It's not for everyone, I'm sure lots of people take it to the grave, there's only statistics for people who do transition, because overwhelmingly non transitioners tell no one that they ever even thought of it. So conventional wisdom is that it is inevitable, but the likelihood of that being true is questionable.

Thank you all for your insightful comments. Every single one has brought clarity on some level, especially because we are all at different places on this journey.

I've been feeling a little more at piece this past week and am trying to worry less about every twist and turn that might come up. As of now (and it can change on a dime) we're happily moving on with our marriage (and likely relocating) with the knowledge that I must continue hormones and be "me" at home and that this could someday lead to presenting female full time. I was a little bummed at the slowness with which the hormones were working but in hind sight, I think it saved my marriage, for now. Hopefully with slow incremental changes, and the occasional leap, we can reach a mutually acceptable path to full or near transition.  But if not, I'll be okay...just starting up a different ladder:) We'll see.


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You sound so much like me. My wife is getting more comfortable with me wearing clothes that make me feel like me at home. And a little outside the house. The more I read your posts, the more it seem like there is not much difference other than I am in full dose. I've been just over 8 months and I present as male out side the house most of the time. The only thing that might give me away is that I am having a decent outcome in the breast area so far. I started with shots at first so I could adjust the dosage until I felt "right" So about the first 3 months were me finding that sweet spot to where my brain worked again. When the doctor and I discussed it we were not too surprised that I was at full dose. Hang in there and treat her like a queen, go slow and introduce new things to her slowly and let her get used to it. Then once she is ok with something. Try a new thing. It's been working for me. So far. Always putting her feelings first has worked.
My next thing is wearing a bra full time. First I have to get my self used to it. Then I will work on her getting used to it. And the last thing was carrying a purse full time. That one seemed easy. But once she got used to it I was able to buy a new purse last time we were at the mall. And she actually paid for it. But the purses can not be too girly yet. I know that for some of us it is impossible to go slow like we are. But when the wife is so important. Like mine is to me and like yours sounds to you, slow is the only way to go. Because without her my life would suck.

QuoteMy next thing is wearing a bra full time. First I have to get my self used to it.

Nothing to it, at least in my experience.  I went to a bra shop and was fitted.  I then wore my bra out of the store and went back to work.  I've been wearing one daily ever since.  I have not taken hormones, but nicely fill a 38A.