You say all these things but seriously, every other day lately it feels like I need something like this done still. I had two occasions literally yesterday where I swear it had to be my body shape that got me misgendered. Only my face is my saving grace especially since my ffs.
A: I was at gaymerx east, wearing an oculus rift playing some VR. I was pretty sure I heard the staff using he pronouns on me after some technical issues until I took the rift off. They clearly weren't looking at my name tag either.
B: Walking back home on dark streets in NYC. I walk past a homeless person, I'm initially asked, "Do you have any change sir?" until I get closer, he then switches and says sorry ma'am. Clearly it's my outline that is an issue.
I feel like my only recourse quite frankly is to wear skirts/dresses all the time and to be frank that is just not me. I need to fix my body shape, and I don't know how to other than something like this. I'm post op, barely 26, been on hrt for 8 years, 5'10.5", in decent enough shape (I kickbox against a bag like 2-3 times a week and do not weight train), and my shoulders are quite frankly huge. It bothers me to no end--its not like I have an oversized ribcage (38 inches...I can still buy bras retail). It is legit my shoulders and I know it is.
To be quite frank too...I was also looking at my mom and recalled her type v shoulder separation about a year ago from a bicycle accident, she had it operated upon at NYU langone. The x-rays clearly show a clavicle jutting upwards so clearly the separated part was the clavicle. She has one shoulder that is clearly bigger than the other due to it and definitely had a difficult recovery. However, 6 months after, I haven't heard her complain about anything and her operated upon shoulder is clear smaller than the other one. She does yoga, biking, whatever now and can lift things from up high just fine, and she's in her late 50s.
Idk...I'm just leaning more and more towards getting this done lately. I've gone through GRS (with complications), I've gone through FFS, both were beyond worth it but super hard. Thus, I really want to hear honest opinions about what it's like with this guy or if there are other doctors willing to do it. I'm not interesting in hearing, "don''t do it". Please people...the only thing that's stopping me right now is that I really just want to start really living my life as opposed to just throwing money/saving for surgeries like I have since I left college 5 years ago. Physical pain is nothing if it solves the emotional pain. Le sigh...