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Cash or Transition

Started by KarlMars, February 14, 2017, 09:31:51 PM

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If you would get paid an unlimited amount of money to not transition would you do it?

I would take the money and not transition (no hormones,no surgery) but still present as my gender of choice
6 (10%)
I would not take the money and transition ( have my hormones and surgery)
54 (90%)

Total Members Voted: 59

nyanhakase

Physical possessions have become meaningless, even the somewhat sentimental ones. Money put toward transition has had far more meaning than some dropped hobby or a better computer. I'd already been on the verge of suicide so long and waiting to be free to transition, now that I'm here it's the best value I ever could have gotten for the money I've put in. I mean yeah I'm struggling and nearly homeless, but hey, now I wake up every morning and see I have boobs and something of a figure, when I open my mouth it reflexes itself to a female range that just makes me love using it, I have actual friends, and found a bit of purpose in my life by helping other locals like myself if/when I can.

I don't think about "I could have bought a CPU or console with this session's LHR money", I instead think "I'd have to sacrifice an LHR session to afford that CPU" and "This could have gone toward something that's NOT winter clothes to sweat in all summer" when I have to get a car repair.
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eyesk8rboi

Quote from: FTMax on February 15, 2017, 08:36:59 AM
I would not take the money. I'm capable of earning quite more money than I need in order to live comfortably and afford my transition. I would have killed myself without hormones and surgery. Greed too often clouds people's judgment.

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FreyasRedemption

I'd double deal it. I mean, UNLIMITED AMOUNT OF MONEY? Even if it's just a set amount of the highest sum you can think of, I'd still use it to fund my transition. Because what would be preventing me from doing so? And if there WAS something somehow preventing me from transitioning anyway, I'll simply use said funds to remove that party from the equation. Screw unnecessary choices between two good things; claiming them both when there's an opportunity is the smart move here.
There is a better tomorrow.
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Kendra

I'd still head into medical transition, although I will admit the term "unlimited money" caused me to think more. 

Money comes and goes in varying amounts but I believe we only get to live once.

And I have a question.  In this context, are electrolysis and laser considered medical procedures? 
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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Michelle_P

 >:-) Unlimited funds?   >:-)  Take the cash, invest carefully, rake in the returns.  Say, "Ooops, changed my mind", return the principal, and transition on the banked returns.   Use some of the returns to change jurisdictions as needed to deal with nuisance clauses in any contract the funds were offered under.   >:-)

(Family of lawyers and engineers.  What else would you expect?  >:-) )

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Electrolysis - Hours in The Chair: 238 (8.5 were preparing for GCS, five clearings); On estradiol patch June 2016; Full-time Oct 22, 2016; GCS Oct 20, 2017; FFS Aug 28, 2018; Stage 2 labiaplasty revision and BA Feb 26, 2019
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Julia1996

I would transition. Unlimited money would buy some very cool stuff but if I was totally unhappy I wouldn't enjoy them.
Julia


Born 1998
Started hrt 2015
SRS done 5/21/2018
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Dena

Quote from: Michelle_P on June 28, 2017, 12:15:22 PM
>:-) Unlimited funds?   >:-)  Take the cash, invest carefully, rake in the returns.  Say, "Ooops, changed my mind", return the principal, and transition on the banked returns.   Use some of the returns to change jurisdictions as needed to deal with nuisance clauses in any contract the funds were offered under.   >:-)

(Family of lawyers and engineers.  What else would you expect?  >:-) )
Not an original thought. I think it was in a very old twilight zone that a man robbed a bank, went to jail and when he got out, returned what he took. The ending shows him living well off the interest the money earned while he was serving his time. 
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SeptagonScars

I've always had a minimum wage type of salary to live on via disability allowance, never even been able to save money, but rather need for my parents to fill in for what's missing each month to pay my bills, food and other necessities. Right now I struggle to find a way to be able to move to a new apartment that isn't on this island that I feel so stuck on and trapped in, cause I can't work.

With that said, I would not take the money to not transition, and I know I wouldn't have when I was pre-T and top surgery either. I'm not easily bribed, cause I tend to know what actually matters in the long run, and money is just a tool that can be acquired in many different ways. Even if it will take me another decade to even just figure out how. Transitioning simply matters more.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
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Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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4A-GZE

Money, easily. I could either fix one aspect of my life, or ALL except for the one. It just seems logical to solve the most problems that I can. Having unlimited funds would probably cure my anxiety right then and there, and I'd have the means to nearly end my depression, too. I'd rather live as a content man than a poor, mentally-ill woman.
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Lady Sarah

Once I found a way to transition, there was no turning back, for anyone, or any amount of money. I lost a lot of stuff when I moved to transition, most of which was unreplaceable. I didn't care. I needed to do this, no matter what. Nobody can pay me enough to go back to being miserable.
started HRT: July 13, 1991
orchi: December 23, 1994
trach shave: November, 1998
married: August 16, 2015
Back surgery: October 20, 2016
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Angela H

I had to think about this one for a little bit.  :-\

Unlimited money would mean I could set my family up so that they would never have to work or worry about medical bills ever again. And I have a big family so that would make a lot of people happy.  :angel:

There's also the nice concession in the poll that I could live as my preferred gender even if I'm not allowed surgery/HRT. And with UNLIMITED POWER MONEY I could definitely surround myself with people who would be kind to me and respect my chosen gender.

So it's really tempting to pick the money, but I interpreted this question to mean that I wouldn't be able to make any (semi)permanent changes to my body and I just can't face the thought of living with a hairy body/face for the rest of my life.

So I went with transitioning even if it's kind of a selfish answer. I just couldn't ever be really happy otherwise.  :)
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4A-GZE

I was just thinking about this again, and I realized something interesting. If you asked cis people whether they would swap sexes for unlimited money, I think a lot more would say yes than here. Being trans makes gender/sex a much more important thing than it is for the general population. That's just speculation, of course, but still. Assuming I'm not completely wrong, I wonder why that is.

Edit: I suppose it's because they have no idea what it's like to be trapped in the wrong body. It honestly doesnt sound terrible in theory, if you think about it. It's just something that's easy to take for granted unless you had to fight for it.
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RoRo

Money is just paper and the journey of transitioning is living a life that you know was meant for you. As for me there is no decision here, I would not take the money.
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CynthiaAnn

Unlimited money without HRT and surgery just does not make much sense to me, in other words, would I allow somebody/something to "buy out my medical treatment ?" NO

Somethings in life are far more valuable than money, the value realized in my transition transcends these valuations, and in many ways are priceless.

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GingerVicki

I was so unhappy that I did not even realize it. I would transition I guess because I am happier now regarding that. I still have giant life problems, but transitioning has made things better.
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