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Being transgender is not an option but the way I am

Started by Ella2Marques, May 21, 2017, 07:51:36 AM

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Ella2Marques

May 21, 2017, 07:51:36 AM
I still get a lot of comments, "Why did you choose to be a women? It is so much more difficult for you.". Can't these people understand that this is not a question of option? This is the way I am!

I am a transgender woman, I have been this way all my life. I was filled with guilt at a very young age, a victim of a society that did not understand what it means to be free and yourself. I tried to adapt and flee from my real self by being a workaholic, eating, drinking and doing all in extremes.
Do we have to do the same now to transgender kids? Do they have to suffer all their lives? What about giving them a chance to live like normal people and be happy?
Help to protect transgender kids from bullies, transphobia and hate. Give them a chance.
Ella Marques
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HappyMoni

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May 21, 2017, 08:07:09 AM
Ella,
   You are right, we didn't chose to be trans. From their perspective, maybe that is how they see it or try to understand it. At least it is a friendly curiosity, and that is a great time to educate. I think I would prefer that kind of question to  the silence I get a lot. They are afraid to ask the wrong question so they as no questions. It becomes the thing not to be spoken about, and I invited people to ask questions when I came out.
Moni
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ghostbees

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May 21, 2017, 08:10:01 AM
As someone from the other side, I've gotten the same question and others like 'why couldn't you stay female'

What I don't get is when people say 'you're so brave'. I don't get it tbh like I didn't choose to be trans???


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