Quote from: KarynMcD on December 27, 2017, 11:20:49 AM
And know they are asking you out right?
That's been my experience.

Yes. Guys react totally different to me now. They smile, flirt and yes some of them ask me out. Of course I get some piggish treatment. I've had guys I don't even know call me babe, baby, sugar, sweetheart, sweet cheeks, etc. I've also had guys say " I would love to hit that" while I'm still well within hearing range. But I prefer all of that to the way they treated me before transition. Honestly none of that offends me. A lot of guys act piggish around women. If you looked up sexist chauvinist you would find a picture of my grandpa. My brother can act like a total sexist pig sometimes and I'm trying to get him over doing that.

Umm i found a couple more that trigger me

When CIS girls talk about guys, and there like MEN.... you know how they rant? that makes me so confused, im like OMG im a man now? but your not talking about me like that, is that cus you know about me? how should i feel in this scenario? i just typically say um you girls know im a guy right??? they say oh we dont mean you (which weirds me out just as much).... (but on the inside its like im really a girl)

Another one is

When CIS girls, talk about how hot a guy is (Kit Harrington for example), and well i guess its sort of a sexuality thing but also for me its causes me abit of dysphoria, they say what id like to do to him or something and then they say oh that doesnt really aplply to you does it? and it makes me feel really uncomfortable  (it was a bad example, i see that now but i think you get the message)

"Mate"!! I'm British, and when a man says "sorry mate" or "'scuse me mate", it just, urgh. It's a term 90% used by men for men, and it's because I'm 6'2, yes I'm taller than you, but forgive my arrogance, I know I look like a girl. It's the men who clock me as a trans (not bloody difficult) and feel insecure about me towering over them - they try and reduce me to their level, to let me know they've "caught me out", with that one word - "mate". C-words.

Being called handsome has always upset me. No matter how well intentioned it was always an awkward thing more so than other complements (though they still tend to make me feel awkward) with the exception of being called pretty which has only ever been accidental and quickly retracted.
I have a bad habit of inserting "man" into things i say, I am in the process of fixing that

Quote from: Julia1996 on December 27, 2017, 12:18:01 PM
Yes. Guys react totally different to me now. They smile, flirt and yes some of them ask me out. Of course I get some piggish treatment. I've had guys I don't even know call me babe, baby, sugar, sweetheart, sweet cheeks, etc. I've also had guys say " I would love to hit that" while I'm still well within hearing range. But I prefer all of that to the way they treated me before transition. Honestly none of that offends me. A lot of guys act piggish around women. If you looked up sexist chauvinist you would find a picture of my grandpa. My brother can act like a total sexist pig sometimes and I'm trying to get him over doing that.

Yes women have it bad. They had it worse in the eighty's. I remember escorting the women across the shop floor because of the woof whistles, shouts, gestures and nude portraits on the workers tool boxes. I remember one of the secretary's getting laid on the bosses table top in front of passing motorists. She got fired. He only got demoted. I remember another boss getting caught twice having sex in the elevator. It was a very hard time for the women. Things have changed slightly but it still has a long way to go.

Now it's been whenever someone says "hello" to me. Just kidding I try to laugh things off more now because I'm in the awkward stage for at least another year. I'm gonna try to have as much fun with it as I can

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Pull! Sorry bad pun.

I don't really have a trigger word parse. People make mistake and when it's thing they are confused about, they're gonna make more. I had one guy ask me if it was okay to call me, "girl". I thought it was so adorable. Most of the time I don't correct anyone unless they keep making the same mistake over and over. I never tell anyone what to do or say unless they ask. I prefer a more indirect approach. Like one of my friend kept calling me "bro". And I responded with "Bro?''. He fixes his own mistakes now. Allowing someone to fix their own mistakes is always the best way to teach someone in my opinion. But some people are just dense, and you need to be more clear.

The only time I would really care if some calls me anything in an abusive way. Even someone calling me "she" in the wrong way. And those people get my divine wrath. I had one guy that did that, and I chased him around the work floor pretending I wanted to hug him. He learned his lesson.

I hate 'him' and 'he'. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. I either think I'm not as passable as I want or, if it is someone I know a long time, maybe that is how they truly see me. I noticed guys are more likely to hang onto the male pronouns almost as if it reflects badly on them to call me 'she' or 'her.' If it weren't for my job requirements, I would be in dresses or skirts mostly so it is less likely to hear that crud. Guess I don't have that inner strength part down yet.
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