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Sex life & dick growth while on T

Started by PurpleWolf, November 16, 2017, 06:14:23 PM

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PurpleWolf

A few questions for you guys, ;):

1. Does getting a BJ feel like you really have a dick, ;)?! Is it like "OMG fu**ing amazing" as I imagine??? (Any difference to before?)

2. The most asked question ever: ARE you able to penetrate with it? Usually the answer is no, I know. But... even a little tiny bit...? Or in a certain position or...? Too personal, xD?!

3. Anything else you wanna share of your sex life while on T?

4. When you look in a mirror naked, does it feel like the "real deal"? (Or can you barely see it?)
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Elis

First one- OMFG god yes  ;) :D. Trouble is the hard on lasts for a few hours as it only goes by itself  ;D

Second one- haven't tried but don't think I'd be able too. I did hear one trans guy on here was able too if a girl was on top

Thirdly- a thing I've noticed is that as I'm on the ace spectrum (I'm demisexual) I can't actually get a hard on unless I'm really really emotionally attracted to someone. Which is frustrating but cis guys don't seem to notice. It sticks out so it looks hard even though it's not

And lastly I feel it does. It looks no different than any other cis penis. So it makes me feel a lot more confident
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TransAm

Quote from: PurpleWolf on November 16, 2017, 06:14:23 PM
A few questions for you guys, ;):

1. Does getting a BJ feel like you really have a dick, ;)?! Is it like "OMG fu**ing amazing" as I imagine??? (Any difference to before?)

2. The most asked question ever: ARE you able to penetrate with it? Usually the answer is no, I know. But... even a little tiny bit...? Or in a certain position or...? Too personal, xD?!

3. Anything else you wanna share of your sex life while on T?

4. When you look in a mirror naked, does it feel like the "real deal"? (Or can you barely see it?)

1. I'm not going to lie, it's amazing. I've had a good amount of growth from T and getting head is a completely different experience. Sometimes it feels so good it's almost transcendental.

2. In my case, no. The growth is definitely there but the way my anatomy is shaped makes it essentially impossible (it's pointed pretty downwards).

3. Pre-everything, I used to have very shallow but multiple orgasms in very fast succession. I could have 10-15 in a little over five minutes. It used to take a minimum of ten to satisfy me. I had a very high sex drive even then so I'd have to properly get off twice a day. It was pretty low effort and didn't take up much of my time whatsoever.
About three months after starting T, I completely lost my ability to go multiple times in a row. I also started needing a lot longer to come (maybe 20 minutes) but the intensity. When I finally did get there, it felt like every single one of my 10 prior orgasms crammed into one and amplified x 100. My entire body writhes and I feel this warm, strong 'gunshot' type deep jerking in my lower abdomen for a good 30 seconds.

4. In the mirror, no. Like I said in no. 2, it's pointed downwards so it's hidden/protected fully. In some ways I'm thankful for that--I see a lot of guys complaining about chafing, extreme sensitivity on their underwear, unwanted rubbing, etc.--but in others, I do wish it was more visible. I waffle back and forth between having the freeing surgery but I'm fine for now. Laying down and looking at it, though? It looks like an uncircumcised penis.
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widdershins

1. I never liked receiving oral before T. I still don't enjoy it. Partly because dysphoria, partly because I only get off on broad pressure in the area, which a tongue can't provide.

2. No. Not even remotely. I was tiny to start with, and even now that I've been on T for a year, I'm still on the small side for a cis female. I was told a meta probably wouldn't even be possible, barring a ton of growth in the next year or so.

3. My experience mirrors TransAm's. I'm no longer multi-orgasmic and take a lot longer to get off, but when I do orgasm it's always very intense. I actually kind of miss the way it was before, but not having constant dyshphoria is worth the tradeoff in my sex life.

4. My outer labia cover it entirely. Again, there's really not much there.
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AndrewB

1. It felt good but it didn't feel like I had a dick; too short to really get the sensation that someone was stimulating a long shaft, or that I was enough to fill their mouth. Just felt like I had slightly more to work with than before, I guess.

2. Never tried but I'm gay and I can't imagine it would have gone well haha. It wasn't even worth pursuing the idea.

3. I definitely learned that you can make yourself sore, and/or pull a leg muscle if you go at it too many times in one day  :laugh:

4. It didn't, no, it was almost completely covered by my labia majora. I don't even think metoidioplasty would have given me the kind of profile I wanted, which is one of the reasons I pursued phallo—my little guy didn't even pass as a micropenis.
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Faith

Maybe I shouldn't reply since I am not FTM, however ...

I wanted to confirm that most of what you guys describe is typical male sensations .. congrats. What I never liked in an intimate setting though is that once 'done' interest waned on anything sexual, cuddling, etc. I hope for the sake of your partner that you don't get the non-interest after effect. Faking interest just seemed wrong.

pointing  down .. hmm. Granted I have more ( :( ) still average to short but not micro but there are positions for both ways should the length develop to accommodate. Direction can be 'trained' over time, guys vary in which way they prefer it. Workable length is a requirement though.

