I suffer from a terrible sense of jealousy towards women. There is one in particular at my job. She was seated on the other side of the building so I rarely saw her. But now she has been moved into my section and I have to see her every day. Its just eating away at me. She is all I always wanted to be but can't.  I keep wishing she would leave the company. This has been going on now for eight years.

I think we all get that. A kind of mournful, jealous desire.
I often look at women and think do they know how lucky they are?

I had to be very conscious mot to stare at my wife's shoes and handbags longingly..it was disrespectful and drove her mad.

I become annoyed with cis women at times because they take their lives for granted. Transwomen must endure so much to be the women they are. cis women just have to be born.  Life is most unfair.

That is so true. I know being a woman is not easy, but being trans compounds the problem 10x. But I know these feelings just eat away at me. I wish I could control them.

I fully understand your feelings. As I said, I have them at times myself. But it is important not to let jealousy eat away at you. In the long run it will only deminish you. I know its hard but since you can't change what you are why let it cause you such anxiety?  Keep in mind that we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. The woman who seems to have a perfect life could be more miserable than you are. I am not saying you are wrong to be jealous. We all get jealous.  My boyfriend gets extremely jealous of cis males. But try not to let it eat at you for your own happiness.  2 negative emotions that require a LOT of energy are hate and extreme jealousy.

Hugs.

I would think that cis women probably get jealousy of cis men. The standard that men are held to is so much lower. I see my wife and all the time she puts into shaving her legs and arm pits. The time spent putting on makeup and styling her hair. Seriously she is at the salon for three hours, I only spend two hours per year getting my hair cut. As a guy the only hair you have to trim is the hair on your head and facial hair unless you want to look like a hermit.

I have had the same problem at work looking at all my female co workers and building how I would be the perfect woman, if I had her eyes and her legs and so on.

I also get jealous of women even my partner at work I get jealous of, I think she is super hot I so wish I could look like her. I want her body her hair her looks. I wish I could be her. I also get jealous of women in bikinis I wish I could pass and get away with wearing a bikini short skirts that is my dream.

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on May 26, 2017, 09:16:22 PM
she is super hot I so wish I could look like her. I want her body her hair her looks. I wish I could be her.

That is similar to the thoughts I get. When I see a pretty woman I think, "I want to be like you, and be with you". So it hurts double for me. Jealousy is such an a smothering monster.

Quote from: Erika_Courtney on May 26, 2017, 08:54:56 PM
I see my wife and all the time she puts into shaving her legs and arm pits. The time spent putting on makeup and styling her hair. Seriously she is at the salon for three hours,

Women are not required to shave pits or legs, that is their preference.  The same with makeup and hair.  I know many women who don't do all that, or do minimal on such things.

As a woman that wore pants for work all the time, I stopped shaving my legs so many years ago I can't remember when.  I only recently looked and saw I have no leg hair anymore.  I only do my pits very irregularly.
For work I did minimal makeup (as I have very little color otherwise), and wore my long hair tied neatly in a pony tail.  But I did keep it clean on an almost daily basis when I would take a shower.  Last time I went to a salon was in the early 80s.
My mother always kept her hair short as she hated all that work, and wore makeup only when she was going out on special occasions.

Men need to get over their obsession what they feel is the perfect woman.  Woman control their own lives and should not be shamed into those ideals.

That isn't to say I don't get envious of other women, but some things we can't control.

Quote from: Georgette on May 30, 2017, 12:05:51 AM
That isn't to say I don't get envious of other women, but some things we can't control.

My situation exactly. I never got jealous. For me, it more just being envious.

Thankfully, I've never felt jealous of women. If anything, I admire them and hope to emulate their fashion choices etc...As soon as I start buying females clothes I'll ask my cis female friends for help.

I so relate to what you are saying about envy.  My wife used to think I was ogling other women until I explained it.  Now we envy other women together.  Cis girls do it, too.  Certainly not to the extent that being a trans woman does, and not with the same limitations, but they do it, too.  I still get the envy sometimes, but I think over time it has faded in intensity as I have become more comfortable with myself and my transition.