I would have already had SRS 12 years ago if not for being 6ft 4in.  I had quite a few friends in the tg community back then who tried to encourage me when I reached out in 2004.  Having Klinefelters cursed me with being too tall and having a micropenis as well as gynecomastia of about a B cup, so felt I couldn't  be a man or a woman and as such I'm now in my 40s and never been in an intimate relationship and still a virgin, severely introverted, shy and withdrawn. I spent 8 years in my 30s living alone and being Jessica at home while self medicating with hormones and  trying work up the courage to progress further with encouragement from tg friends I made online through Gender Society.  This was back between 2004 - 2010.  I never did.

No route I take seems like it will lead to a positive outcome.  Not as a "man" with a micropenis nor having SRS and attempting to be accepted  as a girl at 6ft 4in.  Living in the redneck south surrounded by redneck relatives doesnt help much either.  Seems like I'm doomed to be alone and rejected by society. I hate my body.  I wish I was just born a girl.  Maybe it's my way of thinking that's self destructive, but all the years of being ridiculed  for my appearance has defeated me and left me with no confidence or self esteem and basically hating myself.

After giving up transitioning several years ago and having gynecomastia surgery, I basically have been on both paths, MtoF and FtoM.  Jessica is who I truly am.  I feel like I'm being forced to be something I'm not because I'm too tall and it's just so painful to continue existing like this.

I had purged most of Jessica's wardrobe and pictures several years ago and now wish I hadnt. I wish I didn't have the gynecomastia surgery either. Feel like I'm stuck in limbo.

I did find a few pics from around 2005 on an old laptop that escaped my purge. This was when i first started.  I may have been able to make more progress if I had been more brave.  But still, being too tall ruins everything.  I'm in my 40s now and still not sure what to do.  I guess I should see a therapist but I always felt I would be thought of as ridiculous due to my height and other not so girly features like big feet 

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Hi Jessica 🙋‍♀️  I think even though you had gynecomastia surgery, you can still transition to be a very beautiful woman.  Your features are quite feminine, and my wife's feet and mine are the same size.  So what "is" feminine is something we all need to view through others eyes to get a true grasp on reality.

Jessica Marie

Quote from: jessica_rosalia on January 26, 2018, 12:53:13 PM
No route I take seems like it will lead to a positive outcome.

Jessica, sweetie, you probably won't hear what I'm going to say, but I've got to say it.

Being a woman isn't about passing; it's not about what others think of you, but about what you think of yourself. Being a trans woman is about being authentic, about being true to yourself. It doesn't matter what you look like; it really doesn't. What matters is being real.

First, you look darling. Seriously, you look terribly sweet.

Second, let me tell you about a cis woman I met in college. Her name was Mary -- amazing, I remember that, from what must be more than 40 years ago -- and she was one of the most physically unappealing women I've ever seen. She had no figure, no face, and her complexion was bizarrely yellow. I kid you not. I met her brother; he had a similar situation, so it had to be genetic. Anyway, to look at her was to know that the angels wept for this woman.

I lost track of her, then ran into her again a few years later. This mousy freshman had grown. She looked just the same as she had when I met her two years before; but, somehow, during that time, she had matured. She had to know what she looked like; she's probably dealt with it since puberty. But instead of letting it destroy her, she had found the way to accept the hand she's been dealt and go on. She had become dynamic, assertive, confident ... and here's the real shock: it made her *attractive.* I was stunned when I realized this. Just stunned. This woman was the definition of "ugly as a mud fence," yet the *person* she was, was greater than her physical detriments.

I'm not lying to you when I tell you that you are prettier than she was. But, in the end, it's not your physical appearance that will win hearts (and break them), but who you are.

Don't be discouraged by what you see when you look in the mirror. It's not about wearing a feminine mask. It's about expressing the girl within. That girl is real. Let her out. That's all any of us can do.

Incidently, I don't pass.

Quote from: Jessica on January 26, 2018, 01:04:57 PM
Hi Jessica [emoji137]‍♀️  I think even though you had gynecomastia surgery, you can still transition to be a very beautiful woman.  Your features are quite feminine, and my wife's feet and mine are the same size.  So what "is" feminine is something we all need to view through others eyes to get a true grasp on reality.

Jessica Marie

Hi Jessica

I did try to reply to your PM earlier, but since I'm a newbie I don't have access to send PMs



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Don't be discouraged. I'm almost 6 foot 2 and 43. While I probably won't make it to 'beautiful' in the classical sense thats not what its about. Its about being the person you know you are. There are all sorts of people in this world, but I think the ones who don't put on a mask due to the fear of others perceptions are the happiest. We only get one shot at life so why not make the most of it?

Quote from: jessica_rosalia on January 26, 2018, 01:09:05 PM
Hi Jessica

I did try to reply to your PM earlier, but since I'm a newbie I don't have access to send PMs



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I was thinking about you and hoped you were doing better.  Trying to show you we do care.
Soon enough you won't be a newbie and be part of many conversations that brings you closer to feeling like family.  I believe the magic number is 15.

