GCS.  However, back then, the process was far more difficult and involved than today, so that's as far as it went.  As for age, I still feel that this is best done sooner than later, to get best results.  The kids today can get puberty blockers, to prevent the undesirable characteristics from developing, until they are old enough to agree to surgery, hormones etc.  That sort of thing was not an option when I was a kid.

I wish I had a smaller ribcage, but you learn to dress to your body shape. And I know I'm one of the "lucky" ones in that I'm only 5'6" tall and smallish, but fully living in the world as a girl is so much more enjoyable than living as a boy ever was.

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So after reading all the comment's in the post there might be a chance for me after all, I,m 45 only 5' 3" tall size 6 (UK) feet 32" waist  pretty fit & very long hair I,ve always worried what's to point of transitioning when I don't,t think I,m pretty enough or feminine to ever be a woman, there's some pretty amazing woman on this site so glad I joined I may be a newie here but I,ve Learnt so much already, THERE IS HOPE.

Just read the entire thread over the course of a few days and, my goodness, it was a rollercoaster, lol. Many different perspectives on age in relation to "success," and today I'm choosing to feel hopeful because I honestly don't have a choice. I plan to stay in therapy for as long as I can in order to feel comfortable in my own skin for once.

I'm 30 years old and have been "questioning" since I was ~16. Now I realize that all that questioning was really an attempt to wish it away. It was also fear grounded in reality: the difficulty of living in the world as a trans person of color terrifies me.

I'm in the process of finding a doctor to start medically transitioning. I'm excited and nervous and scared ->-bleeped-<-less.


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How have I not noticed this thread before? Even 7 years after the OP, I kept feeling the same way and have mentioned it a few times: people seem to skew towards the teens through 20s or 40s and up, with a seemingly far more sparsely populated stretch in the 30s. I'm guessing that it has something to do with most people being in the thick of relationships or careers the younger crowd do not tend to have as often, while simultaneously not having reached that critical build up point in dysphoria overtime.

I'm 35, praying I get half as good results from HRT from everyone in this thread. (Also, seriously, everyone saying they are 35-40 looks like they are 25. Same goes for everyone in other age groups, everyone looks 10-20 years younger. Well, except for the teens and 20s crowd. If they looked 10-20 years younger that would just be creepy.)

Personally I'm amazed at the progress I've made after starting my transition at the age of 30. I wasn't expecting much but I have and continue to change every day.

It's never too late!




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I think I may have some earlier posts in this thread, though as I'm now 40, I hope you won't mind my intrusion!
It absolutely can be done, and yes, it's never too late. We may not be teenagers,  but we certainly aren't old either!
I've been incredibly happy with the changes I've had from HRT and a little (ok alot) effort. X

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Wow! Really great transformation. How long have you been on hrt and pills or injections? Also how long have you been growing your hair in your last photo?

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I've been on HRT for 15 months and have been growing my hair for about 2 years :-)


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I was transitioning a little before I started HRT, then 3 years ago when I was 35 years old I started HRT.   As my previous male self I was a skinny runt (5'4" and perhaps 5'5" if I fluffed up my hair), no muscle or bulk and soft looking face, and my voice never did get really low... it was a nightmare as a high school young man and also in my 20's when I was going to university.

Now all of those miserable things as a male have worked for me in my transitioning.  I have been full time for about a year and a half and I think I am convincingly female in just about every way... I pass 100%...  so, all in all, it has been quite a thrilling and exciting transition.   

I do wish that I would have started much earlier like back when I went to university, the results would have been faster and even more convincing....   Like so many trans people... the lament that I have is "Why didn't I do this sooner?"

Danielle

Oh my god! Thank you everyone! And thank you Adabelle for starting this thread! I am 35 years old and I have constantly had these same fears and worries. I have kicked myself for not starting sooner (even though if I had, I might not have my amazing kids). This thread and all of you who have posted in it have given me so much hope for my future. While I have not read all of the posts here, I do plan to bookmark this site and read a little bit every day...especially those days I am feeling down. Everyone I have seen posting pictures on this thread, you are all so gorgeous and echoing a previous poster...I hope I look half as good as you all some day.

Anna Kristen