Quote from: JoanneB on August 15, 2017, 08:19:30 PM
But what do you say when ... your boobs are bigger then your wife's? 

What I'll say is, "WHOOOHOOOO!!!!"

But it's not likely. My wife has a lot more to love nowadays, while I'm 5'5" and in the last year have worked hard to get down to about 140lbs. So I'm not expecting huge breasticles. Not a big deal to me. I'm happily married and intend to stay that way, so all I want is a pleasing shape.

As for the hair, yeah, full and long in the back, bald spot on the crown actually starting to fill in some with minoxidil, and receding in the front. I see grafts in my future...

Stephanie

Well, Larisa, rather than contributing another personal story I'll simply give you advice for you situation based upon decades of wearing long hair. You are at a life crossroads at which you are trying to be two different things at once. This is just the beginning of the difficulties you'll experience. Sooner or later everyone you work with is going to know you are transgender. I'm not sure there's any advantage to waiting until later. Think about that.

As for long hair acceptance, people always react (often negatively) when someone makes a major hairstyle change, but they usually accept it after a time. The very best way to hasten acceptance is to do everything you can to make your hair look as good as possible, whether long or short or masculine or feminine. I've always tried to wear my long hair in well-trimmed, well-styled ways, even if the styling is decidedly feminine. Surprisingly, people tend to be more accepting of this even if you present as male. Go the extra mile and avoid the bad hair days.

Although my personal re-org was quite a few years ago my answer is I can't afford a haircut.  I divorced an accountant.

About 30 years ago or more, I started growing my hair out.  I didn't know myself at the time why I wanted that.  But, when people asked, I told them that I couldn't see the point of spending $10 for the privilege of sitting for an hour in a smoke-filled (this was the 1980s) barber's shop reading Field and Stream magazine while waiting for someone to make my hair conform to the standards of the military-industrial complex.  Or spending $20 for the same privilege in a hair stylist's salon, reading People magazine, etc.

I wore it in a ponytail ever since, right up until last year.  The longest I could grow it was about shoulder-length.

To me, once you can achieve a pony tail it is pretty easy to be somewhat masculine if you choose. Buns work too. Shorter hair than that can be slicked back with pomade.

I was weekly harassed by the assistant Director of Security at a weekly meeting with hair length questions. When I wore it from behind my ears to over my ears lots of people started questioning. Most were satisfied with I like my hair long. After a Monday meeting the AD of Security caught me in the hallway after the meeting and asked me point blank. How does your boss (EVP) allow you to have long hair (I think then it was just touching my shoulders). I said the President and EVP (I used their names) supported my long hair.

Two weeks later he asked another Senior Director why I was growing my hair long. He called me and let me know. I then called the AD of Security and said I needed his help. I told him I needed to get my ID changed from my present name to my then Preferred name (now legal name). He asked me to stop by his office. I had total support from Security. They gave me some examples of trans family members and others that are trans and that they were 100% supportive. I gave two Security guys a hug that day. Their faces were precious. That Thursday I had my ID name changed and Friday the 13 2015 I came out then expressed full time. I love my long hair.