Quote from: LanaR on November 25, 2017, 05:41:47 PM
From what you have said it sound's as if you are in, what in Australia would be considered, a De facto relationship and your partner would be just as entitled to those financial benefits as if you where in a formalised marriage, should your relationship break down for some reason.
Yes I am in. But right now marriage is just not the right thing for me. I was really burned last time But hey if two people want to marry with vows and so on that is great fro all nations without the specifics or penis and vagina.
I guess what I am saying is that I used to have an excuse and now I don't. But someone that loves you should accept it if you don't want also. I was pushed into with a woman and because of pressure and that did not last and all she got was only half of everything.

Oh she liked all the girly aspects except for one and that was physical and feminine when I came out. Nine years down the drain. but she was quite OK with the shopping, the movies the messing with the hair and all of that, just not the nail polish, the clothes and shoes on me.
So "On board" or not I think that state and nation sanctioned marriage should be outlawed all across the board Cis, Trans and Gay. But that is just me. I have no problem with marriage in general but do we really need it? I have no problem vowing my love to my BF right now in front of God and Family but later he may become a D***head and too controlling and do I really need the state to allow me to leave him according to the laws?
As a matter of fact I think marriage laws are too lax. If I met someone in a bar tonight, I can be wearing his ring tomorrow and be legally married. For APPX a year I can get it annulled but what happens in seven years? 10 years? 20 years? And then you have the so called sanction and institution of marriage which may keep some in the "institution" instead of leaving. And then again and my BF will back me up on this, it may become so bad for one party because of social conditioning that the situation becomes extremely volatile. I don't need a state or a religious institute sanctioning and approving my love and dedication to anyone.
So yeah I do but I think the state and religious sanctions should be banned for everyone but that will never happen. So the opposite should also be available for everyone and not just cis. But for the record I believe marriage should be outlawed for
everyone. The main reason is that I don't want or even need a state or religion tell me who I can love and dedicate my life to.
I think people get too caught up in the marriage subject. I can have a ceremony with family and friends stating my love for my partner while dedicating myself to him only for the rest of my life and vice versa. So why do I need a religious figure pronouncing us as partners, husband and wife, wife and wife or husband and husband?
But yeah I am on board and though sometimes it makes me a little uncomfortable either it should be available to all who love one another or outlawed for all.
I am a little different than normal though so... Take that at face value and with a grain of salt. But one thing I have always been is consistent. My ex always hated when I trashed the institute of marriage in both state and religious confines. Jesus Freakin' Christ I am so happy she wanted a divorce when I came out. But she was extremely controlling and narrow minded too so it was kind of a relief and worth starting over again.

But when it comes to marriage then think really hard about it and remember that it should be for "until death we do part". I don't know if I can deal with that right now even pushing 50.