Hi, I'm Charly from Germany! A few weeks ago I finallly came to terms with being Trans (FtM). Well, what can I say. It feels both good and bad to finally know the root of all my struggle. Bad because, who would want be trans, but good that I finally know what was going on with me my whole life. I haven't taken any steps towards transitioning, 'cause I feel I need to talk a lot about it at first, and then solve some other things in my life to have to required strength to transition. But at leat it gives me push for solving these other stuff. You can also ask me anything you like.

Hi Charly 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan's!  I'm Jessica, officially greeting you.  Jump into a conversation here.  I'm sure you'll find some answers.  I see your new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site. 

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Thanks alot! 

You have taken the first step Charly!  I was like you in the beginning.  I wasn't sure what was going on.  After reflection I started to understand.  Coming to Susan's was a big step in my becoming comfortable.  I hope you join in on some discussions that seem pertinent to you.  Giving your experiences will help yourself and all of us.

Smiles, Jessica 💁‍♀️

Hi Charly 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Thanks, thanks, thanks! This whole thing is just scary! Socially, I'm on the lucky side, as the most important people in my life are pro LGBTQ+ and otherwise, years of bullying made me very reckless of what not so important people think of me. I'm more scared about all the medical aspects, especially 'cause I know I would eventually need to go to the fullest (buttom surgery, that is). But I just came out recently, maybe I should just lean back and take some time anyway.

Hi Charly!

Quote from: JumpingPancakeFrog on January 18, 2018, 01:33:13 PM
Thanks, thanks, thanks! This whole thing is just scary! Socially, I'm on the lucky side, as the most important people in my life are pro LGBTQ+ and otherwise, years of bullying made me very reckless of what not so important people think of me. I'm more scared about all the medical aspects, especially 'cause I know I would eventually need to go to the fullest (buttom surgery, that is). But I just came out recently, maybe I should just lean back and take some time anyway.

It is scary, I was sure I needed this and the medical aspects concerned me.  After a bit of research, I found it wasn't as dangerous as it was in the past and that hormones made me feel better.  The fear has subsided and the family feeling here at Susan's is great support.  I too have support from those around me and it's huge to have that.
Yes, take your time with it all.  It's not a quick process.  Ask questions that come up and I'm certain someone most likely has an opinion or fact.

Hugs, Jess

I'm most concerned about phalloplasty, 'cause I know for sure that once I'd start transitioning, I would eventually need that for my own sanity. I talked with some transguys here in Germany who got it done, and it's like 50% are super happy, and 50% having a total catastrophe in their pants, which kinda makes me feel like this surgery is playing russian rolette. I really hope that the increased visibilty will lead to more research and better methods for all those surgeries!

Hello Charly,

I'm not a good source of information on phalloplasty (I am MtF) but a decision I'm very glad I made was... don't feel pressure to decide everything at once.  At my first endocrinologist meeting, my endo asked if I was planning to get GCS/SRS.  I told her I didn't know, I'd make that decision after seeing how HRT affected me.  That's the same answer I gave at my first therapist meeting.  I was already pretty sure, but wanted to see how I felt after physical and mental changes from HRT.  There are so many details with transition, many of which I hadn't considered earlier.  Turns out some details I didn't think mattered much had a great positive impact on how I feel about myself. 

All the best wishes - I am so glad you're here!

Kendra

Hi Charly,

  I'm Laurie and want to say welcome to Susan's Place too. I am MtF and 65 years old. I cross dressed most of my life and believe that was what I was. But a little more than a year ago I discovered I was actually trans gender. I knew immediately I needed to transition and so I began HRT. Like Kendra I told my GP and my therapist that I didn't know whether GCS was in my future or not and still do not know if I'll get it. All I really know is I am on my journey and as usual I don't know just where it may lead me.
  Charley this is a journey or a marathon if you wish. There is no hurry and you proceed at your own pace. It take time to be able to see your goal and it will take a lot of work to get there. It helps to have somewhere  you can share your thoughts and feelings with people who have been there and who understand like cis people can't. Know that you are wanted and needed here. The door is open so come on in.

Hugs,
   Laurie

Hi Charly, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm 29, have been for the last 27 years and counting.    I was stationed in Germany in the 1980's at Zweibrucken and Kaiserslautern. Have you been to the US?

Hugs, Devlyn