TW: Death and loss
I don't know if this is the right place to put it, but given that I'm angry, I guess it's a good place....
On Tuesday night I found out that my 32 year old, expecting aunt passed away suddenly.
Her boyfriend woke up for work and found her face down on the couch, the was no warning whatsoever......He called the cops and tried to resuscitate her but it was too late.
All she wanted in life was to be a mother....She has suffered from heart problems from a young age, she had a mummer when she was younger, then was diagnosed with AFIB. She had an ablation last year to fix the AFIB....but it was a pulmonary embolism that ultimately took her life.
Her and her ex Husband, who is an amazing man, got divorced because she wanted to be a mother and he was scared for her to be pregnant, he was afraid it would kill her, and ultimately it did. Everything was fine, they were both doing well, her and the baby were perfectly healthy during the whole pregnancy and she was due next month.
She was more like a sister to me and my cousin Nathan, growing up, because we were always with my grandmother. This is grandad's only child (he's our step grandfather), my mom's youngest sister and my grandmother's youngest child....There are rapists and murders walking around in perfect health and my aunt Stephanie was taken away from me, her and Baby Ryker.
She moved to Montana at the beginning of the year, and my entire family (save for me) is in Alabama....This includes most of her boyfriend Scott's family as well.
Because of her age and seemingly perfect health it was required for her to be sent to the state for an autopsy. They had to remove the baby, and according to suspicious bruising, (probably from Scott trying to resuscitate her), we don't believe he did it, he's not a violent person at all, she still hasn't been sent to the funeral home to be embalmed, which she has to be before they can transport her back to Alabama. Scott is in questioning, their apartment is being searched and investigated, and we don't even know when we will have her back.
Luckily we have received a LOT of support, which I am truly thankful for...Family friends have donated money, our gofundme has raised almost $3000 of our $4000 goal and her ex husband has given our family another $1000.
Today my mother and I had to shop for something for her to be buried in and it was extremely hard....
My grandparents are pitiful and my mother and I are the only reason the other is not a complete wreck. My cousins and I are getting matching tattoos next month for her and Ryker.....
I am so angry and lost over this and whatever shred of faith I had left in God is gone.
I am in shock and utter disbelief.
However, the amount of support we have received is jaw dropping....My grandparents church family have been very supportive and helpful. All of our old family friends are doing all they can to assist and be there for us. The funeral director here at the funeral home we will be using in Alabama is handling EVERYTHING and is going to bill my grandparents in the easiest possible way, so right now we're worried about the burying expenses and transportation for her and Ryker back to Alabama....We've received so much love and assistance, but it doesn't make the pain go away, it just made it a little less stressful because a lot of the stuff we thought we were going to have to handle is being taken care of. Everyone's work, including mine is being very helpful and understanding.
We are not prepared to handle these sorts of things. Our family does not handle sudden loss or change well and this is a big loss and change for us all......We're so devastated...Scott is devastated, her ex husband is devastated, I have never seen my grandfather cry, and I have never seen my grandmother cry like this....
I didn't even tell her I loved her...The last conversation we had was me catching up on her pregnancy and telling her I was pursuing transition...I didn't even respond to her last text message. I never thought that would be the last time we spoke. I never thought that the day she left for Montana would be the last time I would see her. I never thought we'd lose her, not like this....
