So in less than 6 months I will be on T. And there's something (that I used to think would be fine) now that T's at my doorstep that I can't stop thinking about. I'm in my early 20s and I enjoy going to bars, clubs meeting and spending time with various women when I can. I'm sort of I guess afraid that post HRT i'll be "less than" in some way hookup wise.

Idk if that makes sense but anyone had that sort of issue or thought when they went on T? For so long HRT was a pipe dream for me that I dont think I ever truly thought out the logistics of how my life would drastically change in that particular social setting. Now I'm getting all these thoughts of "oh god I'll need to get bottom surgery as soon as possible" to get back a semblance of what I'm accustomed to. Apologies if this all sounds vain but Idk if this normal or if I'm just getting pre T jitters or what not

I think it definitely makes sense, and I had similar thoughts and feelings for quite a while on T as well. Even though, unlike you, I never actually had a robust romantic/sexual life when I was living as a woman, I still at least felt that--if I wanted to--I could, and I'd be a complete package, and someone interested in women would have no problem at all being interested in me. But transitioning, especially during the first year, turns us into something "in between". We're not women anymore, but we're also not fully men.

And although there are some people that are attracted to such ambiguous bodies, the majority of people are attracted to female bodies or male bodies or both, but not both on the same person. I don't know if that is part of what's contributing to your current feelings? But it was definitely something I thought about a lot before I started passing almost 100% of the time and fully living as a man. Even now, though, I don't feel totally ready to start dating yet. I'm almost there, I'm closer than I was before, because my appearance is much less ambiguous now. But I think getting top surgery will help even more, and ideally, bottom surgery as well.

It's a tricky field to navigate, and I wish you the best of luck!

I honestly don't feel as if I'm a "in between female and male" person, despite only being on T for almost 11 months.  I've always felt male, even more so now.  And that's with no plans of having a phallo. 

To tell the truth, T has made me super-horny!  I masturbated at least a couple of times a day at first.  I'm now down to about three times a week, and only because I need to give my junk some rest due to ending up raw afterwards. [emoji37]

I'd think that potential partners would pick up on the confidence you will have once you start on T.  I know that my boyfriend did.  He says I'm "no longer self-conscious" like I was pre-T.  I have no real problems getting in the mood like I did pre- T! 

Ryuichi 

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Quote from: Bacon on October 26, 2017, 11:03:47 PM
I think it definitely makes sense, and I had similar thoughts and feelings for quite a while on T as well. Even though, unlike you, I never actually had a robust romantic/sexual life when I was living as a woman, I still at least felt that--if I wanted to--I could, and I'd be a complete package, and someone interested in women would have no problem at all being interested in me. But transitioning, especially during the first year, turns us into something "in between". We're not women anymore, but we're also not fully men.

And although there are some people that are attracted to such ambiguous bodies, the majority of people are attracted to female bodies or male bodies or both, but not both on the same person. I don't know if that is part of what's contributing to your current feelings? But it was definitely something I thought about a lot before I started passing almost 100% of the time and fully living as a man. Even now, though, I don't feel totally ready to start dating yet. I'm almost there, I'm closer than I was before, because my appearance is much less ambiguous now. But I think getting top surgery will help even more, and ideally, bottom surgery as well.

It's a tricky field to navigate, and I wish you the best of luck!

I think you put it exactly right -even though I never did/do feel female I was(am) female bodied and that's an easy field to navigate when seeking purely physical interaction. Then again my dysphoria did manifest in ways that made me an awful romantic partner so maybe it's a temporary tradeoff until I find myself feeling right.

-Ryuchi - I don't feel in between but I feel wary that I will once HRT starts. Idk maybe not being a part of an lgbt community's contributing to thinking I won't find any love out there(temporary or otherwise) once I'm officially a physically complicated individual.

"Physically complicated."  Interesting term.

I simply feel like a man with a small dick (thanks T for giving me one!), so I'm learning what my limitations are. 

I've heard of other guys using strap-ons, pack-and-play devices and whatnot.  I'll eventually get to those, but for now, I'm enjoying having this new body part and finding out what it likes.  Not to mention what it can and can't do.  I'll eventually move to toys that enhance sex, but for now, the exploration that my genderfluid boyfriend and I are learning about this body part only serves to enhance our sex lives.

If I wasn't in a relationship, I'n sure that things would be different.

Don't worry about love.  It'll arrive.  Be patient and don't give up.

Ryuichi

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Ryuichi- Thanks man, I think the physical changes will hopefully be enough to ease my current thoughts & insecurities about the whole thing.
Ms elkie I'm not sure if you're being serious or not... firstly I've been shaving my face since I was 14(blame my genetics) it's not a new concept for me and the benefits far outweigh any possible "downsides" -which I don't even consider shaving to be one. I'm simply exploring my feelings concerning how it'll affect a certain aspect of my life that I hadn't thought mattered much until now.

One thing I notice is that HRT may make you less "bothered" about things. I'm even saying it might make you feel less dysphoric in general about having woman's junk. Not to the point of dropping transition in my case, but I'm less worried about the anatomy and more about getting rid of the chest.

I notice several others on here have mentioned something that sounds similar after HRt as well... previously being so disgusted they didn't want to even go down there for any reason, to being fairly tolerant of it while they wait for surgery, or happy to keep it.

So that's one issue that might be solved, but it won't solve the practical problems of what a potential partner (may) expect. That's still a very real consideration and issue for many of us.