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Did people treat you differently once you started passing?

Started by suzifrommd, June 14, 2015, 05:50:17 PM

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Did people treat you differently once you started passing?

Yes. Everyone treats me differently now that I pass.
People who don't know I'm trans treat me differently. Those who know treat me the same.
No. Everyone treats me the way they did before I passed.
I'm not passable, but I want to see the results.

Tommie_9

Yes. Women are much more friendly to me and will start a conversation with me when I'm out shopping. This didn't happen as a man. Men don't speak to each other. Women are more social with each other. I've had to work on my female voice and have gotten better at it to the point where I'm not as nervous about it. Men hold doors open for me and smile at me. I didn't realize how much cis men are always on the hunt until I got flirts. Uncomfortable but thrilling at the same time.

In the workplace, I haven't discussed being transgender and wear men's pants and shirts, sometimes gender ambiguous women's knit tops or sweaters. In that setting I do wear pierced earrings, a bracelet, a necklace under my shirt, and a more feminine hairstyle. They don't treat me any differently. Even though I'm married to a woman, they just think I'm gay, and I'm fine with that. Family? I never see them. I love being female as often as I can.
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ainsley

Ok, I replied a couple years ago to this, but now I am more in a position to offer a general perspective. 

I transitioned to female.  I don't say that I pass or not; I am just a woman now.  I am seen that way to the vast majority of people I encounter, if not all.  And, yes, I am treated differently than when I was presenting male--I am treated like a female all of the time.  In person, on the phone, via textual conversations, you name it.  My outward appearance, behavior, and voice drive every bit of that for new encounters. 
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