I don't pretend to know what you're dealing with so please don't take anything the wrong way. I'm just trying to give you a heads-up from someone who's been there .. umm, so to speak ...
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Kylo

1. Far as I can tell, yes. It definitely does not feel or operate like a clitoris, which did not respond in the same way to movement of the foreskin-like structure before. It is now much more sensitive to pressure and touch.

2. At this point I haven't tried.

3. To mirror the others here, the interest or ability to have multiple orgasms seems to have packed up and left. However that is no loss. Ironically I can actually enjoy sexual pleasure now whereas before I was much too dysphoric to.

4. Yeah, it can be seen, however being pre surgery in the area I'm considering this a temporary state and not yet the "real deal".
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Oblivion

1) Honestly I couldn't tell you because I have no idea what getting a BJ on a cis dick feels like but it feels damn good but really intense, sometimes too intense to deal with

2) Never needed to try but I wouldn't have thought so

3) Unlike some of the other guys the multiple orgasms are still a thing for me, moreso than pre-T. I enjoy sex so much more now and its just easier and a better experience with my partner. Quick warning, jacking off too much is a thing. I broke my dick and had to abstain from jacking off for a week before I felt something again. Don't let your libido control you haha

4) I can see it pretty well, especially if I trim my pubes which, granted, I don't do often. I wouldn't say it looks like a cis dick but when I look in the mirror I feel more connected to what I'm seeing. There's *something* there and that's awesome. I hate it brushing on my underwear though especially after my shot, it's way too sensitive and can get really painful.
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Ryuichi13



Quote from: PurpleWolf on November 16, 2017, 06:14:23 PM
A few questions for you guys, ;):

1. Does getting a BJ feel like you really have a dick, ;)?! Is it like "OMG fu**ing amazing" as I imagine??? (Any difference to before?)

2. The most asked question ever: ARE you able to penetrate with it? Usually the answer is no, I know. But... even a little tiny bit...? Or in a certain position or...? Too personal, xD?!

3. Anything else you wanna share of your sex life while on T?

4. When you look in a mirror naked, does it feel like the "real deal"? (Or can you barely see it?)

1.) Never had one, but when the bf feels up to giving me one, I'll let you know. [emoji6]

2.)  Nope, its definitely too small for penetration.  And since I currently have no plans for bottom surgery, doubtful if I'll even have enough length for it.  I'm glad that, despite growing, I don't seem to have the problems of my junk rubbing on my boxer briefs.  I feel lucky about that, despite having grown a significant amount after 11 months on T.  I haven't measured recently, so I'm not sure exactly how much.

3.) My junk is DEFINITELY not the same pre-T!  For the most part I have to work it similarly to the way an uncut cis man does, by moving the foreskin back and forth.  Friction is definitely a better orgasm than vibration, although I can lightly use a vibrator directly on my now super-sensitive dick head to get off.  Penetration of any kind really doesn't do much for me anymore, but I doubt I'll ever have a vaginectomy.  The smell is different too, more acrid.  Same with my armpit smell, more acrid.

4.) Honestly, from my top view, it looks like a small, uncut penis.  I love it!  I've always been multi-orgasmic, and I'm really glad that I still am. 

Feel free to ask more questions, this is a fascinating discussion!

Ryuichi

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Kylo

I dunno how you guys can handle multiple orgasms now. They are definitely more intense than they were before and I'm drained and ready to kip after just one. :laugh:
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Ryuichi13

Quote from: Viktor on November 23, 2017, 08:57:29 AM
I dunno how you guys can handle multiple orgasms now. They are definitely more intense than they were before and I'm drained and ready to kip after just one. [emoji23]
Trust me, I usually have to nap for at least an hour afterwards! [emoji16]

Luckily for me, my "needs" have now backed down to a couple times a week instead of every day like when I first started T.

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TransAm

Quote from: Viktor on November 23, 2017, 08:57:29 AM
I dunno how you guys can handle multiple orgasms now. They are definitely more intense than they were before and I'm drained and ready to kip after just one. :laugh:

Jesus christ, no joke. Even at the height of my horniness, I still had an hour long refractory period before I could get back to it. It really sucked up a lot of my time, hahah.
The drive has (thankfully) dulled down, but I still have to either jerk off twice a day or have sex once a day to stay remotely sane.
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Ryuichi13



Quote from: TransAm on November 23, 2017, 11:41:38 AM...The drive has (thankfully) dulled down, but I still have to either jerk off twice a day or have sex once a day to stay remotely sane.

Ikr?

I had to TEACH myself to not jerk off every day due to ending up raw afterwards!  How do you do it, TransAm? [emoji29]

Maybe I rub too hard, or too long, or too much or....[emoji6]

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Elis

I don't orgasm; just not something my body does. But does anyone ever feel lightheaded after someone *ahem* sucks on that part of them. Like within a min or two is all I can take.
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TransAm

Quote from: Ryuichi13 on November 23, 2017, 12:26:18 PM

Ikr?

