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Need advice on coming out to family.

Started by Skyelish, August 18, 2017, 01:21:26 PM

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Skyelish

I really want to come out to my family but just can't bring myself to do it, any advice?
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Skyelish

I have been wanting to come out for ages, I am quite young(like 15) and I am in a house where I won't be harmed(physically at least), it's just getting to a point where I can't take it anymore, does anybody have any advice?
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Julia1996

If it's too hard to talk to them you could come out in a email or even a handwritten letter. If they read it while you aren't there then they have a little bit of time to like get over any shock about it before you see them in person.
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Megan.

If you're still at school,  is there a counselor or other confidential resource you have access to that can support you? To have a support network in place before coming out can be useful,  even if you hopefully don't need it.
I don't think there is an easy way of doing it,  but when telling people,  I tried to ensure they were in a private and comfortable space,  so they could express their feelings openly (good or bad).
I'm alot older,  and I was 38 when I told my parents,  I gave them both a copy of a letter explaining my feelings,  and waited patiently to answer their questions.

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Skyelish

I do have a school counselor at school when it starts up again, I have a support group(sort of) I don't have any reason to be out of the house for an extended period of time(I got myself grounded recently) so the option to leave a letter isn't really there unfortunately, thank you for advice, I will have to talk to my school counselor when it starts up again. Thanks!.
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Megan.

Good luck,  and we're here if you need us [emoji5].  X

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Skyelish

Thank you all for the help, it is greatly appreciated by me in my quest to become myself.
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Artesia

For me, it was a prodding wife.  She knew I was going to chicken out, and she sort of forced the conversation out of me.  Since you don't sound like you're married, maybe find a friend that you have discussed your desires with, and have them there as added support.
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Felix

As young as you are you don't have much control over your situation. If I were you I would try to move out first before telling your parents.

My family are hardcore religious so I didn't tell them much, and until a few years ago I think the ones I told thought I was just gay. They didn't know what trans meant.

When I came out to my dad I kept it very simple and told him my new name and pronouns, and I reminded him a few times over a couple years. Eventually it got silly for him to use the wrong pronouns.

I agree with Julia that a written thing is good for carefully saying what you want to say, and with Megan about having a network. Good luck!
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