Hello friends, this is my first forum post so please excuse me for any errors.
I am 13 and am very open with my friends, peers and adults about my identity. I really regret being open about it in the first place honestly. I get made fun of a lot and people throw a lot og microagressions at me. I've never really told anyone one this and I don't know if any one is facing the same problems. Is it weird to wish you were still closeted? I'd love to talk to someone about this, because its been bugging me for a while.

Welcome to Susan's Place. We all start out wanting to share with the world however sometimes that doesn't work out well. The trick I used is need to know. If somebody doesn't need to know, I don't tell them all about myself. I even do this with my family because often they aren't interested in all the details of my life. The do know the basics and if they ask questions, I will answer them.  It's different on the site as I freely share here because that's what the site is for. Others should be around to share their viewpoint so check back occasionally.

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I wish i could come out openly to my dad and i get depressed about it. I am much too scared and worried right now to the point that it might be a little excessive, someday i will be more brave and when i feel i am ready to go through physical transitioning. Only when you are ready and confident can you come out openly. If you are not ready and did it prematurely then you might face some problems. I don't wish i remain in the closet forever, i want the world and my family to know who i really am which is a woman. Sure you face some criticism by ignorant, confused, and bigoted people but once you come out you feel like you are free. My issue is acceptance from my father, how would he react and treat me after i reveal to him i am transgendered? Will he hate me? Will he disown me? Will he ignorantly think i am some freak or mentally unstable? I am mentally and emotionally a woman since birth and from when i was very young as a child as well as my very soul and spirit is female, this i truly feel and act upon even though i hide it but i live alone in my apartment so its easier for me. I was not influenced in any way nor did i choose this, it's natural to be transgendered, you are born that way. I just fear the unknown right now from my father, he can be a hard man to figure out what he would do sometimes.

A lot of people seem to have some regrets regards coming out, at least for a while, and usually at first. There is no "good time" to come out though - either you do and everyone in your circle will end up knowing somehow, or you don't.

Since you already have though there's no going back, you just have to move forward. If they are going to be negative about it, you're probably just going to have to deal with "microaggressions" as you call them. If it's more open hostility or you are put at physical risk, then I would take steps to stay as far away as possible from the people doing it, or get the law involved if there is real risk of physical harm. But you can't make people accept you or be nice to you, so to a certain degree you're stuck for now with some of those people I figure. You should concentrate on your own wellbeing and on ignoring them if they are trying to make you feel crap.

Like Dena said, I would never volunteer information to anyone I wasn't already mentally prepared for them to possibly use against me. That goes for any information, not just this sort. Because people in general aren't all that trustworthy.

Good advice Viktor. I'm not all that intelligent as some of you people, i swear! lol

Hi Felix, welcome to Susan's Place! Glad you found us. Coming out is a big step, good on ya!

The coming out part will become a distant memory, especially since you've done it at such a young age. See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: FelixKitKat on November 26, 2017, 01:53:02 AM
Hello friends, this is my first forum post so please excuse me for any errors.
I am 13 and am very open with my friends, peers and adults about my identity. I really regret being open about it in the first place honestly. I get made fun of a lot and people throw a lot og microagressions at me. I've never really told anyone one this and I don't know if any one is facing the same problems. Is it weird to wish you were still closeted? I'd love to talk to someone about this, because its been bugging me for a while.

Stick to being open about who you are if you want to transition sooner, rather than later. Being out sux, but so is hiding yourself. The question is which is worst - harassment by others, or harassment by yourself out of fear.

For me coming out  as a woman and being honest, has done Wonders. No bad Words or hate against me. And People understand me better. Maybe because People my age (22) are less immature, or maybe because there is no one who have anything against women around me .