Quote from: Tink on March 01, 2008, 04:50:49 PM
I'm just a girl who loves a guy, and yes, we both have a transsexual history.  Does that make a difference?  No! Should it? I don't think so.  We are just as any other cisgendered couple.  We both have dated and been in long time relationships with cisgendered people in the past; I have been with biological men, and he has been with genetic girls.

QuoteIsn't what we really want to just be free of and past all the gender issues? And thus maybe a cisgender person might make a better match?

No, a cisgendered person wouldn't be a better match.  A best match is someone whom you love and loves you regardless of your past, history, and whatever else there is.  A best match is someone whom you respect and respects you in return; a best match is someone you consider your love, your companion, your best friend, your shoulder to cry on, your strength, your lover and vice versa. We don't talk about gender issues as some people on this board would think.  There are more fun things to do in life.  We don't even talk about our transsexual histories, except on very few occasions.  What we were (to whatever degree that was) is NOT important.  What we ARE NOW is.   Indeed, the only time that we are reminded that we were not born cisgendered is when we are here.

tink

what Tink said heh heh heh

Quote from: Nero on March 01, 2008, 04:36:02 PM

maybe a cisgender person might make a better match?

dunno bro. why do u think a cisgender person is a beter match dude?

when I was with gg's. they were nice to me & stuff.  they said they were in luv with me. but that was bullsh#t.  when I told them I was trans.  they threw me out like a pc of crap b/c I didnt got what they wanted.  they didnt love me.  they wanted a bio dude not me.
I got hurt a lot but everythin's cool now.  u just gotta find the right person. somebody that luvs u not what u got down there.

Quote from: Chris on March 03, 2008, 03:26:13 AM
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when I was with gg's. they were nice to me & stuff.  they said they were in luv with me. but that was bullsh#t.  when I told them I was trans.  they threw me out like a pc of crap b/c I didnt got what they wanted.  they didnt love me.  they wanted a bio dude not me.
I got hurt a lot but everythin's cool now.  u just gotta find the right person. somebody that luvs u not what u got down there.

There are genetic females and males that can appreciate the transgender body.  There are a surprising number of them out there.  It would be however more difficult for a straight TG to find someone accepting versus a lesbian/gay TG person.  There are a few factors~ One: People want kids (depending, this may not be true in some situations).  Two: People become accustomed to sex one way, the "right way" according to society, and see the other way as perhaps lesbian/gay sex.  Three: They are not open-minded by default.  Four: They don't want to be marked as 'queer' if other people learn about you.  Five: They don't understand ->-bleeped-<-... And don't want to.  If they wanted to understand TG people... Love would hold better.

From my situation, when I look for girls, I right from the bat describe myself as a transgender lesbian.  I get my fair share of people ignoring me, but I definitely do get those that are interested.  I feel like there is more openness when it comes to dating lesbians... And there is.  We both had to come to terms with ourselves, and had to come out to some degree.  Of course, there are those lesbians that steadfastly REFUSE to date transgender girls.  But lets not get into that.

Things really just boil down to who has an open mind, like so many other things.

Myself so far I've only dated non-trans men but I'd love to date a F2M sometime.
My problem would be that I'm 5'11" so I regularly date tall guys; but a shorter guy with a ton of confidence, who's his own man and who's not intimidated by a taller woman?

Sexyyyy...


Back to composure now   

i don;t know.i am mtf and i am str8(attracted to men).
if someone ftm meets my standards and i meet his then ok?
btw i have seen a couple of real attractive men in this site:)
moreover sex is not important to me.and now since my genitals are not the way they should, i would appreciate someone who would understand my discomfort.
after grs tg or not, i have no problem or preference.
But he has to be masculine.(and no breast:))

Quote......but he has to be masculine.(and no breast:))

Amen to that.  I went on a blind date a few months ago with a guy that had bigger boobs than I do.  Major turnoff.  Not to mention he was weird, really weird.

Audrey

Quote from: Audrey on March 03, 2008, 01:19:51 PM
Not to mention he was weird, really weird.

hehe ... 46, lives with his mom and works in a comic shop?

OMG.  No but close.  37 and lived with.......here it is GRANDMA in her basement.  Now don't get me wrong that would be fine if he was like helping take care of her or something like that, but that wasn't the case.  And plus he was just, well, like weird.

Audrey

Damn! The psychic stuff is harder than I thought...

I'm trying to veer away from the "Lives with their mom and reads comics road" so I can be on the, "Makes comics and threatens nursing home on mom" pathway. (I love her, but lets be honest... A good prank for all those years of nonsense would be great.)

... I really need to find someone don't I? Someone OUTSIDE of the rat race.

Quote from: deviousxen on March 03, 2008, 02:44:08 PM
... I really need to find someone don't I? Someone OUTSIDE of the rat race.

Definitely agree with that myself, perhaps even to find someone trying very hard to get out.  Good luck to you!

I hear there's some available TGs in this thread.  Wooo!   

I could certainly date someone who is TG, especially a certain really cute andro.

Goodness, NO!!








Okay, now that the shock has worn off: I'm already in a very committed relationship.

Nichole

I probably would date a TG. Basically I'm a little inexperience in the relation department and not even sure what I'm looking for.


Anna

Quote from: Nichole on March 03, 2008, 04:21:54 PM
Goodness, NO!!








Okay, now that the shock has worn off: I'm already in a very committed relationship.

Nichole

got something against cute andros???

I like men....

If i happen to meet a transguy who fits all my dating criteria: 6ft plus, Broad shouldered, deep voice, built, sensative, kind, tough, and dominant...

Sure, id date him, same as any guy....

But unlike some, im not going out of my way to find a transguy....
In preferance i probably wouldnt.... 2x Trans = a heap of agro that is bad enough when one in the relationship has it...
R >

Quote from: Nero on March 01, 2008, 04:36:02 PM
Good evening guys and dolls.

Tonight's topic:  TG on TG Dating

Would you or have you dated a fellow transgender?

I can see a few pros and cons here.

It would be nice to be with somebody who's been through the same process or is in some way gender variant and thus 'gets' you.

On the other hand - seems like an awful lot of baggage with TWO transgender peeps under one roof.

Also - as transgendered people...
Isn't what we really want to just be free of and past all the gender issues? And thus maybe a cisgender person might make a better match?

Or not?

All I know is that you ladies keep tormenting me with pics of your beautiful selves and you're REALLY making me think long and hard about this.

TWO, who said anything about two?

I have, will, and am dating two other transgendered individuals

Quote from: Pica Pica on March 03, 2008, 06:29:02 PM
got something against cute andros???

How could anyone have something against cute andros?? 

Z

why pica? have you seen any?
R >

Quote from: Pica Pica on March 03, 2008, 06:29:02 PM

Quote from: Nichole on March 03, 2008, 04:21:54 PM
Goodness, NO!!








Okay, now that the shock has worn off: I'm already in a very committed relationship.

Nichole

got something against cute andros???

No, Pica, not against cute ones at all.

I have something against playing around on my partner.

Nichole