Why do we always go for the things we cannot have, loving the ones, or forming connections that are just going to hurt us.

I don't mean to sound emo or anything, I just have my moments, but its just a trend in my life.  I fall for someone I cannot have, or someone who can never feel the same way back.  Or its over a distance I cannot cross, or I dont feel that my body is correct and thus cant really form a relationship.

I've just noticed that I always form relationships with people who later just end up not wanting to be with me, and then it just hurts me inside.  Why do I always do this to myself though, I can usually tell ahead of time that its going to hurt me inside, but I end up doing it anyway.  Each time it happens I'm left in tears, and there is nothing I can really do about it until I fix this body and find someone for me.

I know how you feel, except I approach long distance relationships as valid relationships.  But I still get hurt...  We keep going though.  There has to be someone out there.

i think they are valid relationships though, and thats why it hurts so bad

We all form patterns, Rachel. It's the way our minds, and maybe hearts, work. Follow the same rabbit trails until they are worn into our lives and we follow them without even realizing it.

I wonder sometimes if just discovering that I can be with myself without any additives isn't maybe the way to go. That would, I think, allow me to make friendships without a lot of expectation or add-ons.

I did that once a few years ago. Surprise of surprises. My other fell in love with me. And when I realized that, I realized I was in-love with her as well. Now she's my life-partner and I hers.

Life can be odd. I stop looking and what I was looking for comes to me. It doesn't always work out that way, I spoz. But this time it did.

Nichole

I'm glad to hear of your good fortune nichole, and i wish you and your partner good fortune.

I just need to get out of this financial and emotional slump, and get my life moving.  I cannot fine a girl to love me for who I am until I can make my body match my brain, and its why i was such a social outcast in High School.  I need to fix my body, and become the woman I am full time, and lose these filthy things from my body that make situations like this happen.

I tend to regard circumstances where you 'awaken' a love in your heart to someone you've known awhile as some of the best situations to be in.  Letting people come to you is definitely the way to build a long lasting relationship in my opinion.  However, there are still troubles from every corner, so...  We do our best.

Love? I no longer believe in such a concept. People die, they go away, they're gone. What's the point?

Quote from: Nero on March 05, 2008, 01:47:20 AM
Love? I no longer believe in such a concept. People die, they go away, they're gone. What's the point?

People are born.  They come into your life through various ways.  They are here.

Life is a continual cycle.  Love should be the same.

Don't fall for the Hollywood/media view of love.  It tends to be over-idealized in order to support the storyline and sell the product.

Instead, think of love as being a spectrum.

Good advice, Rowan.

N~

Love to me is not something taken from another.  It is something given from ones self/ heart to another.  Either in part or completely.  Sometimes those we love in turn love us back,  Othertimes not, such is the human way.

What I strive for is to love another completely and perhaps that person in turn will love me completely too.  But that is not always possible.   We can not make another love us, but only love them for who they are.

I am blessed to love two people who both in turn love me back.  Life and love are amaizing things sometimes.

Beni

Ah, touchy subject. Overrated.

Love? No such thing.
Addiction, yes. Affection.
Obsession. Admiration.

Like all the world, one day it will be Gone.
Where? To where it came from.
Most of the things between you and that One person- wishes, dreams, coincidents.

At the beginning there is: Give me more, give me more- so you fantasize of what could be and end up with your hopes in pieces. That's not love. That's disappointment.

And those who stay together until they're old, habbit, you don't wanna be alone when you're about to die, do you, 'cause you don't know what will happen afterwards and you're scared.