Hey guys,

So I was just wondering if anyone experiences something similar. I have been using the mens room for months and I pass 100% so I don't have any issues going in there. However, when it comes time to pee, I get really nervous that guys in the bathroom are going to know I'm sitting down to pee and they are going to somehow find out I'm trans and something bad will happen to me. If there are other men in the bathroom, I usually get so anxious that I have to wait until the bathroom clears out, or wait until there is noise, and then I'll pee.

It's weird because I don't have any issues sitting down to pee. I don't really want to get an STP or use a urinal, because I don't really have any bottom dysphoria or dysphoria with using stalls. I just get hyper self conscious about it when there are other men in the bathroom, especially when it's quiet. I used to stand above the toilet and pee but it's so much easier just to sit down that I've stopped doing that.

So basically, do men notice if you're sitting down to pee? Has anyone ever like been "found out" or anything in the bathroom for sitting down? Is it even possible to tell like the height that the pee is coming from? I want to be able to use the mens room without so much anxiety, but it's just hard to as of right now.

Ive heard that some cis men get public bathroom anxiety and pee in the stalls too. Also some men simply feel more comfortable sitting. Its not unusual so you wont be outed purely because people can hear that youre peeing in a stall

Nobody is going to care.  People in the bathroom generally mind their own business and don't give a second thought to what anyone else is doing in there.


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While being mtf I may not be the best example, but I always used the stall personally. No one ever seemed to care. General unspoken rule in the men's room seems to be keep your head down and ignore everyone else(lest someone think you're gay probably being the reason, since it seems to drive a lot of male behavior).

If you are really worried, just sit there for a minute more before getting any toilet paper and if anyone is being hyper observant for a change, they won't know you just peed.

Honestly men don't notice other men in the bathroom. They just go in, quickly do there thing and get out. Some men like my dad rather use the stalls than use a urinal. Nobody notices or have thought to notice if a man firs the right criteria to be in a men's toilets or whether they're using the stall to pee

People always expect to see zebras when they hear hooves, while horses would make a lot more sense.

In other words, you are expecting guys to immediately think you are something out of the ordinary, while they probably think 'that guy is just ->-bleeped-<-ting' if they think anything at all.

Of all things a guy could be thinking about in the bathroom, I doubt the sound of your pee in the stalls is even on the list.

I'm aware of how different it sounds between guys and girls, and so are most transsexuals, I imagine, but for most people? Nah. They're probably just trying to get done and get out of the public bathroom. I never met anyone who likes hanging around in there.

I sit to pee in the men's room. My dad sits to pee so it doesn't seem weird to me. I am a little worried because sometimes you can just hear what everyone's up to in there. If you pass gas while you're in the stall that's a pretty good blind.

STP devices just strike me as more trouble than they're worth if you're trying to pass in public. (Unless you spend every weekend in bars with no stalls or something.)

As one that had to use the men's room for most of my life now, no we don't notice that someone is sitting to pee. In face we are just like women we use the restroom and go out. Men as a whole we are in and out. Unlike the women's room where I have noticed they like to talk to each other. I have to get used to this. So no one will out you using the restroom for this. In fact I used to sit a bit to go pee because using the urinal can be messy sometimes. You should be perfectly good!!!!!

Quote from: Jailyn on November 22, 2017, 07:16:24 AM
In fact I used to sit a bit to go pee because using the urinal can be messy sometimes. You should be perfectly good!!!!!

Someone always spills their lemonade all over the floor next to the urinals. It's quite inconvenient.

Don't worry about it.  In my experience, men do not share the female paranoia about people of the "wrong" gender entering rest rooms.  Even if they knew that you are trans, most men would not bat an eyelid.  I have even seen little girls coming out of the male stalls.  Their fathers, waiting nearby, obviously did not want to even risk sending them into the Ladies room on their own.

A cis woman once came into a Gents room while I was having a pee many years ago, and she seemed in no hurry to leave.  All she got was surprised looks and nobody said anything.

I know .. ftm but I do have a long history as male ...

messy urinals? yep, edges, floors, walls, I've seen it all. Some men can't aim or simply don't care. Unfortunately, that holds true for the stalls as well. The mess required to clean up before use sometimes is truly gross - when desperate, cleanup is the only option. I haven't stood to pee since I started tucking, I don't miss it and actually prefer it to standing.

So, you guys can decide on your own but for me, as a mtf, it'll be stalls from now on.

Quote from: Faith on November 22, 2017, 09:12:08 AM
I know .. ftm but I do have a long history as male ...

messy urinals? yep, edges, floors, walls, I've seen it all. Some men can't aim or simply don't care. Unfortunately, that holds true for the stalls as well. The mess required to clean up before use sometimes is truly gross - when desperate, cleanup is the only option. I haven't stood to pee since I started tucking, I don't miss it and actually prefer it to standing.

So, you guys can decide on your own but for me, as a mtf, it'll be stalls from now on.

I think females are just as gross in the bathroom as guys. I've seen bloody tampons on the floor, blood all over the seat, poo poo all over the seats and smelly diapers stuffed into the tampon disposal box. With guys it's pee all over the floor. With woman it's nasty period stuff.

I always go for a stall and sit to pee. I used to be very paranoid about it, but it never materialized. If there's someone else, I just relax longer, making sure he leaves the restroom before me (or making sure at least I took enough time for no 2).

After all is said and done, it's no one else business how you do it. Maybe you're paranoid and don't want to be attacked from the back when facing urinals? Or maybe you're packing your concealed carry gun and don't want it to be seen? (I've read most cops use stalls for those reasons, btw). Or maybe you just like it that way? Nobody's business. No guy would ever raise the subject, and if he does - he's much more across the bounds than you are.


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Before my transition my whole life I had shy bladder and used a stall.  It's not something that happens all that often, but it does get noticed a little.  It is typically considered emmasculating to pee sitting down, but it's not that big of a deal.  It sounds like you have a good strategy though, as you can tell if the person who is sitting to pee has a penis or not based on the sound of the stream and the angle it his.

as a transwoman I face a similar dilemma, though if I manipulate my penis a certain way when I sit to urinate it sounds the same as a cis-female.

Thanks for the replies, everyone, it definitely helped me calm down a little about it. Next time I'll try just relaxing and doing it and hopefully I'll get more used to it.

Sat in the mens restroom a ton over the years and no one pays attention to the fact that your sitting. Hugs
Mariah

I used to think other guys would find it weird and it would out me as not belonging there, but then one day when I was the only person in the bathroom right beforehand, this big buff super masculine dude came in, sat to do his business, and then walked out like it was completely normal for him.

I have never had a problem with sitting to pee in the men's room since.

Heh I grew up around boats so I always sit to pee out of habit standing to pee in a six foot swell is a good way to make a mess and obtain a lot of bruses. Never had to use it as an excuse.

I've been using stalls in men's bathrooms for roughly two years now, haven't encountered any issues whatsoever. I do get nervous when all the stalls are taken, but not because of the people. I have a bladder condition which impacts how much warning I get and how long I can hold before the floodgates open. If I'm busting to go before I get there, I imagine I probably give off some anxious vibes.

My only gripe about using the men's is the pee, something I'd only encountered a handful of times in the women's. Some people seem like they couldn't hit the broadside of a barn if it was in front of them given how often I've had to wipe up urine off the seat (not talking a few drops either). Least they could do is lift the seat before unleashing the torrent. Could be worse I guess, could be vomit and pee like there was in a disabled stall I went into last week.