Kim, you gave me great tips, maybe I can return the favor, I'm very lucky in the fact that I not only have a wife that supports me, she also has cosmotology training (I'd be lost without her), and a PT job for Covergirl kiosk at Dillard's, and has been doing a lot of practicing LOL (Now I know why she's so supportive)
The following works great for me and gives me a pretty darn smooth complextion, My face is full of pock marks (acne and blackheads from when I was teen/early twenties) so my complextion is a bit harder to get smooth than most, also I have very coarse facial hair.
If you don't have facial hair then skip this section and go to section B
A: First wash face with an exfoliant. Then open pores with a very hot wet rag draped across face, let cool, do this a minimum of 3 times, then shave with at least a triple blade razor and women's shave gell, then apply a good cooling cleanser/moisturizer (I just use Noxema).
B: Wash face with moisturizing soap (Oil of Olay) , let dry and do the hot rag one more time and dry.
C: (Most CD's/T-Girls know this already, but I'm including it anyway) Unless you have had lazer or some other kind of permanent hair removal, even waxing will leave some, blue beard shadow, cover this up with some red cheap lipstick, smear a bit over the 'blue' area, then blend in, next apply concealer to under eyes or other dark areas.
D: Foundation, I use 2 layers, the first is a very light coat of Dermablend Smooth Indulgence, which I apply with a foundation brush, and set with the powder. The second is an amazing product I found while shopping for nails. This is Sally Hanson Airbrush Makeup, this stuff is wonderful, spray some in the palm of your hand and apply in a semi circular motion with your fingertips, goes on smooth, silky and flawless. Make sure you carry the foundation onto the ears and the neck and blend into the upper chest area.
E: Finish by applying powder with powder brush that's one shade darker than your natural skin tone.
As for the rest, check out Revlons site, they have a Product recommender that's just terif, other manufacturers have this too, but IMHO Revlons is the best. (and my wife works for Covergirl, go figure)
Also mascara on lower lashes. (You wouldn't believe the number of women that don't do this)
2 color liner, like Black (darker color) above upper lashes, Charcoal grey (lighter color) on lower, carry this color into the corner and inner 1/4 or to just before your lashes start on eylid.
As for the cat look, try the Smoky eye look instead, it just oozes sultry/sexy.
here's a great video from U-tube on how to do smokey eyes, check out the rest of her video's too, 5 stars!
Maybe, I can get her (my wife, not the girl above) on here to add some more tips.
Kelly/Keri?