When a guy fall in love with you , and discover your a transsexual and start believing he is a homosexual , cant we say he felt in love with a girl and reassure him he is not a homosexual ?

Quote from: Sosophia on October 04, 2017, 10:06:59 AM
When a guy fall in love with you , and discover your a transsexual and start believing he is a homosexual , cant we say he felt in love with a girl and reassure him he is not a homosexual ?

LABELS, BAH!! To HELL with labels!! That's the consensus I've come to! See, I'm transgender, MTF, & I want to be with a male, but not until I "feel right" as a female. I mean, despite being AMAB, I'm def a female, but I won't "feel right" until I undergo sexual reassignment surgery (vaginoplasty). In the meantime, does my attraction to men make me a homosexual? Or am I straight cuz I'm actually a female? Or, since I don't feel like I'm "completely female" (*), am I some kinda cross, like a homoheterosexual or some such nonsense?
Trying to make sense of labels in the situations trans folks find themselves in is enough to drive you nuts, so I've just given it up altogether. Now I just consider myself a female, & when I finally have the SRS (11 months seems like an ETERNITY...), I'm just going to call myself "happy."

(*): I just wanted to clarify that this is how I feel about MYSELF & MYSELF ALONE!! I understand many are "completely female" despite what "parts" they have!

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Quote from: Sosophia on October 04, 2017, 10:06:59 AM
When a guy fall in love with you , and discover your a transsexual and start believing he is a homosexual , cant we say he felt in love with a girl and reassure him he is not a homosexual ?

Well you are a woman and yes he fell in love with a woman. So no, he is not gay. Cis-gender people misunderstand that we are gender we feel we are. I would reassure him yes, there are many resources out there that support that. He is not gay for dating a trans such as yourself. Good luck and hope it all works out!!!!

I m not with one , but at times there is too much of them , and , sometime i tell it to them , and then they feel guilty.
I do not have my surgery yet , and dont feel ready for a relationship yet.

Have to agree with Jessi. To heck with labels. Labels are for canned food and medication bottles.


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Sexual attraction takes place via the perception of secondary sex characteristics, not genitalia.

If a trans woman is perceived as being female via said characteristics, then straight men find her attractive due to the same criteria he might find natal females attractive.

Straight men who indicate otherwise are liars and tend to be repressing the fact they find "passing" trans women attractive because some whacked about perception about the aforementioned makes them think they're gay when nothing could be farther from the truth.

Even some of the most "progressive" men have this pathological paranoia about themselves being perceived by others as gay. It crosses all boundaries of belief and comes from an internal fear of the Self and that the metaphorical boundaries that wall off categories from each other are more porous than many realize.

Trans people blow apart the walls that separate categories, which is often a fundamental axiom that formulates someones' worldview, and the collapse of a worldview axiom threatens the worldview itself and creates a subconscious fear that one might now who they are anymore.