As some of you know, i have recently suffered from a burning vagina, which made my sex life literally hell. I had consulted with a doctor who presctibed me an ointment for two weeks. But as things didn't get better I decided to consult with a gynecologist.

I had my appointment.earlier today and for the first time in my life I decided to disclose I am transgender to doctor (apart from.my former endo). This is because the issue is particularly relevant. First he  saaid he would never have guessed I was transgender which was rather a compliment. Then he went on.to say "a gynecologist is a medical doctor that specializes in women's reproductive systems, not men's genitalia... unfortunately, you still have an inverted penis it's not a vagina"

I was so shocked that I picked up my handbag and left without saying a word!  Now I realise I should have said something. I feel down and depressed at the moment.

Has anyone been through a similar experience?

Ouch. So sorry for your bad experience. I think you leaving is already a very bold and direct statement. I hope you find a more accepting doctor.

Screw them, you have a vagina.
Moni

I'm so sorry you had to experience this.

I'm now at the point where I practice non-disclosure with doctors, too.

If i'm honest.
And I'm going to be, Any doctor in that situation saying something like that, implies they have that job to touch "womans" bits by desire to do so. And thus how and what they consider woman's bits effect their desire to do their job.

otherwise their opinion on what they were working on wouldn't effect them doing the job.

It really irritates me.

Quote from: Ritana on August 17, 2017, 12:56:15 PM
Then he went on.to say "a gynecologist is a medical doctor that specializes in women's reproductive systems, not men's genitalia... unfortunately, you still have an inverted penis it's not a vagina"

If he is part of an organization/HMO/clinic etc report him to the higher-ups.

I have never had that expereince, but before SRS I was advised to line up a local gyn in case there were problems afterwards... My spouse's gyn refused as she said she knew nothing about TS vaginas... But that is a lot less offensive that what that doctor said!!!

He was obviously speaking out of personal prejudice, and as I said if the is a part of practice group he should be reported to them. He should NEVER have spoken that way to you.

- Karen

Hi Ritana

The ignorant live in bliss...

Looks like you came across a bad one, my first instinct is to want to "put him straight" on a couple of points. But then the other part says this Dr has probably had these feeling for some time and what he said is just so full of ignorance. No amount of facts will change this view.

Quote from: Ritana on August 17, 2017, 12:56:15 PM
I was so shocked that I picked up my handbag and left without saying a word!  Now I realise I should have said something.

Actually, that sounds to me like a really classy way to handle the situation.  He really didn't deserve a response or even a second thought from you.

I want to believe he was talking about the difference in the tissues, yet he should be able to help anyway.
Also, even if I want to believe that... It sounds more like him being a bigot.

I agree with the sentiment of reporting him. In the event he does not have "higher ups" that he reports to, there is always the State Medical Board.

I have had a couple of problems down there and the treatment was exactly the same as a CIS women would have received with a similar condition. One thing that helps is if the doctor is a surgeon. Some women are born without a vagina and the surgery to provide them with one is very similar to ours so the doctors who do surgery should be very familiar with us.

The more I think of this, the more it has to be  bigotry. I asked my surgeon about my need for gyn. services. I asked if there were any special skills or training that a doctor would need to provide this service. The answer was no. I think you handled this perfectly. Sorry you experienced a jerk like this.
Moni

Omg Ritana I'm so sorry you went through that. Aside from the satisfaction of telling him what an ass he is I don't know as upbraiding him would have accomplished much; someone that narrow minded is certainly not going to change just because a patient teaches him something. I'd bet that that response was motivated out of anger that he'd not clocked you, i.e. he was reacting to his own ignorance with anger.

This to me is comparable to the nightmare of a sex partner reacting badly to finding out someone is trans after the fact, and equally inexcusable.

So I'm in agreement that your best option is to complain loudly to whatever organizations this idiot belongs to. Of course I don't know if you're living in an area where his behavior would generally be considered excusable -- where I live and especially in the medical practice I go to I can promise you that would be a firing offence.

Most of all hugs and accept my wishes that you may find a doc who will treat you with the compassion we all deserve.

Quote from: Ritana on August 17, 2017, 12:56:15 PM
As some of you know, i have recently suffered from a burning vagina, which made my sex life literally hell. I had consulted with a doctor who presctibed me an ointment for two weeks. But as things didn't get better I decided to consult with a gynecologist.

I had my appointment.earlier today and for the first time in my life I decided to disclose I am transgender to doctor (apart from.my former endo). This is because the issue is particularly relevant. First he  he would never have guessed I was transgender which was rather a compliment. Then he went on.to say "a gynecologist is a medical doctor that specializes in women's reproductive systems, not men's genitalia... unfortunately, you still have an inverted penis it's not a vagina"

I was so shocked that I picked up my handbag and left without saying a word!  Now I realise I should have said something. I feel down and depressed at the moment.

Has anyone been through a similar experience?

I am sorry you had to go through that. However I see where he's coming from to am extent, I mean it looks the same but your vagina does have some anatomical differences from a ciswomans. That being said I'm not sure what a "male doctor" would do with it, your best bet is just to find a new gyno.

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Quote from: Ritana on August 17, 2017, 12:56:15 PM
I was so shocked that I picked up my handbag and left without saying a word!  Now I realise I should have said something. I feel down and depressed at the moment.

What do you wish you had said?  Perhaps writing those words down and sharing them here may help you heal.

So sorry that this happened to you. 

I woke up this morning feeling down and depressed. I think being a ts is curse. Sorry girls!

Quote from: Ritana on August 18, 2017, 05:13:03 AM
I woke up this morning feeling down and depressed. I think being a ts is curse. Sorry girls!

It's not a bed of roses for sure...

- Karen

Sorry you faced this. He was a jerk. I'd also report him to the medical board for saying such a horrible thing. In some states, discrimination against someone because of gender identity for medical services is illegal, and he could be in even more trouble.

Yeah, screw that guy.

Thank hou, girls!