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Panicking about liking "girl" things?

Started by nickayo, May 03, 2017, 09:14:15 PM

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lost._.at._.sea

I think it is normal, especially when you're pre-everything, to reject things associated to your birth sex. It's probably because when we're pre-everything, it's part of what we can do to make ourselves feel less dysphoria and more like we're making progress in our own transition. In my experience after I started passing for a couple months, I felt more comfortable liking a few typically "feminine" things that I avoided before. Like Jennifer said "all else will fall into place" :) you just gotta keep believing. And if you feel like you need to stop liking some "girly" things for a while to feel more masculine, that's fine too. Just remember that you can always revisit those likes and dislikes later and see if they still make you panic. But most likely, you will be more comfortable with them later. When I was pre-everything I used to hate sewing anything at all. I'd beg my mom to do it for me. But now I like being able to hem my girlfriends prom dress, add buttons, sew minor rips, and whatnot. It's actually a useful skill and now I'm comfortable enough with myself to enjoy feeling useful.




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Jennifer RachaelAnn

Quote from: lost._.at._.sea on May 30, 2017, 12:29:36 AM
I think it is normal, especially when you're pre-everything, to reject things associated to your birth sex. It's probably because when we're pre-everything, it's part of what we can do to make ourselves feel less dysphoria and more like we're making progress in our own transition. In my experience after I started passing for a couple months, I felt more comfortable liking a few typically "feminine" things that I avoided before. Like Jennifer said "all else will fall into place" :) you just gotta keep believing. And if you feel like you need to stop liking some "girly" things for a while to feel more masculine, that's fine too. Just remember that you can always revisit those likes and dislikes later and see if they still make you panic. But most likely, you will be more comfortable with them later. When I was pre-everything I used to hate sewing anything at all. I'd beg my mom to do it for me. But now I like being able to hem my girlfriends prom dress, add buttons, sew minor rips, and whatnot. It's actually a useful skill and now I'm comfortable enough with myself to enjoy feeling useful.

Well said. And I would like to add a couple things. How often do you see male florists? What about tailors? They are quite common and a lot of them would make the incredible hulk look feminine as hell. You don't have to be female to sell flowers or sew someones clothes.
"There are many who would take my time. I shun them.
There are some who share my time. I am entertained by them.
There are precious few who contribute to my time. I cherish them."


-Anton Szandor LaVey



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WolfNightV4X1

Also you can always still like the things you do in the privacy of your mind/space/home. Nobody has to know your personal interests and if it helps your masculine imagine projecting only your masculine side of your hobbies can help you get by just fine without the dissappointment and shame of forgetting about the things you love


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