Quote from: Spunky Brewster on December 25, 2017, 11:55:00 PM
I'm sorry but people should realize how offensive this can be for people who are intersex and have suffered through surgeries and more surgeries to correct other surgeries. They should realize all the pain and awfulness that comes with being intersex. Plus, there is no benefit to being intersex. Society doesn't accept you more. Society accepts trans women who are "passable," which is really screwed up.
However, what is wrong with being transgender as opposed to intersex? If we dilute all words, then eventually none of them contain meaning. I do understand the yearning people have and why people want the two to be connected, but should also realize the struggle of intersex people; thus, it is not fair to appropriate the pain of people born with DSDs.
This was not pointed at anyone and, again, I totally understand. But remember this, too: being trans is nothing to be ashamed of. Of course if you can prove you need to transition by being intersex, I do see why some would want to be so. But instead of changing definitions, maybe we should change society.
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Thanks, Spunky. I had no intention of offending intersex people, I consider myself intersex. I'm fully aware that there is no advantage to referring to myself as being intersex. Frankly, I think it's highly stigmatizing. I would also like to remind you that I have experienced a lifetime of mental anguish and undergone multiple surgeries to correct my intersex condition, namely to eliminate the ambiguity of my inborn sexual identity.
Sex and gender terminology is being diluted, there's no question about that. The term 'transgender' is so broadly defined today as to be practically meaningless. There's a concerted effort by the larger trans community to purge the word 'transsexual' from everyday usage, as inappropriate, or, worse, offensive.
Neither 'transgender' nor 'transsexual' speak to the physical reality of being born with a
sexual identity which is ambiguous or conflicted in some way. The term 'intersex' does. Intersex describes a state of physical and physiological embodiment independent of social context.
The words transgender and transsexual describe outcomes, not causes. They don't explain the reason for gender dysphoria, they describe a behavioral reaction to it. A person is transgender because they object to the gender forced upon them the day they were born. A person is transsexual when they alter their anatomy to that of the opposite sex. Neither word speaks to the underlying reason for this behavior.
Knowing that I'm intersex explains
why I suffered gender dysphoria. It explains
why I had to be prescribed cross-sex hormones. It explains
why I transitioned genders, and
why I underwent multiple surgeries to change the outward appearance of my body. These are not things that most transgender people have to deal with. These are things that intersex people live with.
I frankly don't care that the current medical definition of intersex doesn't consider the sexual dimorphism of the brain as another aspect of the intersex condition. I'm sure it will in time. Medical knowledge is constantly being updated and corrected to account for what was previously misunderstood.
Again, I'm sorry if my post has hurt or offended you. To be honest, I feel hurt, too.
Happy New Year!