Well, by now most of you know I'm in a period of eternal waiting. So what's it like? Really? Has it changed anything? How you deal with people? How you feel out in public? Anything?

Quote from: Nero on February 29, 2008, 09:43:46 AM

Well, by now most of you know I'm in a period of eternal waiting. So what's it like? Really? Has it changed anything? How you deal with people? How you feel out in public? Anything?

How does it feel out it public?  Normal (for the first time in my life)

Has it changed anything? Just everything (for the better)

How do I deal with people? Differently  That has taken a little be to get used to.  I'm treated like a woman now.  In many cases that is no different that the way people deal with each other.  In other cases it's quite flattering.  In others, I have to defer to the male's obvious superiority (yuck and *giggle*).  And in some, though truly rare occasions I am disgusted by some of the males.  In in some, fortunately one or two occasions, I have felt true fear.

Nero, I know that you're going the opposite way, but I think that you'll experience many of these same feelings.

-Sandy(the wait will be over sooner than you expect!)

Passing means I don't have to spend all my time thinking about my gender and how people perceive me.  I can let it go and just be.

Pretty much everything that both Kassandra and Lisbeth said, Nero.

I suppose I would also add some kinda difficult to quantify things to what they said.

My life resonates in my interactions with both myself and others. I no longer feel that I am hiding myself in at least 50% of my interactions. I still have to struggle with depression. But, the depression itself tends to be clear of support from the GID.

I think that overall I am better able to simply see the world and walk comfortably in and through it. Just to feel poitive about myself has been a fantastic boon that I had never realized would remove so much pressure and disappointment.

Nichole

What everyone has said here, I echo. Sometimes, like around bathroom issues, I am reminded that my genitalia aren't the same as other guys, but mostly I just feel like a regular guy. It feels good to have women and men react to me as any other guy. And the male privilege, although unearned (as by definition it is), for me is often just another confirmation that people are treating me as a guy.

It feels relaxed and comfortable for the first time in my life. I blend in, rather than standing out.

Dennis

So what's it like?
Well to answer that question, it's relieving, wonderful, and absolutely positively GREAT!

Really?
YES! GOD YES!

Has it changed anything?
Other then my confidence levels not really... maybe where I stand socialstatus-wise... and datingstatus-wise... but for the more part not really.

How you deal with people?
The way any teenage girl (whose being polite) would.

How you feel out in public?
Confident, HOT!, happy, and extremely secure with myself as a female.

Anything?
Other then what I've said I can only say that this is the most awesome and astouding feeling I've ever had. I feel comfortable and very much congruent with my identity.

So what's it like? Really? Has it changed anything? How you deal with people? How you feel out in public? Anything?

Post transition~ feels so normal!  I am so happy being myself, and having people know that I am a girl without a second though.  I love being called she and Kira.  No longer do I have to cringe!  No longer do I have to be reminded on a minute by minute basis that I was afflicted by a cruel punishment during conception!

I don't tell people out right, so people see me as me~ a girl.  It's all I really want since I like being me... And being me has made me happier then anything!  My whole life has turned around~ Out of the night and into the sunshine!  The public generally treats me like me, and I'm happy with that.  And if the public doesn't like me... They can deal.

It is a very empowering experience to finally be yourself.

Quote from: Kassandra on February 29, 2008, 10:37:26 AM

Quote from: Nero on February 29, 2008, 09:43:46 AM

Well, by now most of you know I'm in a period of eternal waiting. So what's it like? Really? Has it changed anything? How you deal with people? How you feel out in public? Anything?

How does it feel out it public?  Normal (for the first time in my life)

Has it changed anything? Just everything (for the better)

How do I deal with people? Differently  That has taken a little be to get used to.  I'm treated like a woman now.  In many cases that is no different that the way people deal with each other.  In other cases it's quite flattering.  In others, I have to defer to the male's obvious superiority (yuck and *giggle*).  And in some, though truly rare occasions I am disgusted by some of the males.  In in some, fortunately one or two occasions, I have felt true fear.

My experience is quite similar.  Just an incredible sense of peace at finally being seen for who you are.  No more worrying about what other people will think.  No more having to monitor your own behavior and speech.  You can just BE.

For me, it's the way it should have been from the moment I breathed for the first time when I came into this world.  It's a wonderful feeling of completeness, peace of mind, togetherness, joy.

During the first days of my transition, I noticed something (I have posted about this in the past):  I didn't know, and I had never noticed how women smile and interact with one another; totally, totally different from what you see among men.  The smiles, the fixing of the hair, the companionship, the sharing of intimate moments/conversations in the women's lounge could never, ever be compared to how two men behave when they are together.  I am free, I feel like me, I look like me and people finally see me.

tink

Quote from: Tink on March 01, 2008, 01:39:22 PM
During the first days of my transition, I noticed something (I have posted about this in the past):  I didn't know, and I had never noticed how women smile and interact with one another; totally, totally different from what you see among men.  The smiles, the fixing of the hair, the companionship, the sharing of intimate moments/conversations in the women's lounge could never, ever be compared to how two men behave when they are together.

I 110% completely agree with this sentiment.  It's lovely and I enjoy the moments with women that are open and free~

Quote from: Nero on February 29, 2008, 09:43:46 AM

Well, by now most of you know I'm in a period of eternal waiting. So what's it like? Really? Has it changed anything? How you deal with people? How you feel out in public? Anything?

Hi, Nero,

My daily doings feel quite natural, if yiu will, but I notice that my behaviour has changed.  I am more relaxed and tend to make my criticisms of those with whom I interact in customer "service" more tactfully.

I am supremely confident in my appearance.  I don't know that any super models or prom queens have anything to worry about because I am here.  Anyone who doesn't like how I look and carry myself can push off.

I see the world and my place in it differently thanks to Grandmother Estrogen rearranging my neural pathways.  I see the world through the eyes of the woman I am.  Other women, children, and men have places within me that at times differ from their former position in my "social hierarchy" of social courties, consideration, prerogatives, and responsibilities.

It feels right for me.  I am comfortable.  To borrow from the late Harry Chapin, "...I finally like myself.  At last, I like myself."

The foregoing is solely my opinion and sets forth my own observations and is not subject to discussion as to whether it makes any sense or what quality of horse's ass I might be.

Wing Walker
Enjoying the Journey

It's amazing.

Just wonderful.

Sara

- So what's it like?

Life.  No thoughts of being wrong constantly churning in my head.  I have my ups and downs.  I get depressed.  I have moments of joy.  I work for days off.

- Really?

Yup.

- Has it changed anything?

There are still issues that come up from time to time.  I'm working on getting my birth certificate ammended 20 years after transition.  "It" has changed the entire direction of my life.  I'm now married.  During my working career, I made less than my male counterparts for the most part.  I had to work harder and be better than them to get "equal" performance evaluations.  There have been some good times and bad times.

- How you deal with people?

I don't think about it.  I just do.

- How you feel out in public?

Hungry.   I love to go out to eat... which I seldom do anymore.

- Anything?

Everything

Cindi

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