Here's my amended list complete with 20:20 hindsight
A few notes:
I made do for the first 6 weeks of dilation with KY jelly, finding time to buy surgilube didn't make it into my list. Several people in this thread have posted recommending McKesson lubricant. I found it's main lubricating ingredient is polyacrylic acid polymer (trade name carbopol) with the pH corrected using sodium hydroxide. While i like both of these better than KY for their using polyethylene glycol instead of glycerin, PAA doesn't strike me as being as body friendly as the ingredient in surgilube which is the cellulose polymer HPMC (trade name hypromellose). HPMC is used as a lubricant in eyedrops and I've used it as an excipient in drug development, I'm more comfortable with surgilube. Also a single 4 oz tube of lube lasts me about 2 weeks so the expense isn't so much.
I never felt the need for adult diapers (huge amount of waste there as well as expense, I try to stay as green as possible), instead have relied on the mesh underwear from the hospital stay -- they wash out easily and Always maxipads have worked well along with sterile gauze pads used to line the suture lines where the sutures had separated some (this was directed by Dr Wittenberg). Thinking pantiliners would be useful was clearly far too optimistic in my case, maybe in a couple more weeks, I'm sure the ones I have will be used eventually.
Vinegar douche has worked fine, a couple of times a week and I've just made my own by putting 10% vinegar 90% water. Ive been adding probiotics to that which seems to help with odor.
Laptop, headphones books, phone charger
Pre-op
2x fleet enemas
Magnesium citrate
Post-op 3 weeks of recovery in SF
Maxi pads 18
Panty liners 12
panties, cotton, cheap 8
Regular (loose) clothing, long skirt
Nightgowns because it's SF and runs cold
As many mesh panties as can be snagged from hospital. That was 4 and has been enough, I've been washing these out daily in the shower
Arnica sublingual & topical
Aspirin, ibuprofen, acetaminophen
Surgilube or similar
Douche bulb
HRT supplies for time away from home
Vitamin E
Probiotics
Shampoo and conditioner
Things to get in San Francisco
Cranberry juice
Lots of maxi pads
Chux (aka underpads)
Sitting ring
Vinegar for douche
More yogurt than I can believe I actually ate
Gelatin or Jell-O (as a dietary source of collagen for healing)
During recovery I've really let my appetite be my guide for what to eat and ive felt very little desire for sweets or pastry, lots of desire for protein and nutrient rich veggies. When I was training hard for triathlon and rock climbing food had been all about fuel and protein for recovery from the stress of training. I'm very much back in that habit, which feels pretty good.