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Sister showed my letter to husband

Started by Bari Jo, November 22, 2017, 11:08:00 AM

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Bari Jo

She did this with my permission.  His response has been just as good as hers.  I'll post it here.  This is about 4 0weeks after their wedding at a timeline.  The picture shown was my avatar, and the eyebrows picture from Japan.

Here's his response.  I cried happy tears from reading it.  I'm sure not all people in out to will be this supportive, but I am very happy I have his couple in my corner

Bari Jo

"Hola Bari,

Last Saturday [sisters name] talked with me about your decision to be who you really are my dear brother.

As you know that day was one of the most happiest of our live's, because after this long beautiful and amazing journey, which you perfectly know, your sister and I are finally together, starting our new family in Mexico City with the biggest love for each other.

So my big happiness of that day, when Hava arrived to our home, was greatly increased by knowing your decision of coming out and show openly who you are inside, in your heart, in your brain and in your soul.

When I read your letter, in the first part, the first emotion that came to my heart was very sad to know what you have surely had to live all these years, and immediately a feeling of enormous happiness and a great pride for you and for what you're doing.

I have no doubt that to do it requires enormous courage, a big heart, and a huge intelligence; and you have all that and more.

Family is very important to me,  and your are part of my family since the first day I married with  [sisters name], and even before. Now you are my dear sister since that day, and is the way how I am going to see you now and forward, Bari Jo.

I saw the first picture you sent to [sisters name], and I only could see a lovely, happy and tender woman, with a nice pride in her eyes. You cannot imagine how happy and proud We felt for you.

[sisters name] and I support you now and forever.

[his name].
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Megan.

Wonderful [emoji5]. Not surprising that given how fantastic your sister has been,  that she would want to marry someone equally open minded. X

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Faith

That's great news, Bari Jo. I am so happy for you that things keep unfolding the way it is.
I left the door open, only a few came through. such is my life.
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Jailyn

Bari I am so happy for you!!!!! That is great!!!!!
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sarah1972

So happy for you Bari! Congratulations!!!

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Julia1996

That's really nice. I'm so happy for you. Its wonderful they are both so supportive.
Julia


Born 1998
Started hrt 2015
SRS done 5/21/2018
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Roll

More in your corner! Things are picking up steam. :)
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Allison S

Aw that' so sweet ! Very well written and encouraging. You're a lucky lady!!

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Laurie

 I don't think you can ask for a better response that That Bari Jo.

Hugs,
  Laurie
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
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Gertrude

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DawnOday

So cool. Acceptance.... Nothing like it.
Dawn Oday

It just feels right   :icon_hug: :icon_hug: :icon_kiss: :icon_kiss: :icon_kiss:

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First indication I was different- 1956 kindergarten
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First time telling the truth in therapy June 15, 2016
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Bari Jo

I agree it should be this way for all of us and from everybody.  These two are probably the two I will most interact with.  My parents are next and I'm still dreading it.

From others I know I won't get this kind of response.  I deal with those when the time comes.

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Nora Kayte

Omg. Can't stop crying. I am so happy for you. Sister!!


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KathyLauren

You sure know how to pick your family!  I am so happy for you.

Do you think your sister might have gotten her accepting nature from your parents?  You may have less to worry about than you fear.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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steph2.0

That's wonderful, Bari Jo. You just induced ocular leakage in Florida...

Steph


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Charlie Nicki

Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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Charlotte F

What a wonderful post Bari Jo.  I am so happy for you
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HappyMoni

It is so rare to be able to offer a truly wonderful, life changing gift to someone in our lives. Your  sister and her husband did that for you. It is a beautiful thing for you and I thank you for sharing it with us.
Moni
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Laurie K

Its a snowball its gonna get bigger... and better .... so happy for you




The ball is now rolling....I hope it doesnt run me 0ver
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