Quote from: Julia1996 on October 03, 2017, 08:43:22 AM
That actually made him suspicious but after he realized I didn't want anything from him and hadn't broken something of his he enjoyed it.

I was leaking tears all over my desk at work but now I'm laughing.

You're really lucky. Your father sounds like an archetypal good man and your brother is following in his footsteps.

Yes that is truly hard and i would have cried a lot about that when i found out. Society is getting better but large swaths of it still suck and HS can be one of those places.

Still, you should not let the actions of other small people dictate anything and you didn't and he didn't, that is integrity that is love, that is family. Everyone has burdens of some sort for sure. You contributed to his for a time but also you probably made him stronger and more zealous about his values.

Also, you and he paved the way a little further, for a world in which such mean prejudice will fade away.

Quote from: Julia1996 on October 03, 2017, 08:43:22 AM
I didn't talk to Tyler about this. Since he had never told me about it I figured he didn't want me to know. But I did make him his favorite dinner and a red velvet cake which is his favorite cake. He asked why and I told him  just because I loved him and I gave him a kiss and hug. That actually made him suspicious but after he realized I didn't want anything from him and hadn't broken something of his he enjoyed it.

I did talk to my dad about it though. He was curious about why I had made Tyler's favorite foods. I asked couldn't I just do something nice for Tyler. He said I could but I never did so he wanted to know what was up. Smart ass! I do lots of nice things for my brother! So I told him about finding out about Tyler's high school troubles. He knew all about it. He had had to go to Tyler's school a few times for his fighting. I asked him why he hadn't ever told me about it and he said because Tyler didn't want me to know because he knew I would feel bad about it. I told him I did feel bad about it and that I also felt bad about him cutting ties with my uncle. He told me I didn't need to feel bad. He said he had realized a while back that I had no choice but to be what I am and that I was just born that way. He said Tyler knew that too. He said I hadn't asked Tyler to do what he did, that he chose to do it. Just like he chose to cut contact with my uncle. So I didn't need to feel bad about any of it.

They made the choice to support and love you. So don't feel bad about it, just be thankful for the family that loves you.

Jesus I hate welling up. So thank you Julia. I was going out tonight and now I have to redo my freakin' makeup.

But seriously it does sound like you have two really good men in your life. So just appreciate them.

Quote from: RobynD on October 03, 2017, 12:18:02 PM
Yes that is truly hard and i would have cried a lot about that when i found out. Society is getting better but large swaths of it still suck and HS can be one of those places.

Still, you should not let the actions of other small people dictate anything and you didn't and he didn't, that is integrity that is love, that is family. Everyone has burdens of some sort for sure. You contributed to his for a time but also you probably made him stronger and more zealous about his values.

Also, you and he paved the way a little further, for a world in which such mean prejudice will fade away.

Love this reply.


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