I'm trans, but not on any treatment at this time.  And tonight my wife and I are going out to see the movie "It" and she was asking me to dress in woman's clothes for her for the night.  We might even get dinner afterwards, but probably not since it will be so late.  I'm really nervous because this will be the first time going out like this, and I'm not sure if I should even do it.  Of course I want to, but I don't want to set myself up for failure.  I do think I have a fairly feminine look and appearance, but I'm still working on my voice... and so.. yes! I'm very nervous!  And maybe a little excited too.
My wife is supposed to help me to look appropriate with makeup and the clothes, and I do have a b-cup breast forms, and so those will definitely help me... but...
Could I get some tips?  That would be a big help.  Thank you!

~Ashley

Have fun, that's my tip!

Hugs, Devlyn

You cannot cook omelette without breaking eggs. You cannot enjoy something new without leaving safety of known. Don't argue with your wife and go for it. She wouldn't invite you if she isn't comfortable with you being that way. Enjoy, as I am sure you will be. I predict lots of excitement and adrenaline rush after it's done.


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Be grateful for having such an understanding wife and care what anyone else thinks. People don't really care that much.
Have fun!

Ok, I think I'll just go for it.  I know I'll be glad that I did.  I suppose I could just have my wife be the one who talks to others lol...

~Ashley

Quote from: AshleyPixune on September 19, 2017, 01:59:51 PM
Ok, I think I'll just go for it.  I know I'll be glad that I did.  I suppose I could just have my wife be the one who talks to others lol...

~Ashley

If your wife is ok with doing the talking that can really help. It took me a while to get my self confidence to a point where I was happy talking to people so my partner did a lot of talking in the beginning.

Go have fun, your going out with your wife who will have your back, don't over think it to much and try to be as confident as you can.

Have a great night, with each outing you should get more confidence until one day it just feels normal

I wish you both the best on your first girls night out and look forward to hearing how it goes!


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Ashley,
I would rely on your wife to take the lead for a while. Before my paperwork was changed over, my partner would pay the check, and make the vocal arrangements as well. I made this suggestion before on another thread. I liked  wearing sunglasses when I first started going out. It was because I could see where people's eyes were without them seeing mine. When first  going out, we are convinced that everyone is starting at us. When I used the glasses I  saw the reality that no one cared, they were too busy with their lives. Also, maybe focus a bit on your partner. It  will help you be less nervous. Nervous acting people draw attention. Enjoy it. Real life experiences will tell you so much about yourself.
Moni

Hi, I'm the wife. I think our first night out was very good. I married a beautiful person    

Quote from: senterkitten on September 22, 2017, 12:24:53 PM
Hi, I'm the wife. I think our first night out was very good. I married a beautiful person

Really glad to hear it went well!


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Quote from: senterkitten on September 22, 2017, 12:24:53 PM
I married a beautiful person

I thought it was the other way around!   

I would love to have had a wife like you.  Back when I was married, my wife liked to see me in pantyhose or stockings, but that was as far as she was prepared to go.  I got into full cross dressing after we split.  We divorced for other reasons.

Ashley dying to know how your nite out went!

Karrie

I dressed the first time for my therapist and it was really scary. But nobody said anything on the way to the office. The next time I came out of her office and into the lobby and there were 7/8 kids in the waiting room. Oy KIDS. The third time was the last two days of Gender Odyssey and there were 1700 others just like me. It gets easier every time and a supportive wife is so valuable. I've had mine for 35 years and I can't imagine being without her. Will not be going full time but I will still have the opportunity a couple times a week to be fully me. Between the support groups and the doctors and the friends I make.

Just hold her hand and enjoy your life! You will both have such a great time by not hiding anything.

My wife often dresses me as a girl when we go out and we both enjoy it. Both the dressing activity, and the outing!

Well done you two! I'm not sure I could do that with my OH, but he is old and wrinkly and wouldn't look so good! I'm really happy for you, you are clearly so in love.

Syl

We have gone out twice now, and had a blast. I think Ashlynn will get more confidence at time goes. (She makes me giggle like a little school girl) The only problem has been the facial hair.... I don't know how to help on this one. 

Quote from: senterkitten on September 27, 2017, 05:42:44 PM
We have gone out twice now, and had a blast. I think Ashlynn will get more confidence at time goes. (She makes me giggle like a little school girl) The only problem has been the facial hair.... I don't know how to help on this one.

After extra-good shave, cover the shadow with good foundation, add to it orangish or reddish lip stick to make it balance the blue. Then cover again with another layer. Or better - there are special neutralizing foundations.

For the long effect seek permanent hair removal.

For details, youtube has a video of every technique...

I've been staying off the internet as much as I can to spend time with family, I'm sorry I haven't come back here in so long!

The first night we went out we went to see a movie together.  When I shaved, I shaved extra close... so close in fact that I started bleeding out the pores on my chin, and upper lip.   

My Faith (SenterKitten) helped me to control the bleeding, and to cover it up that night, but it really was a disappointing part of my night because I became so self conscience about it.  Luckily, Faith took control and told me to go find a seat while she got us popcorn and a drink.  It ended up being a wonderful night!
Before we left for the night though, my 13 year old daughter saw me, and she told me she thought I was someone else entirely.  That was something I had to giggle about.

And then, just on Monday of this week, Faith took me out to dinner with the kids at a Mexican sit down restaurant.  It was really nice, because she sat down next to me and we shared our food.  I was a little paranoid that someone was watching me, but I wonder if it was because we were two ladies sitting together... I did notice that my larynx (Adam's apple) was fairly noticeable and so I tried to cover it up.

I just say your incredibly lucky to have a wife who actually wants you to dress as a woman. How I long to be able to even tell someone, let alone be encouraged by my girlfriend!! Atb xxx

Quote from: Alexis Beau on October 26, 2017, 09:41:35 PM
I just say your incredibly lucky to have a wife who actually wants you to dress as a woman. How I long to be able to even tell someone, let alone be encouraged by my girlfriend!! Atb xxx

Alexis. Like I told someone else, and my experience started with my first wife in the late 70s, if this is something you know without a doubt, you need to explore, then it is a part of you. We are discovering new things about ourselves every day. Even women do. We are human. We grow and change. We do not stay the same. We evolve. What desire you have is a part of you, your evolving you.
The one that we live with, that has agreed to stand by you through the good, bad and ugly, deserves our trust and respect, not our fear. If she truly loves you she will continue to stand by you. You just have to give her time and space to process this new info.
And remember, a trans life is narcissistic. We have a tendency to only think about how this is affecting us. We need to remind ourselves to put ourselves in their shoes. How would we take it? So give her time. She will let you know when she has reached a decision. Then you will know how strong her love is. Sometimes when we look for a partner we tend to be drawn to those we want to emulate, not who they really are. We don't see that until something like this happens. So it is good to stir the pot to see how it is going to blend.

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Kitty wrote: "...a trans life is narcissistic"  Off topic perhaps but Kitty - I couldn't agree more.  We often times forget this.  We all read so many posts about how we feel when our friends, family, and partners don't accept us.  We often times forget the affect on them and how they feel.