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A guy yesterday

Started by Larisa, May 11, 2017, 07:45:32 AM

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Larisa

Okay so while working yesterday, this guy came into where I work. I never talked to him. As he left, I saw him and thought "Wow is he cute". I kept looking at him as he walked out. I than started thinking okay what did I just think but was thinking he is kinda cute. I than thought could I ever kiss a guy and was really grossed out by such.

It was kind of weird considering Im attracted to females. I always have been. Im not putting much thought into it.
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amberwaves

Life is weird sometimes.  I have never been particularly attracted to males.  I'm not, nor ever have been, opposed to being with one, just never found them attractive.  However, I started seeing a dermatologist about my receding hairline almost a year ago.  He was incredibly nice and very curious about the transgender thing (I was pre-hormones on fist visit). He had not had a trans patient before and was incredibly curious.  It wasn't mean or probing, just nice to talk with an intellectually curious person.  Anyway, I could see that he would be considered attractive to many.  He is very bright and has a gentle touch.  I saw him for the last time about a month and a half ago (about 8 months on hrt).  I found that each visit I really looked forward to seeing him.  When he was examining my hair and he put his hand on the back of my shoulder I felt total goosebumps.  I was kind of weird and giddy.  I thought about it and realized that I think he is cute.  As I've never experienced attraction from this perspective it was out of left field a bit.  I told my wife about it and she was very amused by it.  She teased me playfully about it and we had a laugh.  I didn't expect it abd the whole thing is kind of odd, not bad, just odd.  I have yet to feel that way towards any other male. So it's a possibility for my attraction, just a very unlikely occurrence to happen.  Ultimately, it's irrelevant since I love my wife dearly.  Just wanted to let you know it happens sometimes.
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Laurie

Quote from: Larisa1983 on May 11, 2017, 07:45:32 AM
I then thought could I ever kiss a guy? I was really grossed out by such.

It was kind of weird considering I'm attracted to females. I always have been. I'm not putting much thought into it.

  Hi Larisa,

  I can't say that I ever thought a man was cute or was attracted to one. Like you I like women. I will confess a curiosity with having of having sex with one as a woman. Many of my extracurricular fantasies revolve around this idea but in them the men are faceless creatures. I do not even care about their bodies, I visualize only the import parts needed to get the job done. I'm my mind men are only a means to an end (at least at this point)
I would love to know what it feels like to have a warm living toy to play with.

  Beyond that nope I leave men for others to enjoy.

Hugs,
   Laurie
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone



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RobynD

I'm pansexual, but i still believe our preferences and attractions can slide around on the continuum that sexual preference is. As much as we human and our cultures like to paint it as a binary two position switch or a three position switch where bisexuality is "neutral". I think that fails most people.

Sometimes i think we get aversions etc from deeply buried biases that we learned as a kid. Lately women sort of seem non-attractive to me and men very much more, but i will still say that it it more based on the individual than the category as a whole. Having said that, i can say that other than a bit of facial scruff or hair, kissing a man is very similar to kissing a woman. :)

In general my sexual attraction is highly dependent on the emotional connection and that was never the case before. I can look at beautiful men and women now and appreciate their features, bodies, skin, hair, the way they dress, etc. but its hard for me to imagine anything intimate with them because i don't know them.

Accepting that these things can change a bit is in my opinion, healthy. Personal preference, turn ons, fantasies etc are all part of what makes us unique. I think you saw a nice looking guy and appreciated that visually and that is completely the norm for many of us.


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I Am Jess

I was not attracted to men in the least bit prior to transition.  About 16 months in that started changing and now that I've been with a few I have to say it's not bad at all.  Sometimes our wiring changes.....
Follow my life's adventures on Instagram - @jessieleeannmcgrath
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RobynD

Quote from: I Am Jess on May 11, 2017, 02:25:34 PM
I was not attracted to men in the least bit prior to transition.  About 16 months in that started changing and now that I've been with a few I have to say it's not bad at all.  Sometimes our wiring changes.....

I know right? There are some that are adamant that sexual preference is static and those of us who say this sort of thing are simply recounting the results of finally feeling free to pursue something that we kept buried before, but i just do not buy that based on personal experience and from seeing others say similar things.


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femfem

Quote from: amberwaves on May 11, 2017, 09:47:31 AM
Life is weird sometimes.  I have never been particularly attracted to males.  I'm not, nor ever have been, opposed to being with one, just never found them attractive.  However, I started seeing a dermatologist about my receding hairline almost a year ago.  He was incredibly nice and very curious about the transgender thing (I was pre-hormones on fist visit). He had not had a trans patient before and was incredibly curious.  It wasn't mean or probing, just nice to talk with an intellectually curious person.  Anyway, I could see that he would be considered attractive to many.  He is very bright and has a gentle touch.  I saw him for the last time about a month and a half ago (about 8 months on hrt).  I found that each visit I really looked forward to seeing him.  When he was examining my hair and he put his hand on the back of my shoulder I felt total goosebumps.  I was kind of weird and giddy.  I thought about it and realized that I think he is cute.  As I've never experienced attraction from this perspective it was out of left field a bit.  I told my wife about it and she was very amused by it.  She teased me playfully about it and we had a laugh.  I didn't expect it abd the whole thing is kind of odd, not bad, just odd.  I have yet to feel that way towards any other male. So it's a possibility for my attraction, just a very unlikely occurrence to happen.  Ultimately, it's irrelevant since I love my wife dearly.  Just wanted to let you know it happens sometimes.
That is such an adorable story lol.
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HappyMoni

I think there are ramifications involved with getting one's gender more in line. I think it is wise to keep an open mind as to what changes happen. As a guy, I could not think of being with a guy (my preference, no offense to gay folks). I could not cry, could not express my feminine side physically, and on and on. Getting my gender straightened out changed things that in turn changed other things. I believe I am probably bisexual at this point. I strongly feel that this was not me hiding, suppressing, running from any attraction to guys. I believe I have changed, very profoundly changed. Why would this be so hard to believe? Heck, we are much different people at 20 than we are at 60.
Moni
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