Hello I'm a young female, I told my mother about my feelings about wanting to be male and she said I'm gender fluid.
Through my life ive been very cis female I played with dolls and things but as I got older I stopped doing all the barbie doll pink girly stuff and just did gender neutral stuff. Like drawing and listening to music. I was in 4th grade when I stopped some girly stuff then I feeled pressured to start it again in 5th grade. So I did and the school was very harsh on me about that so in 6th I stopped it all and I became very emo and depressed. I started to let go of it all and I relized maybe I'm not a girl. I thought I was gender fluid now I think I'm Trans i call my self thaddeus sometimes and I like to be called he/him I feel a lot like I'm not supposed to be a girl and that i want to be a man. Thoughts Like this have happened for a year now and I just started to really think about it ig. Plz help me.

It's possible to feel transgender nb and then for the dysphoria to get worse and and you to feel binary. Or for you to become more comfortable with your body and go back to feeling nb. It sounds like you definitely are trans as you've been thinking about this for a year. Regardless of whether you like 'girly' things or not as that's an abstract concept. Cis people don't question their assigned gender only trans people do that.

Transgender is an umbrella term that includes non binary. For your mum to say you're gender fluid even if you still don't identify that way is still invalidating your gender. Being genderfluid doesn't mean you're basically still a girl. And doesn't mean you won't medically transition. I'm nb and have. And some binary trans people are comfortable enough within their body to not do so as well.

You might want to seek out a support group or a gender therapist.

Welcome to Susan's Place. It's difficult to respond to your request because you didn't say the type of help you need. We are willing to provide any information you request so all you need to do is ask. Normally the first step would be for you to see a gender therapist. There you will be diagnosed and a treatment determined. I have two links that might help you understand yourself. The first is our WIKI where you can learn more about the transgender family. The second is "the transition channel" where a gender therapist will help you explore your feelings. If there is something else I can help you with, let me know.

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Welcome !

It is definitely best to talk to a specialist gender therapist who can help you explore where you fit on the gender spectrum.

Also, Dena above, posted a link to 'the transition channel' which I highly recommend.

See you around!

Careful now, a lot of the beginning of your description sounds a lot more like an indication of your interests, not what inherently makes you a boy or a girl. While they do play a role in defining you, those arent the things that make you, you. I do get what you mean though, your past playing the normal female gender roles doesnt mean anything (in fact, children just play with whats given to them and change with age), your desire to pursue more neutral hobbies may stem from dysphoria in being perceived as too feminine and therefore a girl.

I think the main concern in what may consider you ftm or not is your strong urge to go under male name and be called male pronouns, that certainly isnt always normal and you should look into that more. I find dysphoria plays a big role in being a binary transgender guy in way of identification if that's what you are. If you feel in any way physically or mentally "off", that's something to consider.

In the end, that's something for you to come to terms with and ask, seeing a therapist may allow you to work through these feelings and concerns better, t