(I've been taken to task for using that word, too bad :-) )

My vagina is still very low mileage and as much as pre-op sex had been on a long slow slide of diminishing returns it was high mileage equipment that I have to acknowledge gave plenty of happy times. I also know that that now removed appendage while the center of most of my orgasms, wasn't the only way to have them and the less I focused on just that, the more I enjoyed them.

Penetrative sex had always felt like an uncomfortable role, and as I feel my way around the new landscape I often have a pang for the simplicity of knowing all I had to do was stroke it and it would get hard. I'm certain I will miss the option of thrusting penetrative sex and its simplicity. If it was a role, it was a role I played well. I also went for GCS before I got to enact a couple of fantasies which now can't be visited, c'est la vie and I'm glad to say I've now already visited long standing desires that couldn't be met before.

I believe orgasm and sensuality more generally live in the brain and especially the limbic system and of course throughout the body. Still we invest our energy in erogenous areas that are certainly affected by socialization perhaps as much as by our physical bodies.

The repurposed shenis serves on inverted and I'm of course glad it's already giving me new pleasures, having learned how to be sexual with a masculine layout and then relearned with estrogen, I'm sure the new layout of the old nerves will work just fine.

Quote from: SadieBlake on July 25, 2017, 09:27:40 AM
(I've been taken to task for using that word, too bad :-) )

My vagina is still very low mileage and as much as pre-op sex had been on a long slow slide of diminishing returns it was high mileage equipment that I have to acknowledge gave plenty of happy times. I also know that that now removed appendage while the center of most of my orgasms, wasn't the only way to have them and the less I focused on just that, the more I enjoyed them.

Penetrative sex had always felt like an uncomfortable role, and as I feel my way around the new landscape I often have a pang for the simplicity of knowing all I had to do was stroke it and it would get hard. I'm certain I will miss the option of thrusting penetrative sex and its simplicity. If it was a role, it was a role I played well. I also went for GCS before I got to enact a couple of fantasies which now can't be visited, c'est la vie and I'm glad to say I've now already visited long standing desires that couldn't be met before.

I believe orgasm and sensuality more generally live in the brain and especially the limbic system and of course throughout the body. Still we invest our energy in erogenous areas that are certainly affected by socialization perhaps as much as by our physical bodies.

The repurposed shenis serves on inverted and I'm of course glad it's already giving me new pleasures, having learned how to be sexual with a masculine layout and then relearned with estrogen, I'm sure the new layout of the old nerves will work just fine.

Sadie,
   I imagine there are as many angles to look at post operative pleasure as there are people on this site. There is great uncertainty with how things can turn out. Before having surgery, one should take a good long look in the mirror and know that the risks are acceptable. For younger folks or people with great sexual experiences, the risk is perhaps greater. I had it easy. I had my kids, I am older, and my personal sexual experiences were full of dysphoric pain. I have no idea if I will function to the point of orgasm. I am not at the exploration point after recent GCS. I will say, I have no regret. I am excited for a new life experience and maybe this is a good attitude. I am not feeling pressure to get to the big 'O' and that may serve me well. Emotionally and socially (due to my increased confidence), I made the right decision. I asked myself the question, "Would you trade never having an orgasm for not having any more physical dysphoria?" My answer was easy. "Heck yea!"

Moni

Quote from: HappyMoni on July 25, 2017, 03:01:29 PM
I asked myself the question, "Would you trade never having an orgasm for not having any more physical dysphoria?" My answer was easy. "Heck yea!"

Moni

And I asked nearly the same question, for me I asked about being rid of my social dysphoria and came to the same answer.

What has come as such a shock is feeling physical disphoria that I hadn't ever acknowledged lifted.

Today I had a colonoscopy, needless to say that wasn't pleasant. What was just fine was arriving in a skirt to Mount Auburn hospital, going through the check-in and letting them know to correct my gender and a preferred name and being met with respect and dignity at every step.

After I stopped at my favorite cafe for my first solid food in a day and a half and got to visit briefly with a dear girlfriend who heads away for 3 years in Germany soon and later got a really nice smile from a woman walking past the bus stop as I was waiting to head home.

Sounds like a wiener roast is called for! 

<running away>

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 25, 2017, 07:38:36 PM
Sounds like a wiener roast is called for! 

<running away>

And here we have the Devyl peeing on the parade.

Moderator, moderator, I'm being hounded by sausage enthusiasts. "Hot dog!" you say? Well, shame on you. I might have to sic my one eyed snake on you. Oh wait... never mind.
Moni

Sorry Sadie, they started it. Mentioning colonoscopy tends to bring out the worst in people though.

I guess we can't call Moni a "brat" anymore. 

Good one! 

Hugs, Devlyn

I don't appreciate you defaming my reputation, Julie. I am definitely still a brat. You never sau-suge a brat as me.
Moni

I gotta be frank, I relish these conversations.

Hugs, Devlyn

Yes, a brat; the wurst kind.

Like Devil Lynn says, to be frank, fudder demolition of Sadie's thread isn't kosher. It just ain't cutting the mustard. My condiments to you on your patience, Sadie. Hope to ketchup to you soon.
Moni

OMG Moni that is so "bunny". 
Maybe its time to roast the chestnuts.  If you have any!