Who of you have felt like this since I have begun transition and have been living more as myself I am not fulltime yet I find i can be lonely in a room full of people that I have known for years ,more and more I find I only can connect with people that I am out to and interactions with others seems fake and distant

    bobbisue

Quote from: bobbisue on September 10, 2017, 10:30:40 AM
   Who of you have felt like this since I have begun transition and have been living more as myself I am not fulltime yet I find i can be lonely in a room full of people that I have known for years ,more and more I find I only can connect with people that I am out to and interactions with others seems fake and distant

    bobbisue

I have. Even with people I am out to I often still feel lonely. Only with other trans people am I truly comfortable with.

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I can relate to this. Seems like it's easier to be myself with people that already know. Even if I still look the same.


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  I don't have this problem. Why? Because I am almost never in the situation described.
  I no not have many real life friends, and most of those I do have are not near me. I do not make friends easily. I'm too much of a mean rotten old fart broad and keep to myself. I've lived in this apartment since 2004 and do not know my neighbors. The friends I do make, have been people I met online and some of those I have been able to meet IRL to my delight.

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   Laurie

I always tended to be shy, even more so in a crowd of people I don't or hardly know. Funny thing, after finally coming to accept me as Me, I have all these interactions now with complete strangers. I chalk it up to actually feeling genuine.

BTW - I am also far from "Out", living primarily as male. Yet, this strange new phenomenon occurs in both male and female modes

I feel like that in general, I never did fit in, before or after transition, and more than likely never will. The only time I don't feel isolated is if I happen to find someone who I "click" with well. And that's just rare in general. They don't have to be trans or even some sort of ally to click with me. They just have to be a particular kind of thinker and they'll know exactly where I'm coming from.

I happens very occasionally and for a brief while I feel like I'm not "alone". Otherwise, most people are quite separate from me and I don't feel much closeness to them.

I have felt like this for years, before I even began thinking that I could be transgender. Looking back I never felt like I was like everyone else, to the extent that I felt isolated from them even while I was interacting and having fun. It was always a weight in the back of my mind. I'm starting to wonder of that feeling was due to being trans all along.

Quote from: bobbisue on September 10, 2017, 10:30:40 AM
   Who of you have felt like this since I have begun transition and have been living more as myself I am not fulltime yet I find i can be lonely in a room full of people that I have known for years ,more and more I find I only can connect with people that I am out to and interactions with others seems fake and distant

    bobbisue

yes! I relate to this a lot! I'm part of the local punk music scene where I'm from and this year I decided to come out to some close friends and that made us even closer, but it definitely feels odd interacting with people who don't know yet. I have a lot of casual friends that I pretty much just exchange quick pleasantries with when I see them, so once that's out of the way I kinda stand alone in a corner all night if I don't have anyone in the know around.

I've been intentionally distancing myself from some of my old friends too. unfortunately I had a few that are just not good people when it comes down to it, and it still feels a little weird to not get invited when they go out and do things, so I guess they noticed that I've been avoiding them, or it's equally as likely that they just avoid me now because I'm sober and all they do is go out and drink.

there's some good and bad aspects of friendship during transition, you really find out who's worth keeping around 

I have always felt alien.
Amongst but not a part of events. It's quite nice in some ways, because it means that they are not stressful.

Rowan