So I get thru the whole session at weight watchers today and nothing happens. If I would have just left, nothing would have happened. But nooo I wanted to get a few things. And of course they were all 3 pink. A metal lunch box type box, a shopping bag and a tote bag. I left my wallet in my purse that was in my car so I had to go get it so I could pay. I don't know if it was just my French mani and pedi that gave me away. Or if it was the combination of the pink things, my nails and my Vera Bradly wallet. But a real nice older lady who is alway there that knows me and has seen me in other places around town asked me if there was something I wanted to get out or something like that. She was hinting toward my nails and I tried to play it off like I just like getting my nails done and have been doing it since 2013. Which was kind of true back then. She kept pushing me in a nice way. Telling me it was ok and she loves me. And being so freaking nice about it. So I gave in a little. Not saying very much. Just confirming her suspicions. When I left I was smiling. I guess it was a big weight lifted off my shoulders. Just not knowing what next week will bring. I can't be upset because it was coming from a place of love. She is an ally. So I am happy. It's just I was not planning on being out. But I guess it was inevitable. Because now I am showing big time in the breast area. I had a one size bigger hoodie on today and it no longer covers my girls anymore. So I think I am going to be out to more people than I know.


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Nora, I live this story.  I can feel your emotions throughout.  I'm glad it turned positive too.  Yes, I think the more this happens, the happier you will be.

Bari Jo

Nora, that's great.  Go with it, you don't really have to explain much, I don't really think people are really wanting your life story.  What I think they want is just to sort of make you feel comfortable, and you let them know that they are doing that by just being pleasant and proceeding as if you belong there.  Takes time, but I think we know when we cross that abyss.
     My wife and I were shopping this past weekend.  We were getting "can I help you ladies" with no subsequent outing so it was really nice.  I'm not in the least pretty, but maybe pleasant looking older chick on a good day.  I had my eyes done at the Clinique station at Macy's and my wife was with me and then left to look at some clothes while we were playing with shadow and colors and such.  The young girl, 20 something, was really sweet and when my wife left she said, "is that your friend?".  I just smiled and answered, "no, actually she's my wife, I'm a trans person.  We've been married nearly 40 years".   Response was a big smile and no muss, no fuss.  She said she thought that was very nice and I swear, she went way out of her way to teach me eye stuff and do anything she could to help.
     All nice people want to do is engage, and when they make an effort I think so should we.  It's getting easier to just forget the whole trans part of who I am even if I get "sirred" and just be the "me" part.  Took awhile, but it'll happen to you too if you let it.  Your recent experience is just one of many to come, so be ready.  Toni

Oh wow, I thought this was going to be a negative post and was holding my breath the entire time. When it went well, I was so relieved! Congrats Norma!

Excellent story!!

This adds to the notion that most coming out stories are positive experiences.  Not all by any means but most.

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The only thing about my transition that I don't like is that I was afraid of bad reactions and waited longer than I could have. It has surprised me so much that people have reacted so well to my 'change'! Only one Bad, a few ?s from family, and so many 'good for you's!'  That's not to say there have been no negative reactions, but none really nasty. Getting through the first few 'coming outs' is a little rough, but you'll be surprised at who be accepting and who will not. When your confidence grows and you get more comfortable being a woman, something will happen one day that feels wonderful! It's the day when you pass well enough [it wont be perfect!] that women let you into their world! With the woman at WW you just got a taste of it!

Well I think it's possible more people have been noticing and not saying anything than the other way around. I don't know if it's people being nice or what? By not saying anything.

Well anyway maybe being a little more confident in my ->-bleeped-<-. I have been looking for a new Nail salon. And I don't know why? But I messaged one and the first thing I said was I am transgender. And have not been able to find a place I am comfortable at and does a great job.

Its always a struggle for me to go to a place that is said to be pretty much women only by society. But then I think not my society. And push myself. The outcome is usually ok. Have not had anything negative happen yet. And getting my nails done always makes me feel awesome.

So I went today to check out the place and hope I would get in today. But was only able to make an appointment for tomorrow. But she remembered my note and said we could discuss what would be best for me. Something I have not had in a few years of going to nail salons. And definitely not since we moved. I don't understand why it's so hard to find a good nail salon.

So I will be out at the new nail salon. And I guess Monday I will find out what it's like to be out at weight watchers.


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Quote from: Nora Kayte on November 17, 2017, 07:28:11 PM
Well I think it's possible more people have been noticing and not saying anything than the other way around. I don't know if it's people being nice or what? By not saying anything.

Well anyway maybe being a little more confident in my ->-bleeped-<-. I have been looking for a new Nail salon. And I don't know why? But I messaged one and the first thing I said was I am transgender. And have not been able to find a place I am comfortable at and does a great job.

Its always a struggle for me to go to a place that is said to be pretty much women only by society. But then I think not my society. And push myself. The outcome is usually ok. Have not had anything negative happen yet. And getting my nails done always makes me feel awesome.

So I went today to check out the place and hope I would get in today. But was only able to make an appointment for tomorrow. But she remembered my note and said we could discuss what would be best for me. Something I have not had in a few years of going to nail salons. And definitely not since we moved. I don't understand why it's so hard to find a good nail salon.

So I will be out at the new nail salon. And I guess Monday I will find out what it's like to be out at weight watchers.


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Hi Nora, looks like you made the name official.  I like it!  I think the more we are owning our transition the happier we will be.  Every time I'm open about it one way or another, it feels weight is lifted.and I'm able to smile more.  I went out with eye makeup on last night!   Japan is way more accepting.  I didn't even get a second look.  I'm going to practice it before the next group to go out again in the states.

You'll have to tell me how the manicure goes.  I'm wearing clear right now, first time I'm years, feels good!

Bari Jo

Manicures rock. Been getting them for years. First time tomorrow with them knowing I am transgender. Yay.


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