It's no secret. I want the raven blue black hair I had when I was in my preteens.  Everyone would stop and have to touch my locks. It was super shiny and naturally wavy to my mid-back.  And was it thick? omg was it thick. I used to envy thin haired people and wish to the gods my hair would be thin.  Now I have my wish. It's still long, but nothing like the crowning glory it used to be, plus I wonder how that color would look like on me now.  It's become a most darkest brown to my shoulders.

Purple streaks with my black hair. Or platinum blonde, haha!

Obviously I have to try blond, but I don't see myself keeping that, light brown is more me (naturally dark brown/black)

Darkish red or a lighter brown, my hair is dark brown at the moment.

Always a bit paranoid at the thought of dying my hair tho, been using Finasteride and Minoxidil due to my hairline starting to go but caught it early and I worry about the hair dye damaging my hair follicles or something, had a work colleague at my old job who bleached her hair and it went terribly wrong and her hair never seemed to recover, she always complained about it being dry and thin.

Tempted to go with blonde hair and light purple or pink streaks. Im half way there.

I am going dark red when I go full time.  If I were 21 it would be purple.

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I've had blonde highlights for the last few years, more natural color for a woman at my age, I get the touch up done every 4 to 6 weeks, strong colors don't suit me, I went for beige last time, it's natural but definitely not grey.

Quote from: Colleen_definitely on May 02, 2017, 09:32:34 AM
My natural super dark brown, nearly black color.  Just without so much damn gray in it.

Not sure if I can get away with dying it just yet, boy mode sucks.

I don't understand why you can't dye it to whatever way you want right now. What has boy mode got to do with anything?

If you're going to transition, you're going to be breaking a few societal barriers anyway. What difference does men dying their hair make? Lots of them do anyway.

I read someone else say they couldn't pluck their eyebrows because 'boy mode'. Why? Salons are filled with men who intend to stay male lining up to have their eyebrows shaped and tinted.

I am a natural brunette, i have been tempted in the past to go blonde, I ended up having blonde streaks done.

Blue!


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Any color not gray!

Quite simply. Black

Quote from: alex82 on May 03, 2017, 08:36:16 AM
I don't understand why you can't dye it to whatever way you want right now. What has boy mode got to do with anything?

If you're going to transition, you're going to be breaking a few societal barriers anyway. What difference does men dying their hair make? Lots of them do anyway.

I read someone else say they couldn't pluck their eyebrows because 'boy mode'. Why? Salons are filled with men who intend to stay male lining up to have their eyebrows shaped and tinted.

Long before I ever started any sort of transition I dyed my hair to eliminate any trace of grey that might be creeping in.  I'm not sure anybody even noticed; they never made any comments.  On those occasions when I forced myself to have facial hair I dyed that also to help it look filled in.

Now I regularly dye my hair.  I still don't have a lot of grey except at the temples but I just don't like seeing it.  My usual color is dark blond to light brown which is similar to my natural color.


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Copper red, maybe a little toward the orange side. It's not so secret, though. I have an appointment to get it done two weeks from now.

Quote from: alex82 on May 03, 2017, 08:36:16 AM
I don't understand why you can't dye it to whatever way you want right now. What has boy mode got to do with anything?

If you're going to transition, you're going to be breaking a few societal barriers anyway. What difference does men dying their hair make? Lots of them do anyway.

I read someone else say they couldn't pluck their eyebrows because 'boy mode'. Why? Salons are filled with men who intend to stay male lining up to have their eyebrows shaped and tinted.

I agree that there's nothing real to fear. But that doesn't mean the fear itself isn't real.

Many of us grew up in families with much more restrictive gender roles than average. We learned that being a man meant not caring about appearance -- brows, grey hairs, nails, clothing, and so on. That stuff was all girly vanity. And if we were trying to hide, we ran away from it.

It can be very hard to break that conditioning. I grew up in the suburban post-disco 80s, and I've had to separately tackle fear of ear piercings, eyebrow shaping, nail shaping, and hair styling. Each of them felt like a very big deal, though of course in the end, nobody ever noticed of it.

I normally had ash blond hair (when I didn't have MPB), but I would love to have raven black hair, or just black hair with crimson highlights.

i'm with Laurie.... (About) any non-bald color is far better then what has haunted me since 14. I am partial to red, my moms, and to auburn with redish highlights. Blond is OUT for sure, I am a horrid looking blond. Don't have the right coloration for it (Engineer's pallor aside). Brownish is/was my natural color after starting as a blond.

<---That color right there.  The wig I'm wearing in my avatar pic is the color that I'd really like to get to.  My natural hair is a bit darker.  I'm debating between an all at once shift once my own hair is long enough or possibly making a slow gradual shift toward that color.  I haven't decided yet.

Quote from: MeghanMe on May 06, 2017, 12:34:15 PM
Copper red, maybe a little toward the orange side. It's not so secret, though. I have an appointment to get it done two weeks from now.

I agree that there's nothing real to fear. But that doesn't mean the fear itself isn't real.

Many of us grew up in families with much more restrictive gender roles than average. We learned that being a man meant not caring about appearance -- brows, grey hairs, nails, clothing, and so on. That stuff was all girly vanity. And if we were trying to hide, we ran away from it.

It can be very hard to break that conditioning. I grew up in the suburban post-disco 80s, and I've had to separately tackle fear of ear piercings, eyebrow shaping, nail shaping, and hair styling. Each of them felt like a very big deal, though of course in the end, nobody ever noticed of it.

Feminism would cure most of this in terms of ridiculous binary stereotypes that damage potential and smother personal interest.

The 80s post disco era had New Romantics. That was your chance

Quote from: MeghanMe on May 06, 2017, 12:34:15 PM
It can be very hard to break that conditioning. I grew up in the suburban post-disco 80s, and I've had to separately tackle fear of ear piercings, eyebrow shaping, nail shaping, and hair styling. Each of them felt like a very big deal, though of course in the end, nobody ever noticed of it.

I understand that, too, even though I was born in the '80s. I mean, does anybody remember that having your right ear pierced meant you were somehow gay? Or that if you did anything to make yourself aesthetically pleasing (as a guy) meant that you were gay? Clearly, my experiences were centered around not trying to let anybody think I was gay, but they were borne out of the homophobic attitudes that people displayed around me. It's part of why it took me so long to accept that I'm a transgender woman.

Yep, born in the 80s here too, I remember the earring thing after I got a set of clip ons at some point. Still working on breaking all my conditioned responses to things. Dying my hair isn't one though, any weird color you want, so long as it isn't pink, purple, or a natural color, lol.