Hugs, Jessica Marie

I am 6'2" but height is just a number. Yes when you are tall, it draws a little more attention but if you are comfortable with yourself, others just take a quick glance then go about their business. In your pictures you appear feminine and are probably more attractive than I am. This site can provide you with any information you need but the rest will be up to you. You need to take that first step out the door and we can't do that for you. After you are out the door you will quickly discover the fear fades quickly and you are comfortable living life as yourself.

The question for you is are you now willing to take those first few difficult steps?

Hun have your sex change if you are female dont think about how tall you are have your sex change done and find a man who loves you. I also am six foot four inchs tall my breast are larger than AA cup before starting hormones i plain to do every thing i can to transform my body as fast as i can.From ordering a hormone cream for my breast and nipple to help enlarge them faster first i plain to put hot tole on my breast and nipple to open up the pore so the hormone cream works faster and a good breast pump and nipple pump. I see they also have other creams for other parts of the body go for it i was fired be cause i dressed like a women next interview i go on i am going to dress the way i like be proud of your self i also plain to find a man . Alison

I was 6'3", it put me off but I went for it. I didn't look anywhere near as good as you. Go for it, Amazons rock!

Don't worry, when you're old, you may even dip below 6 foot.

I'm 6'2" and wear heals most everyday. I was 53 when I started and I get along fine. Confidence is what is necessary. Embrace yourself and be confident in who you are and you should be fine.

Quote from: amandam on January 27, 2018, 01:00:55 AM
Don't worry, when you're old, you may even dip below 6 foot.

Well it seems that I did shrink some.  It's been several years since I last measured myself and I'm closer to 6ft 3in now

Still, I rarely run across guys taller than me when out in public. A few times a month maybe.  I've never seen a girl as tall as me. Its just upsetting because Jessica is who I am but I just don't have the confidence or self esteem to try.   It really takes courage and a high level of confidence and not giving a F what anybody thinks to pull it off and I totally respect those who can do it.  I guess I'm just weak. I never had confidence or any self esteem and I spent my life hating myself and my body after years of ridicule

I looked better 13 years ago when I first tried transitioning than I do today.  It would have been better if i were to do it, to have followed through back then when I was younger.  I still had my B cup boobs back then, now those are gone after the gynecomastia surgery

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Well i am 45 6,2 and wide shoulder i think about the same thing, but  oneday me and my wife was at subway and a cis woman was in front of us. My wife had to male a commit she bigger then you and taller. Well she was at least 6.7 and wider across then me, but skinner lol. What i am saying people of all sex are all different sizes, be yourself do what makes you happy

Dear Jessica:

You are young and beautiful.  If Jessica is who you are, then be the best Jessica you can be.  I'm 5'7" and I can pass if I can draw attention away from my huge hands and feet, but as a well known attorney in Los Angeles, I am in the same boat as Caitlyn Jenner:  No matter how feminine I look, I can never truly pass because too many people in my world know who I am.

But beginning transition two years ago after a dozen years of massive, debilitating panic attacks, it was never about passing.  It was about living openly as myself, and about not having to be that guy any more.  Because being that guy was slowly killing me.

We don't do this for other people, because we've spent our whole lives living for other people.  We don't worry about who we should be.  The time for that has passed.  We live for ourselves, as ourselves.

You can't attract anyone into an honest relationship if you are not living as yourself.  Instead of deciding who to live as in terms of who you can attract, be yourself first.  Then you will attract someone who will love you for who you are.

And one last thing.  This is not my first time around the block, either.  This is actually my fourth attempt at transitioning.

Quote from: CarlyMcx on January 29, 2018, 08:34:14 PM
Dear Jessica:

You are young and beautiful.  If Jessica is who you are, then be the best Jessica you can be.  I'm 5'7" and I can pass if I can draw attention away from my huge hands and feet, but as a well known attorney in Los Angeles, I am in the same boat as Caitlyn Jenner:  No matter how feminine I look, I can never truly pass because too many people in my world know who I am.

But beginning transition two years ago after a dozen years of massive, debilitating panic attacks, it was never about passing.  It was about living openly as myself, and about not having to be that guy any more.  Because being that guy was slowly killing me.

We don't do this for other people, because we've spent our whole lives living for other people.  We don't worry about who we should be.  The time for that has passed.  We live for ourselves, as ourselves.

You can't attract anyone into an honest relationship if you are not living as yourself.  Instead of deciding who to live as in terms of who you can attract, be yourself first.  Then you will attract someone who will love you for who you are.

And one last thing.  This is not my first time around the block, either.  This is actually my fourth attempt at transitioning.

Couldn't have said it better Carly. I'm just about to start this journey myself (tomorrow actually) and while I'm so excited to explore this I'm also horrified that passing isn't something that will happen for me either. You can't change the past and ruminating about it will truly destroy you, easier said than done I know. But if you truly believe Jessica is the truest form of yourself then go for it girl, life is short and even if times are tough you will be so happy that you did 

What AnneMarie said.

I'm 6'3".  I make all the adjustments that tall women usually do, but every once in awhile, so as to remind myself, I put on the boots which put me near 6'6" and just rock the hell out of them.

Do what is in your best interests.  Letting the opinions of others (and fairly, you do not even know them yet) chart your course is not in your best interests.

Check out this roster for the sparks. Are any of them less of a women because of their height?? And if you look at a team picture they look like nothing but 100 % women. This is something a friend sent me when I was stressing over my height


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