I had to TEACH myself to not jerk off every day due to ending up raw afterwards!  How do you do it, TransAm? [emoji29]

Maybe I rub too hard, or too long, or too much or....[emoji6]

Ryuichi



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Lots of practice. I honestly don't think I've ever had a period of time longer than two days that I've gone without anything, even pre-T, but I've never gotten raw feeling. I get way too worked up otherwise.
When I first started T, I was going 5 times a day for the first 8-10 months... which meant my entire day was consumed, hahah.

Quote from: Elis on November 23, 2017, 01:34:38 PM
I don't orgasm; just not something my body does. But does anyone ever feel lightheaded after someone *ahem* sucks on that part of them. Like within a min or two is all I can take.

Yes, most definitely, but only slightly before, during and post-orgasm. If it's really good, it almost feels a little bit like momentarily blacking out.
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Elis

Quote from: TransAm on November 23, 2017, 05:54:37 PM

Yes, most definitely, but only slightly before, during and post-orgasm. If it's really good, it almost feels a little bit like momentarily blacking out.

Huh that's interesting. I wonder why I get that then but not the orgasm feeling that goes with it. Be good to find out how common that is or I'm just odd
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Kylo

I totally couldn't do it for years unless auto-asphyxiating (holding breath). This was one of the things that put me off sex in general. Kind of an ordeal.

Later I figured out why that was. Wasn't actually being mentally stimulated, only physically. Wasn't thinking of anything that particularly turned me on and had to find out what those things were. Had to learn what the right mindstate was. This wasn't easy, and every time I'd do it I'd be plagued with the idea of my own anatomy which was like three steps back. It's taken years to find out what actually "does it" for me.

Now it's quite easy, even fun; and high blood CO2 isn't necessary. Sounds pitiful when I say it like that, something most people alive never have much trouble with but for me was so unpleasant I'd avoid it. Just another obstacle in being extremely disconnected and dissociated I figure. Who knows just how screwed up I really was before I started to finally figure things out. I try not to think about that, it's probably a lot.



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Faith

Quote from: Elis on November 23, 2017, 01:34:38 PM
I don't orgasm; just not something my body does. But does anyone ever feel lightheaded after someone *ahem* sucks on that part of them. Like within a min or two is all I can take.

What's your blood pressure? If your blood surges to your genital area, it can do that if your pressure is low.
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SeptagonScars

1. I'm actually not sure if I've been given a BJ or not in the technical sense (not always so sure what exactly my partner at the time is doing while at it), but I do tend to enjoy being given oral far more now compared to before T.
2. I have no idea, cause I haven't tried. But I don't think I'd be very successful with that, as I only got about 1 inch of growth (after 4 years on T now I don't think it'll grow bigger than that, but I'm fine with its current size) and I'm not very... lithe. I've only had sex with one person with a vag and we didn't try that particular thing out, although I can imagine he'd probably have liked that. I've heard/read it's even more difficult to manage penetrating someone anally with my kind of size, so I've not even bothered trying. I've never been all that into the idea of me being the one penetrating during sex anyway, although I don't have an version to that idea either.
3. I can still get multiple orgasms, but they're difficult for me to achieve and basically require a very patient and loving partner doing the exact right things and continuing for quite a while and of course for my mood to be right as well. And I'm very rarely in such a loving relationship as they don't last. Since starting T 4 years ago I've only gotten to that peak 2-3 times in total. Usually I can just get 1 strong-ish orgasm that lingers for a little while (about 10-20 seconds I'd guesstimate) but it also has a very long build-up time (3-5 minutes) that is just as nice really. Before T I almost always got very strong multiple orgasms, and orgasming in general has always been very easy for me, so maybe that's why I managed to retain some of that.

Faith: unfortunately I do lose interest shortly after orgasm, which I didn't use to, so at least in my case what you wrote applies. It has affected my partners but I've tried to work with the issue by being affectionate in other ways instead, like with words, looks and such. And talking to them about that with them to try to communicate why I feel that way and that it doesn't mean I don't care. But yeah that's not been easy.

4. If I've trimmed the forest around there significantly, then yes I can see it in the mirror, but it's not obvious. Mostly I can just see the last half an inch and the rest is covered in mons fat or something I'm not even sure what. Fatty tissue right above it rather than the labia. It feels a lot more like the "real deal" when I'm not involving a mirror, but just looking at it directly.

Viktor: I don't even know how I could handle multiple orgasms before T, especially when they got so strong I was a split second away from blacking out after 11 super intense ones lasting more than hour in total, and I wasn't even close to climax. I had to stop out of safety reasons cause very fast heartbeat and shallow breathing plus unable to see is probably not healthy to keep up with. In hindsight I'm guessing I didn't get enough oxygen, but I can't know for sure. I'm actually glad that isn't a regular thing for me, I'd be scaring my partners if not else then.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
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Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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